Can’t Buy Me Love

from Wayne & Tamara
Can’t Buy Me Love
  I am 26. A year and a half ago I got into an arranged marriage.
I got to know my husband through a family friend. I started to Skype with him on the initial days before my engagement, as he was in Germany. After a couple of days of chatting, my parents and his parents decided to set the engagement date in one month.
I was very much unsure about this. I strongly believed courtship was important before marriage, and I felt this was too soon. A day before my engagement, I met my husband in person. He looked a little nerdy and very robotic. I am not a person who goes after looks, but of course in an arranged marriage the first impression matters most. When I got home, I felt lost. I was scared and didn’t want my family to feel let down, so I went with the flow. The engagement took place the next day, and the wedding date was set in three months. I asked to set the marriage later, but no one from my husband’s side agreed. Here comes my wedding day. With a heavy heart I get married. That night I told my husband let’s not have sex. I am not sure why, but I wasn’t physically attracted towards him.
We honeymooned in Australia. It was an awkward two weeks. I didn’t hold his hand. I didn’t have sex with him. I could not physically connect with him without love, and I tortured myself and my husband at the same time. He left to go back to Germany, and I went back to my home country. Getting my visa to come through was a major issue. I stopped calling my husband. Over a text message he asked me if everything was okay. That’s when I burst and told him I don’t like this marriage and don’t want to come live with you. He replied that he is an optimistic person and things are going to go well, which only made me angrier at him. A year passed, I have my visa, I am in Germany. It’s been a month with my husband and his parents. We barely talk to each other. I feel violent and aggressive towards him. I am not sure why. I hate myself for being that way. In return he has not done anything bad to me. I told him many times I want to go back home. Everyone asks the same one question, which I am unable to answer. What made you dislike him to the extent of hating him?
Lea
Lea, there doesn’t have to be a reason why we love or don’t love. You don’t love him There is nothing anyone can do to make him into someone you will love. Your husband sounds like a perfectly decent human being. Give him credit for not being violent or forcing you—things which occur in some arranged marriage letters we receive. Your anger isn’t at him. It is at yourself for going along with this arranged marriage and trying to save face for your family. You are kicking yourself for not standing up for what you felt is right. That’s where the anger and venom come from. That’s the lesson here.
When we make a mistake, the only thing to do is acknowledge it. That’s painful, especially in serious matters. But when we recognize our mistake and go through the pain, we learn a lesson we will never forget. You now know you must act from within yourself and what you know of yourself, not from what anyone else wants. The more you take this on yourself, the more his family will accept it. You fell for a myth, a fable that is part of your cultural tradition. That’s all. Now move on.
Wayne & Tamara
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Ovarian Cancer, the One That Whispers

Ovarian Cancer, the One That Whispers 

          What couldn’t I believe? Discovering that it’s been 42 years since I last wrote about ovarian cancer! During my time as a surgeon, what was my primary concern about this malignancy? And what has happened in the last four decades to bring hope to those diagnosed with this disease?

          Ovarian cancer is the third most common malignancy of the female pelvic organs, after uterine and cervical cancer. But it is also the most fatal pelvic malignancy.

          The risk of ovarian cancer increases with age. It’s also more likely to occur if close relatives have developed the disease. Also at risk are childless women and those who have had breast cancer. Vulnerable too, are those with early onset of menstruation, or a late menopause. And some women inherit genetic mutations that place them at increased risk.

          Epidemiological studies also show that the incidence of ovarian cancer varies from one ethnic group to another. Japanese women are less likely to develop ovarian cancer. Conversely, the rate is high in Swedish women. In North America there’s another interesting discrepancy. The disease is higher in whites than non-whites. And, in Africa, white women have double the rate of ovarian cancer than black women.

          So what did I worry about as a gynecological surgeon? It wasn’t the possibility of making a technical error during surgery. It was missing the diagnosis.

          Ovarian malignancy has been called the silent disease, or the disease that whispers, for good reason. For instance, women with this cancer often complain of constipation, increased urination, mild digestive symptoms, loss of appetite, weight loss, and abdominal bloating. The problem is that many other women, who do not suffer from this disease, have the same vague symptoms.

          Another problem is female anatomy. The ovaries hang from the fallopian tubes like pillows on a clothes line. This means that loops of bowel are easily pushed aside while the tumour continues to grow, which can result in a large ovarian mass before pain occurs.

          What about tests? The Pap smear is quite accurate in detecting cervical cancer cells, but rarely picks up those from the ovary. Another test, called the CA 125 is more reliable, but again there are diagnostic problems. Women with ovarian malignancy often have elevated levels of CA125. But others never show an abnormality. To add to diagnostic difficulties, patients with benign tumours, such as fibroids, pelvic infection, and endometriosis, may show increased level of CA125. So, false reports can lead to other tests that cause further complications.

          Even the annual pelvic examination which should always be done, but isn’t, presents potential trouble. Ovaries are the size of a walnut and difficult to feel if patients are obese, or if they haven’t urinated before examination, or if the bowel is loaded with fecal material. In these cases the doctor may decide that an ultrasound may be useful in evaluating ovaries. But it may still not reveal early malignancy.

          So what has happened in the last 42 years? And why has it been so long for me to write again about ovarian cancer? The simple answer is that there hasn’t been any good news to write about in all these years. We have all seen huge advances in many aspects of medicine and surgery during this time. But for ovarian cancer, too many obstacles remain for researchers.

          Standard treatment following diagnosis has been surgical removal of both ovaries and uterus, followed by either chemotherapy, radiation or a combination of both therapies. But unfortunately, the recurrence rate continues to remain high.

          So, after 42 years what is the good news? During my last visit to the Harvard Medical School, I learned how researchers had finally cured cancer in rats by immunological therapy. What does this mean for humans?

          Similar research at the University of Toronto reveals that several immunological studies are being done that promise new hope for women diagnosed with ovarian cancer. The immune system is a powerful weapon in fighting infection. The next step is to utilize its full potential to eliminate one of the great killers. I believe it will not be another 42 years before this happens.

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‘SEE YOU IN COURT’

‘SEE YOU IN COURT’
    I do not understand it.   I put my name in the race for Mayor of Oshawa out of duty and service.  I do not need the job as I have one.  As the editor and publisher of our community newspaper.  I have heard from many of you about  the things that need improvement  in Oshawa.   From taxation to public safety and every thing in between.  I am not a politician. I am a hard working business person.  Someone that values a hard earned dollar and knows first hand what 12 - 14 hours work days are all about. 
I share with you the hardships and economic restrictions that keep us showing up at the work place day in and day out.
For the past 20 years I have seen our city on the decline.  We live on one of the most beautiful cities in Ontario.  A city that has great potential.  Yet, we are southern Ontario’s best kept secret.   We have lost are way.  We have been governed by administrator and not visionaries and or business people.
In today’s multi million dollars corporate municipal environments.  Holding the line just does not do it.   We need to engage in change.  We need to truly care about our people.   Not like my  fellow candidate Dan Carter and attack just  because someone does not agree with you or has a different opinion.   As you read by now.  After the most recent debate.  Carter publicly attacked me after I approach him to kind of condole him for in my opinion the barrage of attacks he was taking from fellow candidates. 
Carter turns to me and says to me ‘SEE YOU IN COURT’.   I was a little surprised.  Why would he take me to court?  If I had done something to offend him one would have thought he would have wanted to set up a meeting discuss it.   NO. He attacked me.  I can understand he was flustered as he was constantly being thrown off his game.  Still that does not given him the excuse to attack.   Is this how he will respond once he is mayor?   Is this a good quality to have as a community leader?
Personally if someone has done something against me.  The last thing I would consider is a legal challenge.   A smart business person knows. You get more out of negotiation then you do out of litigation.   Case in point.  City of Oshawa vs Durham Region.   Instead of prolonging it and negotiate a settlement with the Region.   Mayor Henry in an attempt to gain points with the Region.   Settles weeks before he announces his candidacy for Regional Chair.
Now we the people are stuck with 9 million dollars and about 1.5 million in lawyers fees.
Is this good governance?  
No wonder we have sat dormant for 20 years.  Our elected officials appear to be out for themselves and utilizing our resources to up their careers.
Look at Carter and his action.  Instead of negotiating and discussing indifference.  He threatens to run to his lawyer... Like really.   Is he not aware that by filling a claim against one. It is the quickest way to have a counter claim filed against you.  
Are legal challenges the way to settle indifference?
I put my name to do good for this city.  I put my name not to go after people.  I put my name to help build our downtown not threaten their pocket books with frivolous law suits.
I am a grown man.  I only become offended by something if it is true.  If there is no truth to the allegation.  I walk away and do not become concerned with hearsay and ignorance.
Carter if you feel so damaged and hurt... meet with me and at the least let me know why.
I feel I been victimized and  as a victim it is hard to understand the aggressor if you do not understand what you have done wrong.
I think if anything Carter’s actions are abusive.   Abusive from the point of view that he attempted to intimidate as he is a city councillor.   Intimidate as he has the independent wealth to file a claim for unknown reasons against me.  Or is Carter going to free load and use city legal department to draft his paper work and make us the taxpayers file on his behalf?
I sometimes get penalized for asking key questions.  Questions that many don’t want asked.
As a responsible member of our community it is my duty to find the truths that are  hidden from us.
Much like why do we pay such high hydro bills?  The rates are low but the surcharges kills us. Why do grandfathered properties pay such high property taxes.  Should we not be rewarding home owners that have been part of our community for over 30 years.   Should we not do more to address the ever ending problem of addiction, homelessness and those in need?
Should we not be more worried about the creation of jobs for our graduating students from High School, College and University?
Should we not be putting our minds to finding way to attract major developers and opportunity to Oshawa?
NO INSTEAD IT APPEARS THAT CARTER IS MORE CONCERN OVER ATTACKING
CITIZENS WITH THREATS OF LAW SUITS.
Is this the kind of leadership we need?  We want?  Or we need?
On October 22nd we are all going to be faced with some serious choices.   Do we vote the status quo in and expect 3 - 7% property tax increases to offset bad decisions like the THREATENING OF LAW SUITS.   Or even worst. Wasteful expenditures as Mr. Carter and his council are guilty of doing?
My Oshawa is not about going after people but about bringing people together.  Bringing opportunity by utilizing our resources to attack developers, investors and most importantly industry and trade.
We have a lake front/air port/downtown/ that will never be developed under the current status quo.  Investors will not come and have to deal with the red tape.  With council made up of under qualified individuals in the field of investment and or economic development.  Individuals that are easily influenced by public opinion and rely on consultants.   Council members like Carter that when confused and cornered run for legal council instead of resolve.
WE NEED VISIONARIES AND TRUE COMMUNITY LEADERS.  Leaders with a back bone to stand against the winds of adversity and the perseverance to over come adversity at all costs.
Community leaders with a proven success in business and service.
I have served our community for over 20 years as your community newspaper editor and publisher.  I have served in just about every service group in our community.  I have initiated the downtown INGINO initiative in order to stimulate growth, traffic and interest in our core.
I know Oshawa.  I have a proven record of leadership with a no nonsense approach that yields optimal results.
We are at the even of further change.  From the marijuana legislaltion to affordable housing.  We need to address the never ending population growth in our region.  We must invest in preparing with a solid plan of action.  A plan of action that will include proper execution of stages in order to achieve the bigger goal.
A goal that will transform us from being dependent on GM. To finally be able to once again stand tall in trade, industry and commerce.  
A Plan that will takes us from the  1920’s we are today to the global stage.  A transformation like never before.  Opportunity like never seen before.  Now is the time to act.  There is nothing in it for me but the knowledge that I be in part responsible for making history in the transformation of this great city in to a global beacon for future generations to follow. 
Please be part of Oshawa future on October 22, 2018
THANK YOU
Joe Ingino
With your help we can make it happen.
Vote Ingino for mayor in 2018

“AWAKENING OSHAWA’S GREAT POTENTIAL”

Logic
By Joe Ingino
Editor/Publisher

“I live a dream in a nightmare world”
  
“AWAKENING OSHAWA’S
GREAT POTENTIAL”
    Oshawa is a City with great potential.  Oshawa the crown jewel of Durham has always been the envy of neighboring municipalities for decades. A giant among smaller neighboring municipalities.  A giant that has sat dormant for to long.  A giant that need and will be awaken into a giant of opportunity for all.  
GM made Oshawa great.  It created opportunity and jobs.  Unfortunately, GM is not what it was.   Corporate Canada has changed due to technology.  As technology has forced us to enter and operate in a global theatre.     An environment that is mandated by the bottom line.  Corporate pride has been compromised.  The integrity of workmanship has shifted and today robotics replace good old fashion engineering.    Line work has become a commodity that can be shifted and moved around. 
This shift, has unfortunately cause Oshawa jobs and economic stature.   Today’s Oshawa is hurting.  We are a small town mentality running a what should be a world class city.   Our Oshawa has the potential but not the drive and or intellect to drive it out of it’s economy quick sand.
Our City Staff include some great minds and intellect within their professional disciplines.  Unfortunately due to poor leadership or lack of leadership.   City staff must rely on policy as a guideline to hold the corporate line.   For this reason nothing gets done... and it from red tape to committee back to council only to be referred back to staff.
We have a city council that lacks vision and direction.   We have council members that have no world experience in the fields of investment, development, finance, industry, trade and commerce.  Then how is it that we as taxpayers expect them to bring world class opportunities to our doors?
One of my first meetings will be with city staff.   To assure them that they shall not fear job loss for taking chances and making positive decisions.   To contribute to the process without fear.
I as the new Mayor will be the CEO of the corporation and will take personal responsibility for any of the City employees decision.  I entrust that they have the expertise and knowledge to expedite and cut red tape.  Together we will bring the city back to the people.
No more freedom of information requests for simple and easy to access information.  This has been the complaint of many.   We need to open the books, open the doors and return city hall to tax payers.
From the days of Nancy Diamond.  Diamond a top notch administrator with vast knowledge of staff and political infrastructure.   She was not a visionary or true community leader as her biggest job was to hold the political and social line.   Her approach towards the community is ‘make no ripples in the water’ and the people will love you.   Diamond was a political dynamo in that she manipulated her environment like no other.   When John Gray defeated her, people thought there would be change. Unfortunately, Gray was no leader.  He was another Diamond in the rough.   A person that sat through council with little or no affect in changing Oshawa.  The Nicholson/Gray team had reached it’s peak.  Gray, plagued by controversy.  From the camaro purchase to the building of the GM Center using OPUC money.   He had to go.  Then the people of Oshawa made the same mistake and swapped another ‘status quo’ member (council).   John Henry.  A city councillor and moved him up to Mayor.   The same disastrous outcome.  HAVE WE NOT LEARNED.  We can’t be pulling the same tools from the same tool box when it has shown time and time again that these tools are not getting the job done.
Now in 2018, we have Carter.   One of the biggest tools we ever elected to office attempting to move up in pay.   This is all it is.   I say this with such conviction because... what has he done for the people of Oshawa in his four years?   Look at downtown.  Look at the only store front he is able to secure a campaign sign.   AN EMPTY FOR LEASE UNIT.    Really this is leadership?  This is what Oshawa needs?
In a public appearance Dan Carter made it public how he recollected his first week as a councillor.  How lost he was.  How he turned to Nancy Diamond and confided in her that, and this is in his own words, “NANCY I  THINK I MADE A MISTAKE AND DON’T THINK I AM CUT OUT FOR THIS TYPE OF WORK”.   According to Carter.  Nancy turned to him and said, “I want you to go home kiss your wife on the cheek.  Come back tomorrow and tackle this with intent”.  What this meant was Nancy just gave birth to another of her rookie council ‘YES MEN’.      Even though Henry was mayor.  Nancy Diamond and Nester Pidwerbecki ran the show.
The question now is he fit to be Oshawa next mayor?  According to his own admission he also suffers from a learning disability.  Is he able to go through all the material that is required in order to run a city?
Some have speculated that this in part is why Henry endorsed his buddy in crime Dan Carter.
Henry weeks before his announcement to run for Regional Chair, settled a 10 million dollar pending law suit with the Region.  This was quickly expedited.   Could it be that Henry wanted to look good before the Region.  Could it be that once again Henry sold out Oshawa tax payers for his own personal gain?  The people of Oshawa are now on the hook for 10 million and 1.4 million of legal fees to the Region.  THANK YOU HENRY.
Could this be why Henry endorsed Carter...  Thinking he would use Carter name and voter following to win the region and in turn knowing that Carter was not mentally able to run the city to run the city from the region?
Interesting speculation.   The bigger questions is.. are the people of Oshawa that stupid to fall for it again.   To draw a tool from the same tool box to rebuild our City.  When it has proven time and time again that we need a new tool box.   A new vision and leadership.
Under and INGINO administration.   Red tape will be gone.  Access to information and procedure will be the new Oshawa.  Open door policy to my office and council will be job one.
My goal and primary function will not be to run the administration, as we have staff to do that. My goal and primary function will be to open the doors of prosperity and opportunity.   To search find and bring to Oshawa partnerships from all levels of government, industry, trade and commerce.   I will entrust all staff when given an task that they will executed quick and to the best of their knowledge.
No more waste, No more consultants.  No more us against them.  We will act as one corporate body on one corporate mission.  Save taxpayers money.  Stabilize taxation.  Make what is good about Oshawa better and what is better world class.
We will not cut corners when it comes to safety, security and assurance that all citizens are guaranteed the basic living needs.   We must assure that everyone has access to services and systems that are essential to quality of life.
We will open our ears to ideas in the community that have in the past been shun and or silenced.   
The time for change is now.  The time for opportunity has never been better.   Think of your children, grand children.  Do they not deserve opportunity, security and good paying jobs.
In 2018 you can vote Carter and endure tax increases, the usual statistical dribble and a fake smile.  Or you can vote for real change and a new Oshawa. It is up to you.
In 2018 vote INGINO.
THANK YOU
Joe Ingino
With your help we can make it happen.
Vote Ingino for mayor in 2018
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Natural Remedies and Illogical Attacks

Natural Remedies and Illogical Attacks
          Break a law and you end up in jail. “Ignorance of the law is no excuse” it’s said. So should ignorance of medical facts excuse anyone? Time and time again so-called medical experts publish illogical reports without repercussion. Recently, a physician stated publicly, “There is no case for vitamin supplementation in normal, healthy, non-pregnant adults who are receiving the recommended daily intake of nutrients”. But is this medical fact or fiction?

          Bill Sardi, a commentator on health issues, takes issue with this statement in the well-respected publication, Orthomolecular News Service.

          The doctor offered so-called proof of his statement that serious toxicity occurred in Arctic explorers who consumed the liver of bears, which is rich in Vitamin A. This caused increased pressure in their brain, vomiting, double vision, and convulsions.

          But Sardi explains that bear’s liver contains millions of international units (IU) of vitamin A. So obviously humans should not eat bear’s liver. The Council for Responsible Nutrition adds it would take 25,000 to 50,000 IU of vitamin A supplement daily for several months to cause liver problems. So why worry patients when taking the normal dose of 5,000 to 10,000 IU daily has a long history of safety?

          The same doctor wrote that vitamin D is not needed, unless there is clinical   indication for it. This, in spite of the fact that an Institute of Medicine report indicates that 25 percent of North Americans are at risk of vitamin D deficiency.

          Office workers get limited sun exposure. And a study showed that children only receive 7 hours of sunshine a week. Moreover, during winter months, due to the angle of the sun’s rays, it provides zero amount of vitamin D, even if people were to stand out naked in the noon day sun.

          What borders on insanity is another statement that the daily amount of vitamin C should not exceed 45 milligrams daily. I wonder where this critic has been hiding for so many years. We know as proven fact that, eons ago, a human gene mutation stopped the human production of vitamin C. Animals, with the exception of the guinea pig, were fortunate and escaped this mutation. Dogs, for instance, manufacture 5,000 mg of C daily. But should a dog develop an infection, or be injured, it will manufacture up to 100,000 mg daily!

          I find it amazing that this critic has not heard that several hundred thousand milligrams of intravenous vitamin C saved the life of a New Zealand farmer dying of Swine Flu virus. Moreover, it is well documented that Dr Frederick Klenner, a U.S. family doctor, saved 60 polio patients from developing paralysis during the 1948 epidemic of this disease by prescribing intravenous C.

          Today, in spite of these historical facts, it’s appalling that many physicians still do not know that polio, meningitis, encephalitis, other viral diseases, and even the bite of a rattlesnake, can be cured by large intravenous doses of vitamin C.

          What I am writing about is not science fiction. It’s a fact that a pill containing 500 mg of C is not going to protect you if faced with devastating infection, severe emotional stress, or major surgery. These problems immediately decrease the reservoir of vitamin C in the blood. In these situations 10,000 to 20,000 mg of oral C daily are required to restore blood levels. And since C is water soluble, and lost in the urine, this amount should be taken in three divided doses.

          Sardi’s article points out that 100 million diabetics in North America have a greater need for vitamin C. So do 50 million Aspirin users and millions that still smoke, abuse alcohol, or take drugs, such as diuretics that deplete blood levels of vitamin C.           

          Sardi adds that hospitalized and nursing home patients all require additional vitamin C. And an often neglected point, so do growing children. Sardi concludes that out of a U.S. population of 325 million, 200 million have inadequate amounts of vitamin C and must rely on vitamin supplements. Medi-C Plus and other forms of high-powered C can be obtained at Health Food Stores.

          Ignorance of medical facts, even by physicians, continues to be a stubborn enemy of truthful therapy. These facts must be repeated until everyone listens.     

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IBS (Irritable Bowel Syndrome)

IBS (Irritable Bowel Syndrome)
not the actual problem?
   Have you been told you have IBS by your general practitioner? I was there, and it was HELLA frustrating because GPs diagnose you with this only when they actually have NO clue what’s going on (basically once they’ve ruled out that you don’t have celiac disease). Sad but true. This can be extremely frustrating when you're looking for answers and treatment to this inconvenient and often debilitating problem, which I should be clear, is NOT a ‘normal’ part of life. .
Understanding the ROOT CAUSE of WHYyour bowel is so irritated is the only way to find relief.
So I wanted to share with you what worked for me, and what common triggers (root causes) of irritable bowel are:
1. You have an underlying food SENSITIVITY.It is important to know there is a difference between a true allergy (IgE immune-mediated) vs a sensitivity IgG immune-mediated). Both cause inflammation and damage in the body, but a sensitivity IgG response is DELAYED vs. Immediate, such as in a true allergy or an anaphylaxis response.
For me, I removed gluten and it was LIFE CHANGING. See a Naturopathic doctor for a food sensitivity test, not a GP.
2. Imbalance of gut flora.You have an overgrowth of bad bacteria and yeast (Candida) and lack beneficial bacteria. This is a HUGE culprit. Excess bad bacteria worsen cramps, pain, diarrhea and bloating. Get yourself on a high quality probiotic, avoid antibiotics, BC pill and eat the rainbow! (No processed Sh*t)
3. STRESS. Don’t underestimate the impact of stress in relation to your gut. There are more nerve cells in your gut than almost anywhere else in the body. The gut is actually now referred to by scientists as “the second brain”. Try to meditate, exercise, or find lifestyle changes you can make to reduce stress in your life.
Special considerations:
Work with a wellness professional such as myself to identify your symptomatology in relation to the possibility of a food sensitivity, imbalance in gut flora, and to identify the health of your adrenals. I also have an Ebook BIKINI BOD BEAT THE BLOAT - created entirely for you, Digestive Health suffers. visit www.marissaliana.com under the SHOP tab to learn more!
                                             Until next time, stay well! Marissa

A Painful Lesson

A Painful Lesson
     I have a weird situation that has me totally perplexed. I met this guy at a club. He approached me and we hung out the rest of the night. He was really funny, and I felt comfortable with him. He took my number and called me that very night to make sure I was home okay.
We proceeded to date for a month. Everything was nice. It did move fast, but we seemed to really hit it off. He would call and tell me he missed me, he gave me cards and would say things like, “You are the type of woman I would like to come home to.”
One day I decided to tell him I really liked him, and I really enjoy the time we spend together. Things went downhill from there. He said he didn’t want a girlfriend and he didn’t want to be “tied down.” He got out of a pretty strained relationship eight months ago with the mother of his child.
My problem is he totally freaked out. I am not sure if he just changed his mind about me and found someone else, or if he is just scared. During one of our conversations, I asked him point blank, “So you are saying you don’t want to see me anymore?”
He said that was not what he was saying. I haven’t heard from him in a week. I don’t have any desire to force myself on someone who doesn’t want me. Options? Advice?
Avery

Avery, there is something to be said for cheesy pickup lines. When a guy sidles up to you at a club and says, “heaven is missing an angel tonight,” it’s an icebreaker. It’s funny, corny, and an invitation to talk.
But when a man acts like the male lead in a romance novel, it pays to put your guard up. This man sent you cards and phoned to say he missed you. He said you are the woman he wants to come home to. That’s about as close as a man can come to a proposal without saying the words.
They were just words, but what power they had over you. When he called to see if you got home safely, you saw it as gallantry. But a call costs nothing. He may have called simply to make sure he hadn’t gotten a fake number.
To your credit, you spoke directly to what he made you feel. Many women don’t do that. They won’t take a chance on bursting their bubble. At least he was honest. In effect he said, “No, I don’t want a girlfriend, and no, I don’t want to stop having sex with you.”
Wayne once worked for a company with a super salesman. This man was a master of the silent close. When he went for the sale, he would go completely silent. The technique worked because silence creates an awkward pause most people rush to fill with conciliatory words. Typically, the first one to speak loses.
He hasn’t contacted you for a week. He is not going to contact you. If you contact him, you have accepted his offer to be a sex buddy, not a girlfriend.
One of our early life lessons is about the birds and the bees. That story is mostly about the mechanics of sex. There is a deeper part to that lesson, one which involves the intersection of love and sex. That’s the part which is missing with this man.
Wayne & Tamara

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In Love With Another

In Love With Another
I’m torn. My girlfriend of nine months has started talking to her ex-boyfriend again. They weren’t talking for the first five months of our relationship.
Debbie told me that she and Todd said they’d always be friends. They were together two years, and she broke up with Todd because he demanded a lot of her. She had to come to his house or his parents’ house every night. The parents pressured her into marrying Todd. They would put chores on her like going out and buying their groceries. They paid for the groceries, but they expected her to do it because she was their son’s girlfriend.
Debbie and Todd got a dog at the Humane Society. Debbie’s mom was allergic to the dog, so Todd took it in. He now loves the dog, and Debbie knows it would not be fair to ask him to part with it after a year and a half. Debbie tells me she and Todd are only friends, but I feel he is trying to get her back. They have been talking a lot. She goes out to dinner or out for drinks with him. She says nobody understands their relationship—not his friends or hers.
This is two people who used to sleep together. But she claims the feelings are gone. They are only friends. How can I get over this? How can I build trust? I feel bad because I do love Debbie. I’m jealous a bit. It’s an ugly thing, and I’m trying to get over it.
Brodie

Brodie, on the surface your letter is about jealousy. But there is a difference between irrational jealousy and having a girlfriend who is dating her ex.
Most of us have seen photos of zebras on a plain, grazing on grass, a pride of lions only a short distance away. How can zebras graze so close to danger?
The answer is flight distance. Flight distance is the distance an animal allows around itself before it will flee. It is a calculation of risk. Zebras that correctly calculate flight distance are well-fed. They get the tastiest grass. Zebras which don’t get eaten.
Debbie broke up with Todd because his parents were taking advantage of her and showed their hand too early. If they waited until she was married to him, it would have been harder for her to escape.
We would normally give her kudos for standing up and balking at a guy who didn’t protect her from his parents’ abuse. But she lost all the points from us when she continued to have contact with him.
After five months, her ex let her get unmad. He let her miss him. She had a five-month break from his parents’ chores. Either Todd is like his parents—something of a taker—and that appeals to her, or he won’t stand up to his parents.
When Debbie says no one else would understand their relationship, it means she knows she is going against her better judgment. What she said was, in effect, all of you would say don’t do this, but I am going to do it anyway.
Your problem isn’t jealousy. Your problem is your girlfriend is not over her feelings for another man.
People moving on after a relationship often have unresolved feelings or lie to themselves that they are over it. Nine months ago, Debbie calculated the correct flight distance from Todd and his family. Now she is waffling. As a result, his family may devour her.
Wayne & Tamara
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DIGESTION TIP:

DIGESTION TIP:
Starting your morning with a healthy elixir is a great way to alkalinize your body, support digestion and improve detoxification
Some of my favourite morning mixes will include spinach, wheat grass, dandelion leaf, spirulina, lemon juice a activated charcoal. These promote digestion and detoxification in 2 important ways: .
1) Promote liver health by supporting liver detoxification and improving the flow of BILE from our liver and gallbladder. Adequate bile production and flow is SO important to properly break down and digest our fats as well as carry excess hormones and cholesterol out of the body. If you suffer from high cholesterol, symptoms of low essential fats (dry skin, hair, cracked nails) and/or hormonal imbalances, you want to support your liver’s production and flow of bile.

2) Green superfoods and even lemons help to alkalinize the body. Being too acidic (lower pH level in the body) is associated with lowered oxygenation which negatively affects digestive function and rate of digestion. When food takes longer to digest, it can ferment causing fermentation acid to build up which then worsens the sensation of heartburn and bloating/gas.
How do you become less acidic? By eating a more alkaline diet and starting your morning with a greens drink or elixir! It is also important to avoid or limit foods that increase acidity in the body such as refined sugar, red meat, processed foods, fried foods and refined oils like canola oil.

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                                             Until next time, stay well! Marissa

Travelling Anywhere? If So, Don’t Believe These Myths

Travelling Anywhere? If So, Don’t Believe These Myths

              What’s the worst of times when travelling? It’s when you’re sitting on a bus tour 100 miles from the next stop and you begin to suffer the bowel spasms of traveller’s diarrhea. If the worst scenario happens, it’s a moment you will never forget. But this common risk, and the chance of acquiring other infections, can be decreased by ridding yourself of several travellers’ myths.

Myth:  Only in the Amazon jungle do you have to worry about mosquito-transmitted diseases.

Fact:  That’s not so. In the jungle, mosquitoes spread disease to humans by biting infected monkeys. In a cafe in Paris, Rome or Istanbul, mosquitoes infect you after biting infected humans.

Myth:  So, to prevent this infection in a Paris café, you’ll have two glasses of chardonnay.

Fact: I wish it were true! Laboratory studies show that wine helps to decrease food-borne diseases such as E.coli and Salmonella. This action may be related to the organic acids in wine which have the effect of alcohol. A couple of observational studies also show that those who consumed wine or beer at meals were less likely to become ill during salmonella outbreaks than non-drinkers. But no studies prove alcohol in any form is protective against infectious disease.

Myth:  It’s impossible to get rabies if a street dog just licks you.

Fact:  A report in the University of California Wellness publication says that most people believe you must be bitten by an infected dog to get rabies. Not true. The message is, don’t get too friendly with a foreign Fido. It’s rare, but if you have a cut, open wound, or abrasion, and it’s licked by an infected dog, you could develop this disease. This is also true for infected racoons, foxes and bats. One night in my teens, I was awakened by something flying around my bedroom. My parents diagnosed a bad dream. That is, until the following evening a bat flew out from a lamp. Experts say I should have been tested for rabies as a bite from a bat is hard to see.

Myth:  Probiotic supplements prevent traveller’s diarrhea.

Fact:  This is another misconception. Several studies published in Travel Medicine and Infectious Disease in 2007 suggested that different kinds of probiotic organisms may prevent this problem. But other studies concluded they have no benefit. So let the buyer beware.

Myth:  Suppose you were born in a foreign country and decide now is the time to return. Some people believe revisiting your homeland protects you from illness.

Fact:  Sad to say, going home is not risk free. It is true that early in life in a foreign country you can build up an immunity to water and infections transmitted by mosquitoes. But immunity has often faded away by the time you return. The Centers for Disease Control report that people who emigrate to North America from countries where malaria is endemic, such as India, are at high risk when they return home or visit other malarial –prone areas. And sometimes the person returning home decides against taking anti-malarial medication. The only places that are risk free of malaria is where there are no mosquitoes, such as the desert, high altitudes or during cold seasons of the year.

Myth: Taking medication for malaria will protect you from other mosquito-bearing diseases.

Fact:  Don’t believe it.  Other diseases such as Zita and Dengue are also spread by mosquitoes. But they are caused by different organisms. Consequently, treatment to prevent one of these diseases will have no effect on others.

Myth: When you begin a trip, it doesn’t matter what seat you ask for on a plane, whether you want to look out the window or prefer easy exit from an aisle seat.

Fact: Sorry, it’s not that simple. Studies show the window seat is safer. Why? Because bacteriological studies prove the aisle seat harbours more bacteria that can cause infection. Maybe you’ve noticed that many people, after using the bathroom on board, return to their seats by clutching the aisle seat headrest. It’s sad to say that many have not washed their hands. Need I say more?      
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A POT-TY SITUATION by Joe Ingino

A POT-TY SITUATION
    The debate to legalize the use of recreational marijuana is over.   Soon the government will make it legal for citizens to indulge in recreational marijuana.  Much like everything in society.  Enough people support a particular social change.  The change will take place.   Traditional values and standards will be compromise to accommodate a new acceptance.   In the recreational use of marijuana it appears that the containment has over turned the establishment.  It seems like everyone is using.
With this thought.  The government in it’s usual conscious fashion... turns around and looks for ways to capitalize on the overturn... on the ‘POPULAR’ position in society.
Sure the Feds and the Provinces sit to make huge tax revenue off this new Goose that will be laying the new Green/Golden egg.   The Federal government still can’t make up it’s mind how to distribute it..on what way will bring them the most revenue.  All they know is that the legislation was approved and passed and now the pandora’s box will have to be accommodated by the Provinces and the municipalities.
Some are crying ‘GREAT’ finally.   Others are grinding their teeth.  No matter what your personal preference is.  One thing we share is civil responsibility.

I do not smoke and or drink.  I can appreciate my air clean and my communities safe.  I can also respect those that wish to smoke and drink.  It is a free country.   I do become offended by smoke... second hand.  I do have a problem with noticing someone walking down the street intoxicated.   These concerns appear that they are not mine alone, but that a large margin of the population also share them.
The other day I was getting into my car and I was approached by a very prominent local business person and asked.   “You are running for office, I am a concerned business person and parent.  How will you protect my family from second hand smoke at public places?  How will you protect my business that a retail pot shop will not open next door?”

At first, the question had so many parts.  Then I looked at him and said.   It is a matter of waiting to see what the Federal government regulates and how to the Provinces and subsequently to municipalities.   We must also wait to see what this will mean for the different provinces.  Will each province be allowed to regulate distribution and places of usage.   Once this is established then we as a municipality can begin to assure that we do not have issues of use of marijuana in public places.   Much like with alcohol.  Oshawa should have clear bylaws on where and how a person may consume marijuana.   I would strongly push that there be no smoking on public streets, near schools and or at any public venue.
I also would propose that even though legal.  It is the responsibility of the user to assure that if found to over indulge that they be held accountable by law.   A fine, jail time... depending on the severity.  Much like how we deal with drunk drivers.
As the new mayor of your city my first and biggest priority would be the protection of our citizens.  The safety and well being of each one.  Including the use of marijuana for medicinal and or recreation.

As for distribution within the City of Oshawa.  I would learn from the mistakes of previous administrations and not bound the sale to any particular place.  I wanted it spread out and widely available so the stigma will not linger at those shops that sell them.  In the name of protecting our citizens. I will also impose a ‘POT’ tax levy on any and all businesses selling.  In the form of licensing.   Before licensing.  We would conduct a 7 day wait period in which at that time neighbors would have the opportunity to oppose the licensing of such business or existing business that wants to get into the sale of pot.   The license would be hefty and renewable every month.   The key is not to punish the retailer.  But to use money from such lucrative business to invest in city programs.  (ie. kids sports, park improvements...)

Then the question was further pursued... ‘How would you deal with dwellers of apartment and or subdivision smoke related complaints.   Technically individuals would be on their property yet the strong smell of pot would linger.’ 
This is another great question.  As it stand we have smokers both of cigarettes and cigars.  If you happen to be living next to one.  I can appreciate your frustrations.   In this case it becomes a matter of basic human decency as in many cases approaching your neighbor and expressing your concern over foul smell would be enough.

In the pot model.  We as must not presume the same would be true.  Even though second hand  cigarette/cigar smoke is harmful and offensive to some.  Pot smoke carries a much more dangerous over tone.
Pot smoke must be addressed as not only possibly offensive but a  health harmful due to it’s medicinal properties.
Then as your new mayor how do we handle this.  Pass an environmental bylaw.  A bylaw that would prohibit you from smoking out in a residential or business area where others may smell the smoke.  A bylaw that would be enforced by fines.  The question then is how do we enforce.
Well, like any complaint.  It has to be investigated.  Those that file the complaint must make available evidence of such contravention in the form of pictures, witnesses.   The fundamental principle behind this bylaw would be not to create a tear between neighbors but to build bridges of understanding and civility.
If a situation escalates, the police and the proper civil avenues are available to both parties.  We as a City must assure that our citizens have quality life style.  Part of that quality is doing your part in the community.  Hostility will be met with hostility.  Compassion with compassion.
One thing we forget about the whole pot argument.   As great as it may be for medicinal purposes and as great as it may be for the prevention of future disease.   Marijuana has been proven to be the second step towards much deeper narcotics.    First it is alcohol, then pot, then narcotics.
The key to breaking this vicious and at times fatal cycle is education and resources to offer individual that show distress.   Addiction is not a choice per se but a way to cope with serious underlying psychological issues.
We as a society must address this with hard core therapeutic services.   We must look at ways of creating one of Canada’s largest and most recognized addiction treatment centres.  
Can it be done?
In my world nothing is impossible as long as you have th vision and the ability to bring people together to make it happen.
As your new mayor I would be committed 24/7 to making things happen in our city. 
I will not wait for Council to decide but have council work on things as they are happening. No more wasting time on what could be.  No more letting opportunity pass us by.
Tomorrow is here and we need not to sleep.   In 2018 we have a true unique opportunity to make great things happen in Oshawa.   You have a choice.  Vote in Carter and live another four years with the status quo.  Or vote INGINO and take a chance on positive change. Your choice.
THANK YOU
Joe Ingino
With your help we can make it happen. Vote Ingino for mayor in 2018
www.ingino.org         Joe Ingino

Acne problems + not prioritizing restful sleep?

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from Marissa Liana
 Certified Nutritional Practitioner/Health Coach
 
 restful sleep?
  Lack of sleep can actually MAJORLY contribute to your skin problems. Here’s why.
The adrenal glands are responsible for producing *stress hormones* such as -cortisol as well as small amounts of *sex hormones* like -estrogen, -progesterone and -testosterone levels in the body. Since hormonal imbalances can lead to acne, stress and lack of sleep burden the adrenals and cause our hormones to be produced in unfavourable amounts.
One major role of cortisol is to increase blood sugar. Chronically elevated blood sugar/blood sugar imbalances is also a root cause of acne! Fatigued adrenals/blood sugar imbalances and lack of sleep then lead to sugar cravings, which further disrupt blood sugar balance. It’s a viscous cycle!
If you suspect you’re of adrenally fatigued and suffer from chronic acne, you may experience the following symptoms:
Dependant on coffee or stimulants to get you through your morning/day.
Midsection weight gain.
Difficulty handling stress and tend to work off of worries. Often feel light-headed when standing quickly from a seated or lying position. Craving for salty foods.
Low sex drive.
Trouble staying asleep at night.
Horrible PMS or Menopause.
In my Ebook HEALTHY SKIN FROM WITHIN - I teach you how to take control of your adrenal health, skin health, and how to properly assess the root cause of your acne + skin issues. You’ll receive a full 14-Day Skin Healing Meal Plan, supplement guide, product recommendation guide, food list & so much more.
Until next time, stay well! Marissa
Acne problems + not prioritizing

Fairy Tale Wedding from Wayne & Tamara

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 Fairy Tale Wedding
  I was recently in a 7-week relationship with a girl I met online. We spent four straight weekends together, though we did not have sex, and we communicated every day through email, text and phone. Things seemed to be going smoothly.
 The last time we were together, I noticed she seemed hesitant to give her opinion on certain things. I didn’t say anything to her in person, though I should have. Instead I told her my concerns in an email the next day.
Well, that night she calls to tell me she read my email and proceeds to tell me about her last relationship. I knew she had a past but didn’t know the details. She dated a guy four years. They were engaged for a year and a half, the wedding was planned, and they owned a house together.
Just before the wedding, she confirmed he was cheating on her. She left him immediately. They fought over money and material things—lawyers were involved—and she hasn’t contacted him since. This was a year before we started dating. She says she is close to being the person she was before that relationship.
By her account, her dating since then has not been good. I asked if we were okay. She said yes but canceled our plans for the weekend, saying she wanted time to do her own thing. She didn’t tell me she didn’t want to see me again or be in a relationship, though I would have understood if she had.
So I take her at her word and give her time and space. She texts me for two days, then stops completely. She won’t respond to a text or answer the phone. I drive to her place. She is upset and tells me to just leave her alone.

I didn’t take her for someone who would end a relationship like that. I thought if I gave her time she would eventually tell me what was going on. Well, it’s been a month and still nothing. I just want an answer to why. I’m not looking to rekindle the relationship. I just want closure.
Ned

Ned, many fairy tales of the Brothers Grimm live up to the name. They are indeed grim. In one tale, a witch eats children; in another, a maiden has her arms cut off; in a third, all the characters are drowned.

The woman you dated was living a fairy tale. House, husband, and happiness were all within her grasp. Bridesmaids were fitted, wedding invitations addressed. Then all was lost. The only happy ending was for the lawyers.
You were in a relationship of seven weeks and can’t get over it. She was in a relationship for 208 weeks. She had total faith in someone who betrayed her. Can you understand where she is coming from?
In explaining her story to you, it all flooded back. You hit an emotional trigger without knowing what you hit. She is still trying to get past “I was going to be married, I was going to have a family, the rest of my life was set.” Do you think she will ever get a satisfactory answer to why—why did this happen to me? But she gave you your closure. She is not past this.
Closure is moving on. That’s the whole process. You date and it is unsuccessful, again and again. Then it isn’t. You find your one. We can only hope that it happens for her.
Wayne & Tamara
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When Are Heart Stents Lifesaving? When Not? By W. Gifford-Jones M.D.

 The Doctor Game

By W. Gifford-Jones M.D.
When Are Heart Stents Lifesaving?
When Not?
          Every year over 300,000 North Americans have a stent implanted to increase the flow of blood to heart’s muscle. Stents have been inserted for decades because of cardiologists’ concern that, without a stent, a heart attack may occur. Or, a coronary attack may have already caused angina, due to inadequate blood supply. Now, a study published in the medical journal, The Lancet, reports that some stents are life-saving, while others could have been avoided.
          But this is not the first review that has cast a shadow over stents. In 2007, the highly respected New England Journal of Medicine reported second thoughts   about the value of stents. A survey of 2,287 volunteers showed that adding stents to drug therapy had no effect on heart attacks or death, compared to just using drugs alone.
          This debate will not end quickly as doctors’ habits rarely change overnight. Moreover, these studies could be wrong. So I’m sure that more will follow. In the meantime, when the heart’s muscle is not getting enough blood and angina occurs, what is the best treatment?
          There are two kinds of angina, stable and unstable. Stable angina causes chest pain when walking, exercising, or during emotional stress, and is relieved by resting. Coronary arteries have to be about 70 percent blocked to trigger angina.
          Unstable angina in contrast can occur without exercise. For instance, it can suddenly waken you during the night, and is not quickly eased by resting or using nitroglycerin. This is a critical condition, as heart attack may occur in a short time. In this case, the insertion of a stent can be life-saving.
          In spite of this analysis many cardiologists continue to use stents. They reason that, even if stents do not save lives, they at least reduce or relieve angina pain. Now, even this conclusion is been questioned by further interesting research. For the first time, researchers decided to see if the power of placebo treatment could match the success of stents. This was a double-blind study, in which neither researchers nor patients were aware of who had been given a stent, and who had not received one.
          200 patients in their sixties were followed. They had obstruction of coronary arteries causing chest pain. They were given six weeks of drug therapy to decrease angina. Then another group was treated with stents. Lastly, a third group was given sedation, catheters were inserted, but no stents were deployed. It was sheer sham, fake therapy without the patients’ knowledge.     
          Six weeks following the procedure, patients were tested on a treadmill to evaluate the result. What was found shocked the researchers. For years they had known that a sugar pill could often help those in pain. But it was a surprise for them to discover no statistical difference between those who had received stents, and those who had the phony procedure. So, never underestimate the psychological power of sham therapy, and its effect on the accuracy of clinical trials.

          So what is the solution? It makes sense to try drugs first as they could be as effective as using stents. But if drugs fail, stents should be considered. And remember, if a stent is inserted, drugs to keep the stent open are needed, and more   drugs to stop blood from clotting.
          But what is the initial risk of having a stent inserted? Doctors have inserted millions of stents and the risk is small. But as I‘ve often stressed, there is no such thing as risk free surgical procedure. So what can go wrong?
          During and following the stent insertion bleeding can occur. This can happen at the area where the stent is inserted, and a hematoma (blood clot) can form. It’s not a serious complication, but it worries patients as it may take several weeks to resolve.  There’s also the risk of allergic reaction or stroke. And always the chance that the stent will become blocked in the weeks or months following its insertion. 
          Remember, if chest pain occurs at rest and lasts over five minutes, forget everything and call 911. An immediate stent can be life-saving.
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Minimize Pregnancy Related Back Pain By Dr. George Traitses

HEALTHY LIVING
By Dr. George Traitses
D.C., B.Sc.(Hon.), M.Sc., C.H.N., C.N.M., A.C.R.B. 3, C.R.A.
Member of the Ontario Chiropractic Association
Minimize Pregnancy
Related Back Pain
You’re anxiously awaiting the pitter-patter of tiny feet, but you can’t paint the nursery because of back pain. You’re in good company! 50 percent of pregnant women experience back pain, with 10 percent reporting severe discomfort that prevents them from carrying out their daily routines.

What causes pregnancy-related back pain? First, the average healthy weight gain during pregnancy is over 30 pounds. This extra weight places considerable stress on the back, feet, ankles and knees. As the baby grows, the core abdominal muscles become stretched and cannot stabilize your posture as efficiently as they did before.

Secondly, there are hormonal changes. In the third trimester, levels of a hormone called “relaxin” increase ten times. Relaxing loosens your joints to allow the pelvis to accommodate the enlarging uterus. These loose joints force the muscles of the back and pelvis to work overtime to keep you upright and balanced.

Discomfort doesn’t have to be part and parcel of pregnancy.

Try these tips to help minimize your risk of back pain.

    Exercise can help increase muscle support for your aching back. Always consult a health care practitioner before participating in a new exercise regimen.
    Sleeping on your left side has been shown to reduce the weight of the uterus on large vessels in your abdomen, allowing for optimal blood flow to both mother and baby.
    Placing a pillow between the knees or leaning against a body pillow will take pressure off the lower back.
    Take frequent, short naps with your feet elevated.
    Wear supportive flat shoes and use a lumbar support pillow in your chair at work.


To treat and help prevent muscle strains and joint pain, consider including a chiropractor as part of your team of maternity care professionals. A maternity chiropractor can provide safe, effective, and drug-free conservative care to relieve pain by decreasing the pressure on the joints, muscles, and nerves of the spine and pelvis.
Dr. George Traitses, 416-499-5656  www.infinite-health.com

AWAKENING A GIANT By Joe Ingino

Logic
By Joe Ingino
Editor/Publisher
“I live a dream in a nightmare world”
  
AWAKENING A GIANT
  The City of Oshawa, Durham's crown jewel.   A GIANT among a cluster or smaller municipalities that has sat dormant for way to long.  A city that has enjoyed the success of General Motors and blinded it’s thinking that they had control over the region.  That the region was a tool to save from liability and a vehicle to cost effective produce services.   A city that has fallen victim to it’s own greed.  I say this with liberty as the region has slowly been chipping away Oshawa essentials services to the point that Oshawa has little or no control.
The regions power has grown to the point that today we are the minority.   Oshawa has lost it’s GIANT status and if anything become a weak voice.  So much so that when Oshawa needs something or requests something.  It goes to vote and in many cases.  Oshawa fails to attain anything beyond the negotiated as a member of the region.  This is not right.
Oshawa is so under the mercy of the region that  today Oshawa due to poor leadership and bad administration owes the region on or about $300 million dollars.  Putting the region at risk of loosing it’s AAA rating.
The question is how do we turn the table on the region?
The answer is simple.  Wake up the GIANT.   Bring it back to the days of greatness.  
How do we do this?  Simple.  Do what other municipalities are not doing.  Study their weak points and capitalize on them by introducing programs, services and or opportunities that for whatever reason they can’t attain.
Oshawa, enjoyed GM for many reasons.  Primarily, a geographical/historical root.  GM is no longer the anchor of success it was for Oshawa.  We the City need to look for a new vein of success.
Unfortunately for the people of Oshawa.   Oshawa has become dormant due to lack of leadership.  Lack of vision.
But it appears that I am not the only that sees the potential of the sleeping Giant.
The Conference Board of Canada’s latest Metropolitan Outlook. Notes Oshawa and Guelph are expected to boast the fastest growing economies among the 16 cities covered in the report, with growth of 2.6 per cent and 2.3 per cent respectively.
What the report fails to note is the fact that it is a projection based on potential and not actual growth.  (read pg. 3 article)
I agree with the Conference Board of Canada’s outlook.   I think with the right leadership, Oshawa has great potential.   With a 300 million debt to the region and no real plan to dig out of it.  I truly doubt the projections to even stand a chance.   The region could technically call the debt and put Oshawa into bankruptcy.  These are all truths that are not told to the public but are public record.
The question still remains... HOW DO WE AWAKEN THE GIANT?
Great question.  First we must restructure city hall management.  We must stream line and cut back all unnecessary expenditures.   We must create a vision for the city and I don’t mean a pie in the sky dream like they have for the past 30 years and nothing comes to be.
We need a series of goals that lead us to significant change.   I would use the expertise at city hall and put together a task force that sole responsibility would be to source out local, regional, national and international investors.  Investors that would want to bring their industry/trade to Oshawa.  Investors that would want to take part in major capital projects.   Project that would yield significant returns.  Jobs and prosperity.
You may think.. Impossible.  Really.  Why is it happening in other municipalities and not Oshawa?  Why is it that Oshawa does not host a building higher than 20 floors?
Why is it that the city harbor has be sitting in a deteriorating condition for years?   Why is it that our municipal airport not been properly developed?    IT CAN BE DONE.
Look at the great work that is being done at the Ontario Tank Museum at the south field Oshawa municipal airport.   These folks are a testament to success.   They are what Oshawa needs.  Visionaries that make things happen.  Just this saturday they opened their new indoor facility.
Did you know that the Museum is home to the largest working tanks in the world?
Did you know that today's opening of the storage facility is one of three steps to develop that attraction?
I want to be your new mayor so I can expand on their good work.  I want to work with them to make that venue a world class attraction.   IT CAN BE DONE.
Oshawa the sleeping giant can be awaken.  It must be awaken and with the right administration it will be awaken.
Together we can make it happen.   Voters must stop voting in the status quo.  It clearly does not work.  The same old does not cut it anymore.   If there is no real change in the upcoming municipal election, taxpayers are guaranteed another 3 - 6% property tax increase.
Some argued... well look at all the housing to the north... that is progress...  Look at all the plazas opening.... that is progress.   Really.  That is progress?   To me that is population growth and the mismanagement of lands.   The only ones benefiting are the developers that take up good farm land and erect cheap cookie cutter housing.  Housing that in 50 years will be a heaven for crime.   What we need in Oshawa is true development.  We need to  mix housing that suits everyone. From low income to mega mansions.   We need to bring the skyscrapers and get out of the 1920’s village mentality.  Unfortunately with the status quo.  They do not have the expertise, drive or vision.  Not to mention direction to implement such drastic plans.  This is why nothing happens except these petty growth spurs.   The Conference Board of Canada see the potential but fails to see the reality.   I see both.
I can’t do this alone. I request your assistance to win.  I may not have all the answer.  What I do have is the passion and understanding of the issues and what we need to do to awaken this sleeping giant into a giant opportunity for future generations to enjoy.  Thanking you in advance for considering allowing me the opportunity to give your children a future.              Joe Ingino

ACNE - Sluggish liver and constipation could be the culprit!

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from Marissa Liana
 Certified Nutritional Practitioner/Health Coach
ACNE - Sluggish liver and constipation could be the culprit!
    Our liver is a major detoxification organ in the body, and so is our skin! The liver is often sluggish or overburdened due to increased stress placed on it from alcohol, drugs/medications,  processed foods, trans fats, preservatives, food dyes, fructose, etc.
When our liver cannot keep up with the demands placed on it, excess toxins are either 1) stored in our fat cells or 2) eliminated through one of our other 6 elimination systems:
our lungs
lymphatic system
our digestive tract/colon
our SKIN through sweat***
our kidneys
and the blood
This is why improving the health of our liver and internal environment is so important for improving the health of our skin.  Another important reason why liver health effects acne is attributed to the fact that our liver is the site of hormonal detoxification. Specifically, the liver creates serum proteins that act as hormone carriers, manufactures hormones such as estrogen and testosterone and regulates sex hormone levels by eliminating excess hormones through bile. Once the liver has processed old hormones, the liver dumps these hormones into the gut with bile so that they can be carried out by our feces.
IF YOU ARE NOT GOING TO THE BATHROOM REGULARLY (AT LEAST ONCE PER DAY) these hormones can get reabsorbed back into the bloodstream and worsen hormonal imbalances. hormonal acne often appears on the face around the chin and jawline.
If this resonates with you and you’d like a protocol to balance your internal environment and heal your skin from the inside out, I highly recommend you check out my Ebook protocol Heathy Skin From Within at www.marissaliana.com under the shop tab.
Until next time, stay well! Marissa

Promises, Promises

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from Wayne & Tamara

  I’ve been seeing a man three years. We first went out for a year and a half, but he moved back home because his teenage kids made his life a living hell.
 I could see what it was doing to him. With a lot of tears on both sides, he returned. I kept away because I did not think I could handle the heartbreak if it happened again.
Eventually he called and asked to see me. (He and his wife never got along, and she had a previous affair, as had he.) He wanted me back, wanted to live with me and ultimately get married. I asked if he was 100% positive. He emphatically said yes.
He moved into a friend’s place and began staying over four nights a week. His wife was bitter and his kids wouldn’t speak to him. Still, we managed to have a great relationship. We spent time riding on his motorcycle, staying at different places on the weekend. I looked forward to spending the rest of my life with him.
A few months ago, he grew moody. Last Saturday night I had to know what the problem was. After listing complaints about me, he said he couldn’t see a future for us. He then jumped into bed and turned off the light! I turned it back on, and he nastily said, “I guess I’m in for an inquisition now.”
I couldn’t believe it. I asked him to leave and he seemed surprised. When he was just out the door, he said he thought we needed time apart. I closed the door.
Overall, we seemed to be a good match. If he calls saying he made a mistake and wants to come back, I’m not sure I will be strong enough to say no. I know I must because he has now broken my heart twice.
I have all his clothes, which I’ll leave at security for him to pick up. I’m waiting for him to call so I can ask him to return my key.
Maryanne
Maryanne, in 1858 a Scottish policeman died. For the next 14 years his faithful Skye Terrier guarded his master’s grave until he, too, passed away. That famous dog is known as Greyfriars Bobby.
Recent research suggests the story was a fabrication by the cemetery keeper and a restaurant owner to boost tourism. The original dog was simply a mutt who hung around the cemetery, and when he died, the co-conspirators replaced him with a Skye Terrier.
You didn’t say you are perfect for one another. You didn’t say he loves you deeply. You told us he likes crazymaking with his wife. He takes a sabbatical to have sex with another woman, returns home, then does it again.
That’s what he likes, and he put his teenagers through this once, then put them through it again. He doesn’t care about anyone but himself.
We hoped you wouldn’t say you left his clothes with security and will ask for your key back. We hoped you would say, “I cut his clothes into one-inch squares, mailed them back to his wife, and called a locksmith.”
You are enthralled with him, but we wouldn’t call it love. When love is not reciprocated, then it is something else.
The story of Greyfriars Bobby may be false, but it doesn’t undo the incredible true stories of dog loyalty. Though this man’s story of love is false, it doesn’t undo the incredible true stories of couples who would quite literally die for each other.
Wayne & Tamara
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Promises, Promises

Readers Agree; Doug Ford is Right about Injection Sites

 The Doctor Game

By W. Gifford-Jones M.D.
Readers Agree; Doug Ford is Right about Injection Sites
               My recent negative column about injection sites in prison and elsewhere triggered a rapid response. Here is a good sampling of both sides of the issue.             
From BK, ``Isn`t that rich? Physicians help in a major way to create the huge opioid problem, and you as a doctor, say death to drug dealers. Finding a doctor is hard enough, now you want to execute them.”
 A retired minister writes, ``Your column is the highlight in my life every week. Your call for heavy punishment will be seen as a return to the cruelty of the past. But I thank you for your wisdom and advice, and congratulate you on your courage. I knew a Minister who spent several years in China. He told me that when the Communists arrived, posters warned that anyone caught selling illegal drugs would be executed. Later, all the citizens were told to come to the local square. A soldier was standing behind five men. An official said they had been caught selling illegal drugs. Then he told the soldiers to shoot each one in the hands. The official then said, the next time it will be in the head! The Minister`s friend said, that within a day all drugs disappeared, and could not be purchased for an price.”
 A.S. writes, “Add me to the list of those who support every word you wrote. I have advocated the Singapore solution for many years because it works. If you ever come to our city you sill witness a wasteland of dire proportions. Our injection sites hand out thousands of needles and other goodies to a growing number of addicts flooding our city of 100,000. They can also receive food, shelter, clothing, which I call the ‘Fabulous Consumption Clubhouse’. Moreover a lawyer has successfully shut down police from doing anything about it through her no carding campaign. Some say, we will spend what it takes to save lives, and that it is an historic day for our city. I’m ashamed to call it my home, and believe our country is going to hell.”
From S.K. “I think you should look to Portugal’s successful program on decriminalization of drugs. I do not want to see hanging brought back, nor do I want to live under Singapore’s draconian rules. The Philippines are also trying a similar approach with rivers of blood from people who were shot without cause or trial. Democracy is messy, but there are answers out there for those who are willing to think outside the box. I am horrified by your thinking.”
From Dave, “Yes the approach to drugs on the whole in Canada needs an overhaul. It is certainly not an Opioid Summit. I am in agreement with Lee Kuan Yew’s approach and it should be applied to mass shooters as well. I am an avid reader of your column.”
From Ron, “Good column. But more people have to step forward to correct this political correct theory that’s a joke and not working.”
From A.H. “I like your unafraid statement of facts which need to be emulated by journalists and hopefully some courageous politicians.”  
The final tally? A huge majority of correspondents are in favour of returning the death penalty.  However, its opponents should not lose any sleep. I don’t know of one Canadian politician who has the intestinal fortitude to introduce a bill sponsoring its return as they fear they will not be re-elected. I believe they’re 100 percent wrong. And that the drug crisis will have to get worse before people say enough is enough.
Today, in one North American city, innocent bystanders, young children playing in a school yard were killed in the crossfire of gang war. I wonder how many of those who are against capital punishment would speedily change their minds, if this had caused the death of one of their own loved ones? Or when a loved one dies from a fatal dose of opioid laced with Fentanyl supplied by an immoral unconscionable drug dealer?
I’m not a Communist. And what happened in the Chinese square may seem shocking to some people. But I believe we too could quickly end illegal drug dealing in this country if we threatened the drug dealer’s head.    
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Don’t let a fall bring you down

Don’t let a fall bring you down
  A senior who’s suffered an injury from a fall knows the dramatic impact it can have not just physically, but psychologically. Falls can swiftly take away the sense of independence and confidence that allows a senior to fully enjoy their life.
Unfortunately, falls are all too common in our aging population, 1 in every 3 Canadians over the age of 65 will experience a fall, with hips, wrists and pelvic fractures being the most common injuries.
However there are some easy tips and techniques anyone can use that help reduce the risk of injury as a result of a fall.
Reduce clutter in the home
Maybe it’s time for some fall cleaning. Getting rid of loose articles such as rugs prevents you from slipping or tripping in your home. Reducing clutter can make for a much safer environment.
Ensure easy transfers in and out of the bath
The combination of water and tile can be drastic. Installing grab bars in your bathroom to help with getting in and out of the tub is an affordable adjustment that can minimize your chances of slipping and falling on a wet floor.
Wear supportive footwear
Many of us wear slippers around the house, especially during the colder months. Making sure your slippers have traction and are non-slip can safeguard you from falling in your home.
Have your eyesight and hearing checked every year
Having your vision and hearing checked regularly is vital. If hearing or vision is impaired, you can miss important cues that help maintain your balance, resulting in a fall.
Exercise regularly
Although it can be a daunting task, exercising to improve strength and coordination helps to prevent your chances of losing balance and falling.
Have your medications evaluated
It is possible for a patient to receive several prescriptions from multiple doctors. By evaluating the medication you are on, you can decrease the chances of side effects and keep your sensory functions that help you stay balanced and upright intact.
Have your strength and balance tested
A person with low mobility levels and poor balance is at a higher risk of falling. Being mobile and continuing to improve balance is vital to helping prevent falls and injuries.
By following these falls prevention tips, you can reduce your chances of experiencing a fall that may lead to additional injuries down the road. Visit a doctor of chiropractic or other qualified health professional to test your steadiness, balance and strength and give you additional information on falls prevention.
Dr. George Traitses, 416-499-5656  www.infinite-health.com

IT IS OFFICIAL CITY OF OSHAWA MAYORAL RACE IS ON. ‘THE ESTABLISHMENT VS THE PEOPLE’

IT IS OFFICIAL 
CITY OF OSHAWA MAYORAL RACE IS ON. 
‘THE ESTABLISHMENT VS THE PEOPLE’
   Dear readers and fellow citizens.  It is with great honor and pleasure to announce my official candidacy of Mayor for the City of Oshawa.
I am a strong supporter of my community.  I believe that much like our city slogan goes,
“PREPARE TO BE AMAZED”.  We prepared long enough.  It is time to streamline this corporation and work in the best interest of our tax payers.   It is time to bring good paying jobs to Oshawa and assure that we keep GM and assist to encourage further developments.
I have served my community and will continue to serve once in office.   I am proud member and supporter of the  The Royal Legion Branch 43, Member since 2014.   Former Kiwanis Westmount (Oshawa)  Former Fundraising Chair 2015 .  Member of Kinsmen of Oshawa since 2015.  Former Rotary Club of Courtice  Member 2015 served as Secretary 2017 until 2018.  Proud MASON LOGE No 649 Oshawa Member 2016.
Former Courtice Lions Club, since Member 2015 appointed club (Director) and  Chair - Santa Clause Chair 2016 Committee. During the same time Chair - PR. Media Committee 2017 and Member of fundraising committee 2017 as well as Chair of Membership 2017.  Elected as  Vice President -2017-18
Proud member Moose Lodge 2132  Oshawa Lodge 2132/WOTM Chapter 1759 Member
Member 2015. Oshawa Naval Veterans Club Member Member 2015.   Proud member of WING 420 Member 2017.
There is no greater reward then that of serving your community.   To work for the betterment of society at large.  As your NEW Mayor I will assure you that the betterment of your life will be my priority.   Through partnerships with industry/trade/commerce/investors/developers.
Oshawa will be a better place.  Through the strengthening of relation with the Province and the Federal Government.   Oshawa will reap with rewards as many other municipalities enjoy today.   We may be been dormant but we are not forgotten.  It is time to awake the GIANT we are and become the exemplary community we all know we can become.
In 2018.  It is about wanting change.  We know the status idles progress. IDLE NO MORE.