DOMESTIC 'V' THE NEW 'N'

domestic ‘v’ the new ‘n’ By Dale Jodoin The stigma surrounding domestic violence and sexual assault against men is further complicated by societal perceptions and reactions. When a woman is seen being pushed around and hit by a man, people are more likely to intervene and offer help. This response is rooted in the widespread recognition and condemnation of violence against women. However, the situation often unfolds differently when the roles are reversed. If a man is being pushed around, screamed at, and hit by a woman, the reactions of bystanders can be markedly different. Instead of receiving immediate support or intervention, the man may find himself further victimized by the assumptions and comments of passersby. People might wonder what he did wrong to provoke such a reaction or joke that he is in trouble, implying that he must have done something to deserve the abuse. This kind of response not only minimizes the man's experience of abuse but also reinforces the harmful stereotype that men cannot be victims of domestic violence or that their experiences are less serious. This disparity in societal reactions contributes to the challenges men face in acknowledging and reporting abuse. It perpetuates the feeling of isolation and the belief that they will not be taken seriously if they speak out. The fear of being ridiculed or not believed can be a significant barrier to seeking help, leading many men to suffer in silence. Addressing this stigma is crucial in creating a society where all victims of domestic violence and sexual assault, regardless of gender, feel safe and supported in seeking help. It involves changing the narrative and challenging the stereotypes that contribute to the underreporting and underrecognition of abuse against men. By acknowledging that men can be victims too and fostering an environment where their experiences are taken seriously, we can take significant steps towards providing better support and resources for all victims of domestic violence and sexual assault.