Ageism: Does it Exist or Is It a Form of 'I'm a Victim!' Mentality? [ Part 4]

By Nick Kossovan How you think is everything. This is the fourth and final column of a 4-part series dealing with ageism while job hunting. The standard advice given by "experts" to overcome ageism revolves contorting yourself to "fit in," "be accepted," "be invited." Essentially, their advice is to conceal your age and hope the employer throughout the hiring process won't figure it out and hire you. It takes a lot of time and energy to be accepted into places where you aren't welcome, and it can be heartbreaking. Finding an employer who accepts you for who you are, regardless of age, gender, race, or whatever, is the key to happy employment. There's no better feeling than feeling you're welcomed. Therefore, my advice to job seekers: Be your best self and let the chips fall where they may. Doing your best and accepting the outcome will give you a Zen-like sense of freedom. An attempt to infer someone's biases based on their actions is usually just an assumption based on what you want to believe. If it benefits you to think someone is practicing ageism (e.g., a convenient excuse), then you'll believe you're the victim of ageism. The fact is you don't know what the hiring manager's behind the scene looks like. The entire company's leadership team judges their hiring decisions. Your fit with current employees needs to be considered. Budget constraints exist. Let's not forget the biggest hiring influencer, their past hiring mistakes, which they don't want to repeat. While reviewing resumes for a senior accounting position, the hiring manager thinks, "The Centennial College graduates I've hired didn't last six months. While Bob has plenty of experience, he's a Centennial College alumnus. Hiring another six months quitter won't look good on me." "Karen has worked for FrobozzCo International. If I recall, the company reportedly funnelled money into offshore accounts to avoid paying taxes. I wonder if Karen was involved." Association experiences contribute to most biases. You know the saying, "If it looks like a duck, swims like a duck, and quacks like a duck, then it probably is a duck." If you met five rude red heads in a row, the next one will also be rude, right? The human brain is wired to look for patterns and predict future behaviour based on those patterns. Call it a survival skill. When we first meet someone, we try to predict what behaviour to expect from them using past experiences. This quick assessment is why hiring managers decide, withing as little as two minutes, whether a candidate is worth their time. While it's important to try and make a good first impression (READ: image), you have no control over how others interpret it. Bottom-line: You can't control another person's biases. Based on how I hire, and conversations with hiring managers, I believe the following to be true. An employer is more interested in the results you can deliver for them than your age or whatever "ism" you believe is against you. Can employers afford to pass up qualified candidates who could contribute to their bottom line? Of course not! (Okay, it's "unlikely.") You'll be in demand if you can demonstrate a track record of adding value to your employers. Having the belief that your age prevents you from finding the employment you want is a paralyzing belief. Ageism exists for all ages, which I think many people use as a crutch. - They said I was overqualified. That's ageism!" - They hired someone younger than me. That's ageism!" - They said I wasn't experienced enough. That's ageism!" Get over yourself! Employers can hire whomever they deem to be the best fit for their business. It's self-righteous to judge someone else's biases (READ: preferences), especially when their biases don't serve your interests. Let's say, for example, you're 52 years old, and the hiring manager prefers candidates between 45 and 55 (Yes, I know such hiring managers), and they hire you. Would you call out the hiring manager's bias that worked in your favour? If you believe your age is an obstacle, here's my advice: Break the fourth wall. If you sense your age is the elephant in the room, put your age on the table and see what happens. When interviewing, I always mention, early in, that I've been managing call centers since 1996. I then let my interviewer do the mental math and wrestle with any age bias they may have. As I mentioned in my last column, the employer most likely Googled you and has a good idea of your age. Therefore, since you were vetted to determine if you were interview-worthy, tell yourself that your age is irrelevant. When interviewing, don't focus on "isms." Doing so makes them your reality. Instead, focus on the problems the position you're interviewing for is meant to solve. -----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Nick Kossovan, a well-seasoned veteran of the corporate landscape, offers advice on searching for a job. You can send him your questions at artoffindingwork@gmail.com