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Saturday, April 25, 2026
Do any of the below factors resonate with you?
Do any of the below factors
resonate with you?
By Bruno Scanga
Financial Columnist
I hold traditional investments inside my holding/operating company
I am looking to diversify my holdings towards an alternative tax advantaged asset class
I want to increase the internal rate of return on my estate plan.
I want to maximize the Capital Dividend Account balance (corporate IFA).
I have an existing permanent insurance plan with cash value and want access today.
I want to set up a charitable giving strategy without affecting cash flow.
Did you know that you can leverage permanent life insurance policies using immediate financing arrangements?
How an IFA works
You own contract for a permanent life insurance policy which created significant Cash Surrender Value (CSV) in the policy’s over the years you owned it.
The policy is assigned to a Bank as collateral to secure a line of credit.
You pay the annual recurring insurance premium.
You borrow back up to 100% of the CSV. (Or borrow back the entire premium by providing additional collateral security.) You use the line of credit for investment purposes – for example, to fund an operating business, purchase real estate or invest in a nonregistered investment portfolio.
Steps 3-5 are repeated annually.
When you pass away, the outstanding loan is repaid out of the death benefit and the remaining proceeds are paid to your beneficiaries. The two most common IFA structure
100% Cash Surrender Value Lending
With this strategy, you borrow only 100% of the CSV of a policy each year which is, of course, less than the premium payment. The advantage to this structure is that the CSV of the policy creates a rapidly increasing borrowing capacity over time. The drawback is that there is a significant net funding requirement from you in the early years of the policy.
100% Replacement of Premium
With this strategy, you pay the annual premium then provide extra collateral security – in addition to the CSV of the policy – to borrow back 100% of the premiums each year. The advantage of this structure is that you experience only a modest net cash outflow (net annual interest costs) in comparison to the death benefit, which increases the rate of return of the structure. The drawback is the requirement to provide additional collateral security. (However, the additional collateral security requirement may well fall and eventually disappear over time.)
To get started with this always contact your Life insurance advisor and review the options that are best suiting your situation.
Happy Planning!
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Why the Information Doesn’t Always Match
Dead and Gone…
Why the Information Doesn’t Always Match
By Gary Payne, MBA
Founder of Funeral Cost Ontario
Founder, FuneralCostOntario.ca There is a point where things can start to feel a little unclear. Not right at the beginning. Usually after a couple of conversations. After a few explanations. After some numbers have been mentioned. You start hearing similar things. But somehow they don’t quite land the same. If I were gone, I would want my family to know that this happens more often than people expect. One place explains things one way.
Another explains them differently. One estimate might seem shorter. Another… feels like there’s more there, even if it’s not obvious why. One conversation feels easier to follow. Another leaves people a bit unsure, even if they can’t quite put their finger on it. And quietly, a question starts to build. “Are we actually comparing the same thing?”
I have seen families reach that point.
Not because anyone has done anything wrong. And not because the family isn’t paying attention. It’s just hard to take in unfamiliar information when so much else is already sitting on your shoulders.
Sometimes something looks lower at first. Later, the picture shifts a bit. Sometimes something feels more expensive. Then it turns out more was included from the start. That isn’t always easy to see in the moment. Usually it isn’t. It often becomes clearer later. After people have stepped away. After they’ve had a chance to talk it through a bit. After they’ve looked at things again with a little more breathing room. If I were gone, I would want my family to give themselves that space. Not to overthink everything. Just to let it settle. Because this is the kind of situation where understanding tends to come in pieces. Not all at once. There is another part of this that matters too. How something is explained can shape how it feels. A shorter explanation can feel simpler. A longer explanation can feel like more.
But those impressions don’t always tell the full story. If I could leave one quiet thought, it would be this: It’s okay not to fully understand everything the first time. It’s okay if you need to hear it again. It’s okay to ask the same question a second time. Clarity comes that way sometimes. Slowly. And that’s enough. Next week, I will write about something many families find themselves trying to do at this stage: compare options without feeling overwhelmed by them.
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Anger Is Its Own Illness
Anger Is Its Own Illness
Common Sense Health – Diana Gifford-Jones
“He preaches patience that never knew pain.” That line has been around for more than a century, and it still holds up. Spend time around people who are struggling, and you see why. Some are not just discouraged. They are angry. Angry at their health, at the system, at the people around them, and at life itself.
Chronic disease changes everything. Diabetes can lead to amputation of a leg, sometimes both of them. Cancer brings fear and uncertainty. Arthritis limits movement and pain becomes a permanent companion. Others are trapped in situations that are just as damaging – abusive relationships, financial stress, or a system that promises support but delivers nothing of it. It doesn’t take much for frustration to turn into anger.
But anger carries a very large cost. Research has shown that chronic anger raises blood pressure, increases stress hormones, and raises the risk of heart disease. It also worsens sleep and can make pain feel more intense. In short, it adds another layer of trouble to people who already have enough to deal with.
I knew a man who lived this way. He was angry at everything. Conversations with him went in one direction. Nothing worked. No one was doing enough. Life had treated him unfairly, and he was not going to let it go. Then he had a stroke.
Afterward, something changed. He was calmer. Less reactive. The anger that had defined him was no longer there. Doctors reported that the brain controls more than movement and speech. It also regulates emotion. When it is injured, behaviour can change. Neurologists have reported both increased irritability and, in some cases, a reduction in long-standing anger.
But most people are not going to have a stroke that resets their outlook.
There is growing evidence that certain practices can shift the brain’s patterns over time. Research in neuroscience is showing that even as we age, the brain is not fixed. It doesn’t stop adapting at some particular age. It can continue to be stimulated or exercised in ways that rewire certain circuits.
Cognitive behavioural therapy, for example, teaches people to examine the thoughts that drive anger and disrupt entrenched patterns of thought. Mindfulness training helps create a mental pause before reacting. Exercise reduces tension and improves mood. These are not quick fixes, but they are supported by research.
Still, many people resist. They feel their anger is justified. But being justified does not make it useful. So what do you say to someone who is angry with life?
Telling someone to “stay positive” may not be a helpful message to people who are not yet able to appreciate the intention of the words. When consumed in anger, people perceive even olive branches as kindling to light a bigger fire. But there is a question worth asking. That is, is the anger helping?
And it’s best to find the right person to delve into that discussion. Who is able to open and sustain a wholesome discussion about wellbeing? It might not be the most obvious candidate.
But the point is to note that if the status quo does not involve good sleep, health, or relationships, then it may be time to try something else. This is not to deny the issues or pretend things are fine. But the goal is to reduce the cost of carrying that anger every day.
And time is not always on side with these matters. Managing life’s challenges can be difficult enough on their own. Don’t make them even harder by just waiting for change. Make it happen.
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From Ashes
From Ashes
By Wayne and Tamara
My life has been a disaster. My father was a legendary drunk who lied, chased women, and left us penniless when he died at age 48. My mother was hooked on prescription pills, smoked like a chimney, and was miserable until she passed. My sister is alcoholic and will probably die drunk.
I managed to get a master’s degree and some successes, but typically in relationships I lose myself and the rest of my life crashes and burns. I’ve been so codependent in the past I lost a job by trying to please a woman. Then, of course, she left because I didn’t have a job! I suppose I have to laugh about that.
I had some problems with booze also, but I haven’t drunk in 12 years. Here is something you wrote which definitely applies to me: “The effects on children of living with an alcoholic are well known. These include depression, inability to form close relationships, relentless self-criticism, inability to complete projects, and constant approval seeking. Children growing up in a household with an alcoholic are damaged children.”
I am resilient and keep going, trying to live a spiritual life, but sometimes feel like giving up. I married a beautiful but materialistic woman who committed adultery with a wealthy man, stole my money, and left after she put a curse on me with a chicken egg. No, I’m not kidding.
I obviously made a bad decision. I didn’t drink a drop through all this, but now I have little hope for the future. It could be a lot worse. I have little money, but at least I have no alimony or child support payments. I am physically healthy, and I have a good job.
My question is: what hope is there for us damaged folk? I’ve made a ton of progress from where I was 20 years ago, but I am afraid to do anything now lest some unknown character defect, caused by my childhood, ambush my thinking and cause me more pain in the future. I have become the poster boy for caution.
Clint
Clint, the children of alcoholics live in their own levels of Dante’s hell. Their life begins, as the poet said, in a place “savage, rough, and stern, which in the very thought renews the fear.” The worst thing about such families is that they take away the passion for life.
But that passion can be restored. Don’t take where you are now as a bad thing. Count yourself lucky. You are a newborn. You are at a perfect starting point. You have your health, you are not drinking, you have a job. Through some hard knocks, you know your weaknesses. You are ready to begin. The well-lived life is full of adventures. It involves learning skills, reading books, taking hot air balloon rides, rebuilding motors, and learning to fly fish. It includes things no one can ever take from you.
Think of what you want to accomplish for yourself and fill your own well. When your well is filled, you will have a sense of: look at what is all happening for me. Rediscovering your passions and putting yourself in the way of things brings you in contact with people who are alive. Surround yourself with others whose flame burns bright. Go to them, not to steal their fire, but to inspire you. Go on a retreat, join a gym, begin tai chi, find a therapist, or just relax. Explore. “We want the world and we want it…Now!” says a song by the Doors. But it doesn’t happen now. It happens by degrees, and one day we wake up and bad memories are like dead dates in a history book. They have no emotional charge.
Then, instead of desperately searching for someone, instead of being attracted by a female’s facade, you will find the kindred flame that also burns within you.
Wayne & Tamara
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Tailor Your Answers to the Employer’s Needs
Tailor Your Answers to the
Employer’s Needs
By Nick Kossovan
Employers don't care about your past; they care about their future. Yet most candidates walk into an interview prepared to recite their career history (read: water under the bridge) as if it were a biopic. They then wait for questions that'll give them a chance to explain why they're the right candidate for the job. When those questions aren't asked, which is very likely, they feel they didn't adequately convey their suitability for the job.
Waiting and hoping your interviewer recognizes your value isn't a viable strategy; it's a gamble with very low odds. Savvy job seekers don't just answer questions; they manage the interview. They don't see the interviewer's inexperience, vagueness, or unpreparedness as obstacles; rather, they see them as opportunities to steer the interview towards their value-add. They also understand that interviews are sales meetings, and it's their job to convince the employer that hiring them would be a good investment.
Every interaction with an employer, whether through your resume, cover letter, LinkedIn profile, or especially during interviews, is your chance to show that you understand their business and how you can contribute to their profitability.
Based on my experience, the majority of those who conduct hiring interviews do so as an appendage to their core responsibilities. Unless you're speaking with a full-time recruiter or HR, the person across from you is likely your future boss, who has a mountain of other responsibilities. Inevitably, there'll be times when your interview will be an interruption to your interviewer's workday, which, if it's filled with 'goings on', they'll have their head elsewhere. I've conducted many less-than-ideal interviews sandwiched between meetings, 'putting out fires,' or while dwelling on pressing matters.
This lack of focus is precisely why your interviewer may not have read your resume, may not remember reading it, and may ask vague, unstructured questions. When an interview starts to feel messy, your initial reaction might be to think, "This isn't going well!" However, a messy interview is an excellent opportunity to sell yourself. Remember, an interview is a sales meeting.
Don't wait for perfect questions; instead, subtly guide your interviewer. Tailor your answers to show you'd be a value-add to the employer's profitability.
· Weak Question: "So… tell me about your experience."
· Tailored Answer: "I've spent fifteen years in operations, but to make this most useful for you, I'll focus on the parts most relevant to this role—specifically where
I've led teams through high-pressure execution challenges and reduced overhead by 20%."
· Why it works: You're setting the direction. Rather than giving a long, unfocused history of your career, as most candidates do, you're presenting your skills and experience according to the job's requirements.
· Weak Question: "Tell me about a challenge you faced."
· Tailored Answer: "I'll use an example where a delivery was off-track, and the client was at risk. Since this role requires managing complex vendor relationships, this will show you how I navigate friction points."
· Why it works: You've tailored your answer to their needs. You're not just telling a story; you're illustrating your value.
· Weak Question: "What is your greatest strength?"
· Tailored Answer: "My strongest skill is identifying operational bottlenecks before they hit the P&L. For Vandelay Industries, which is scaling quickly, this means I can ensure your growth doesn't outpace your infrastructure."
· Why it works: You've turned a personality trait into a business asset.
· Weak Question: "Where do you see yourself in five years?"
· Tailored Answer: "In five years, I plan to have mastered this market segment. But more importantly, in the first six months here, I intend to have your new regional office operating at full capacity so that the five-year goals we set are starting to be visibly accomplished."
· Why it works: You've brought a hypothetical future back to you, being a hire that'll offer an immediate ROI. You're also telling them you're focused on their five-year plan, not just yours.
· Weak Question: "Why should we hire you instead of someone else?"
· Tailored Answer: "I'm not here just to do a job. I'm here to take on your challenges. This job appealed to me because of your recent expansion into the Toronto market. I have the specific vendor contacts and local regulatory experience that would enable me to shave three months off your rollout time."
· Why it works: You've moved from "I'm a hard worker," which every candidate claims to be, to "I am a strategic partner who can provide an advantage."
Guiding your interviewer, if necessary, isn't about taking control or appearing boastful. Instead, it's about helping them easily recognize your value. The more specific and relevant your responses are to the value you delivered to your previous employers, the less effort your interviewer needs to assess your value. The quality of your answers (read: their influence on your interviewer) is measured not by how long you talk, but by how effectively you communicate that you can influence the employer's profitability.
When your interviewer appears disengaged or seems to be struggling, don't get frustrated. Instead, do your best to provide answers that'll help them see you have the skills, experience, and drive to influence profitability.
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“You Don’t Get to Rewrite History — Especially When I Was There”
There’s a line in public life you don’t cross. Not policy. Not politics.
History.
Because when you start rewriting history to suit a narrative, you’re not leading anymore — you’re managing perception.
And in Clarington, that’s exactly what’s happening.
Let’s Be Very Clear — I Was There
I’m not commenting from the outside.
I was:
- The Regional Councillor when the Clarington Board of Trade was created
- The Mayor of Clarington who worked directly with it
So when I hear statements that don’t align with reality — I’m not guessing.
I’m correcting the record.
The Claim That Needs to Be Shut Down
The suggestion that the Greater Oshawa Chamber of Commerce was offered the opportunity to provide these services is not just misleading.
It’s false.
And Now It’s Being Repeated
Public commentary has suggested this was a competitive or open opportunity.
That did not occur.
Not formally. Not informally. Not procedurally.
What Actually Happened
Under the previous council — including Mayor Diane Hamre:
- The Greater Oshawa Chamber of Commerce was not recognized as representing Clarington businesses
- They were not permitted to be referenced in Council chambers in that capacity
How the Board of Trade Was Actually Created
- Clarington lost its Economic Development Officer - A Mayor’s Task Force was struck
- CAO Bill Stockwell stated:
“Business sells to business better than government sells to business.”
We created the Board of Trade as a targeted tool.
Its first Chair was Mike Patrick of the Bowmanville Foundry — a respected business owner who was chosen for a reason, not by accident.
Another Myth
When I became Mayor:
- I recognized the Chamber’s support for nuclear projects
- But I never opened the door for them to replace the Board of Trade
The model was already working.
What the Board of Trade Was Meant to Do
- Business Retention - Business-to-Business Engagement
The Current Model Works
- Board of Trade = retention - Municipality = growth
This Is About Accountability
This isn’t about opinion. It’s about record.
If a statement is made publicly — by anyone, including the current mayor — that contradicts how decisions were actually made… It deserves to be corrected.
Factually.
Final Reality Check
The Board of Trade:
- Was created intentionally - Was not the result of an open competition - Has a defined role
I have no issue with it.
Mr. X Takeaway
Accountability starts with the truth.
And the truth doesn’t change just because the narrative does.
FAZIO - THE LEGEND DIES… WHO WILL BE NEXT?
FAZIO - THE LEGEND DIES...
WHO WILL BE NEXT?
By Joe Ingino BA. Psychology
Editor/Publisher Central Newspapers
ACCOMPLISHED WRITER/AUTHOR OF OVER 800 ,000
Published Columns in Canada and The United States
It is a sign of the times. One after another local downtown businesses closing. Just recently it was announced that the famous ‘Fazio’s’, subsequently ‘The Legend of Fazio’, had it’s last serving.
Once a mighty hot spot. A hub for politicos, society butterflies and the like. It was a place to be seen.
This was during the good times of our core. Today our core looks and feels more like a battle ground than a welcoming place. Riddled with pot shops, questionable entities.
I have seen administrations come and go. I can tell you first hand. Municipal government have become ineffective. Made up of people that only care about either pensions, pension cushioning and or the un-employable that got lucky during an election. We do not have leaders... we have opportunists. As a local long standing business man and consultant based downtown. I can tell you that the decay of our core is the responsibility of the two elected downtown core council members. Neither of them have any business experience. Neither of them ever had a business in the core. Then how are we the taxpayers expecting them to know what is needed for the success of the core. I tried working with Rick Kerr, I offered my experience and connections in the core. He only came in once. When I spoke with him it was like i was speakings some foreign language. The other local elected scoundrel... could or will never be hired by anyone to hold a position of responsibility as that of which he has been elected. So what is he doing representing the downtown business community? He has never once visited my office as his local media and city newspaper. Instead this character, has attacked my local business and other downtown businesses. He has been known to waste tax payers dollars and resources on political vendettas hearings. In my opinion a punk with luck.
I can’t understand how voters allowed him a second term. I know that if I was in office. My frist thing would be to meet with all the local downtown businesses and land owners. Come up with special constituency plans addressing rents. The core will only come to life is we drop rental rates. Create parking and rid of the crime. I would assure that all downtown merchants received special hydro/gas cut rates. We can’t expect change with punks and dream catcher at the helm. I surely ask all reading this that during the 2026 we get rid of the deadwood and bring in some real business leadership.
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We scrutinize Rouge Park land. Why not golf courses the size of airports?
We scrutinize Rouge Park land. Why not golf courses the size of airports?
by Maj (ret’d) CORNELIU, CHISU, CD, PMSC
FEC, CET, P.Eng.
Former Member of Parliament
Pickering-Scarborough East
In the Greater Toronto Area, few debates have been as intense—or as politically charged—as the future of farmland and green space around Rouge National Urban Park. For years, governments, environmental advocates and local communities have contested every hectare. The objective is clear: protect prime agricultural land, preserve ecosystems and manage the pressures of relentless urban expansion. Now, with the federal government stepping away from the long-proposed Pickering airport on lands held for decades by Transport Canada, the debate has entered a new phase. Thousands of acres of publicly owned farmland—adjacent to Rouge Park—are once again open to policy decisions.
What should be done with them?
It is an important question. But it is also an incomplete one. Because while we scrutinize every acre of public land in Rouge and Pickering, we continue to ignore a far larger reality—one that sits in plain sight across Durham Region and the eastern GTA.
Golf courses.
The land we choose not to see
In Durham Region alone, golf courses occupy an estimated eight to 10 square kilometres of land. That is not a marginal figure. It is comparable to the footprint of Vancouver International Airport and not insignificant relative to Calgary International Airport or Edmonton International Airport.
If a proposal were brought forward today to build an airport of that size on prime land in the GTA, it would trigger years of environmental assessments, legal challenges and public consultations.
Yet that same scale of land already exists—distributed across golf courses—and it is almost entirely absent from serious policy discussion.
This is not an oversight. It is a contradiction.
A double standard
The case for protecting Rouge Park and the Pickering lands rests on the value of Class 1 farmland—some of the most productive soil in Canada. This is a compelling argument. Food security, climate resilience and long-term economic sustainability depend on preserving such land.
However, many golf courses sit on the same class of land.
They are often former farms, converted over time into low-density recreational spaces serving a relatively small portion of the population. They occupy large, contiguous tracts—exactly the kind of land policymakers now argue is too valuable to lose.
Yet, unlike farmland, golf courses are rarely subjected to the same scrutiny or policy pressure.
If the principle is that prime land must be protected for the public good, it cannot be applied selectively.
The Pickering paradox
The cancellation of the Pickering airport proposal has created a rare opportunity. For decades, these federally owned lands were effectively frozen, reserved for infrastructure that never came. Now, they can be reimagined. Some argue they should remain entirely agricultural. Others propose integrating them into Rouge Park. Still others see an opportunity for carefully planned development to address the region’s housing shortage.
All of these positions are valid.
However, they also reveal a deeper inconsistency.
We are prepared to debate publicly owned farmland hectare by hectare, while ignoring privately held land of comparable scale that could offer greater flexibility. It is as if one category of land is considered strategic, while another is simply beyond discussion.
Housing and hard choices The GTA’s housing shortage is no longer theoretical. Governments are under pressure to increase supply, accelerate approvals and identify land for development. At the same time, there is strong resistance—rightly so—to building on protected farmland or environmentally sensitive areas.
This is where the silence around golf courses becomes consequential.
These lands are: · already cleared and serviced · often located near existing infrastructure · large enough to support meaningful development Even partial repurposing—10 to 20 per cent of golf course land—could support tens of thousands of housing units across the region, while preserving recreational use. This is not about eliminating golf. It is about acknowledging that land use must evolve.
Why the silence persists
The answer is straightforward.
Golf courses are politically comfortable. They are established, familiar and rarely controversial. They do not generate the same level of opposition as new development or infrastructure projects. In short, they are easy to ignore. However, good policy is not about avoiding difficult conversations. It is about confronting them—especially when they involve trade-offs of this magnitude.
A question of fairness
Public lands like Rouge Park and the Pickering lands are subject to intense scrutiny because they are meant to serve the broader public interest. Their use must be justified in terms of environmental value, agricultural productivity or public access.Golf courses, by contrast, are typically: · privately owned or membership-based · accessible to a limited segment of the population · maintained with significant resource inputs
This is not an argument against golf. It is an argument for consistency. If one category of land must justify its use in terms of public benefit, then all categories should be held to a comparable standard.
Time for a coherent strategy
The real issue is not golf courses—or even the Pickering lands.It is the absence of a coherent, region-wide land-use strategy. What we have instead is fragmentation:
· intense scrutiny of public land · relative silence on large private land uses · reactive decisions driven by pressure rather than planning A serious strategy would apply consistent criteria across all land uses, evaluate them based on long-term public benefit and explore multi-use models that integrate recreation, housing and green space.
The broader test The debate over Rouge Park and the Pickering lands is necessary. However, its credibility depends on its scope.
If we are willing to scrutinize public farmland hectare by hectare, we must also be willing to examine other large-scale land uses with equal rigour.
Because in a region where land is finite and growth is inevitable, what we choose not to debate matters just as much as what we do.
And silence, in this case, is not neutrality.
It is a policy choice.
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Saturday, April 18, 2026
WRONG EXAMPLE
WRONG EXAMPLE
By Wayne and Tamara
I think I'm in a tight spot. My older brother is married with two young children. He was caught having a little Internet fling a few years ago. Nothing happened, but I suppose the correct way of putting it is he emotionally cheated. He felt like crud, and we all thought he had put this behind him. He and his wife have been to counseling, and he did his best to be the best husband ever. Currently they're tense whenever they are together. You can cut the air with a knife, and it seems they are always ready to snap at each other. It's not easy to be around them.
My brother and I went to lunch today. Lately he's been constantly texting on his device, and today it lit up with a text. I glanced at what he was typing, thinking it was business. I saw him type, "So u say u like to role play. Tell me…" I stopped and looked at the ground. I got a sick feeling in my stomach.
So now, what do I do? I really don't think he was texting his wife. They're not sexual or warm toward one another, and even if they were, he would know her likes by now, right? It's a new girl. Got to be. Do I tell my fiancée, who is friends with my sister-in-law?
Dennis
Dennis, will you share your thoughts and events of the day with your life partner? Or will you compartmentalize what you say to her? Your brother's marriage has reached a point where he is leading a second life away from his wife. That's not because it doesn’t concern her, but because he has become a double agent. Such a divide is always present with two people who don't belong together. You know what is right in a relationship. You saw a wrong happen, and you are affected by it. Your fiancée is also likely to be affected by it. By all means share what you saw. With her you want the closeness, love, and trust which is missing from your brother's marriage. Wayne & Tamara
Sticks And Stones
I am newly remarried and recently my husband compared a part of my body to his ex-wife, who I will call X. We were fooling around, and he grabbed my breast and said, "Nice, but X's are bigger." I freaked. I flipped him out of his chair, kicked him, and pushed him down the hallway, hitting and screaming at him. Last time I had that much anger and acted like that, I was in my 20s, angry at my first husband, and alcohol was involved. I feel bad I hit him and have made an appointment for counseling. My husband has apologized, but now I am thinking he must still be thinking of his ex, since he mentioned her body parts like that. I was not previously jealous, but now I am.
He has to maintain a relationship with her as they have a young child together. I am attractive, and she is fat and not very pretty. Should I just drop this? Maybe I am making a big deal out of nothing. Staci
Staci, the old line about sticks and stones is false. Words do hurt, especially from a loved one.
The real story is your feelings toward his ex-wife. In marrying him, you became her hostage. She is a cash and time drain on your marriage. Their child is a reminder of their sexual relationship. Even though you both have a past, you have to wonder, what did he do with her? How do I compare? The issue to explore in counseling is the basis of your gut reaction. Love, not looks, is the real basis for comparison with the ex-wife. If you and your husband share the deep emotional connection which holds two people together, there is nothing to worry about.
Wayne & Tamara
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The Right Attitude Helps with a Fractured Hip
The Right Attitude
Helps with a
Fractured Hip
Common Sense Health – Diana Gifford-Jones
No one wants to get that call. A loved one has taken a fall. There’s always the hope that it will be just a bruise and shaken confidence. But when the ensuing emergency treatment confirms a fractured hip, it’s time for everyone to bring out their best skills in patience.
Falls are, unfortunately, very common. But their consequences are anything but trivial. Research published in journals such as the Journal of Bone and Mineral Research and the New England Journal of Medicine has long shown that a hip fracture in later life is no walk in the park.
Yet, the major risks associated with hip fractures are well known, and medical teams are trained to mitigate the ones that can cause problems while in the hospital. Hip fracture surgery has risks, but today, most people come through it. Roughly four in five older adults survive the year following a hip fracture. Few will return to their previous level of mobility and independence. But a hip fracture today is not what it was forty years ago.
Dr. Mary Tinetti, Professor of Medicine at Yale University School of Medicine, has spent a career studying why people fall. One of her observations is that it is often the more active, capable older adult who sustains the most serious injuries. They move more quickly, take more chances, and neglect preventative measures.
Falling, she argues, is rarely due to a single cause. It is the result of small changes accumulating over time. Vision becomes less reliable. Balance is easily lost. Medications interact. Muscles lose strength.
Some falls are preventable. The edges of rugs are a hazard, as is poor lighting. Showers, even with grab bars, are slippery places. Preventing a fall means slowing down so that every movement is a safe and steady one. But even with care, falls still happen.
The evidence of many studies shows that frailty, rather than age, is the key determinant of rehabilitation outcomes. So whether before, for prevention, or after a fall, for recovery, exercise is critical. That’s why physiotherapy is standard practice for post-operative treatment. At any age, but particularly after 50, experts agree that people should be engaged in resistance training 2-3 days a week, aerobic exercise at least 3 times a week, and balance training just as frequently.
Having professional physiotherapists to guide a program of exercise is ideal. Left to their own devices, people fail to do what’s good for them. In the U.S., large-scale surveys show that even after encouragement, about 80 percent of people don’t meet the guidelines.
Getting started isn’t hard. Experts say that standing on one foot, then the other, while doing the dishes is one place to start. Slowly standing and sitting without using the arms is another good exercise.
But here’s interesting news. In a longitudinal study of nearly 700 people who experienced a fall, researchers found that mindset matters. Independent of other important factors such as age, gender, and pre-fall physical function, people with positive self-perceptions of aging had significantly better outcomes as measured two years after their fall.
In sports psychology, there is an expression, “The body achieves what the mind believes.” Athletes understand. Kids too. It’s just the older set that needs to internalize this.
So patience, but resolve, if you are the unlucky victim of a fractured hip. It’s a long road to recovery, but with careful and consistent exercise, and a healthy outlook, you can ensure your place in the group of people who come through the trauma.
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The Day We Stopped Answering the Knock
The Day We Stopped Answering the Knock
By Dale Jodoin
Columnist
It did not happen all at once. No one woke up and said, “That’s it, I don’t care anymore.” It came in small moments, quiet ones, the kind you almost miss. Like standing at the grocery checkout. The screen lights up. It asks for a donation. You pause. You think. You look at your cart like it might answer for you.
Then you press “no.” Not fast. Not angry. Just tired. You glance around for a second after, like someone might have seen. No one did. Or maybe they did and just understood. That is where the story really starts. A few years ago, most of us would have said yes. A dollar. Five dollars. Maybe more if we could. It felt like part of who we were. You help where you can. You do your part. That part of us is still here. But life has changed. Walk through any store now.
People are not browsing. They are calculating. You see it in their faces. They pick something up, check the price, then put it back. A man holds two packs of meat. He only takes one. A woman counts coins before she taps her card. A young worker checks his bank app before he pays. No one says a word.
But everyone understands. Money is tighter than it has been in a long time. Food costs keep rising. Every week it feels higher. Rent keeps climbing too. For many people, it is not just hard, it is overwhelming. You pay it, and there is not much left. Young people feel it the most. They are trying to start their lives, but it feels like the ground keeps moving.
Jobs are harder to find. Good jobs feel out of reach. Some move back home. Some take whatever they can get. Some just keep trying and hoping something opens up. And in the middle of all this, the tasks keep coming. Charities call. Emails pile up. Ads show up online.
The bank asks. The store asks. There is always another cause, another need, another voice asking for help. At first, people try to keep up. They give a little here, a little there. They tell themselves it still matters.
Then reality hits. A bigger grocery bill than last week.
A rent increase. A payment that suddenly hurts more than it used to. That is when something shifts. You start saying no more often. Not because you want to. Because you have to. And here is the part people do not say out loud. Some of us have started avoiding it on purpose. We tap faster at the machine. We look away from the person with the clipboard. We scroll past the story that asks for help.
Not because we do not care. Because we cannot carry one more thing. That is when the guilt creeps in. You feel it when you walk past a donation box. When you skip a fundraiser. When you ignore a message asking for help. You tell yourself, “Next time.” You tell yourself, “When things get better.”
But next time I keep moving further away. After a while, something else happens. You start turning the volume down on that feeling. You have to. Because caring like that, all the time, costs something. It costs energy. It costs peace. It follows you home and sits with you when you are trying to rest. So you quiet it.
From the outside, it can look like people stopped caring. That is not what is happening. People are trying to stay afloat. You cannot be generous when you are scared. Picture someone in deep water. They are not thinking about saving everyone else. They are trying to keep their own head above the surface. That is where a lot of Canadians are right now. And here is the hard truth. The more people are pushed, the less they can give. When every moment feels like another ask, another reminder, another weight, people do not open up. They close off. They protect what little they have left.
Money, yes. But also their energy, their peace, their sanity. There is another side to this that makes it even harder. We still spend on small things sometimes. A coffee. A treat. Something to feel normal for a moment. Then later, we look at the bill and wonder if we should have said yes to that donation instead. That back and forth sits with people. No one talks about the moment caring starts to feel like pressure.
But it is happening. There is also the question people keep to themselves. They look at what they pay in taxes. They hear about spending, programs, and promises. They are told more is needed. But their own lives are getting tighter, not easier. So they ask, quietly, where is it going? Why does it feel like it is never enough?
Those questions hang there. And still, the tasks keep coming. This is where the warning lives. If we keep pushing people who are already struggling, we risk losing something deeper than donations.
We risk losing trust. We risk wearing down the very instinct that made people want to help in the first place. Because generosity is not endless. It needs room. It needs stability. Right now, many people have neither.
They are not bad people. They are not selfish. They are tired. They are stretched thin. They are doing everything they can just to hold their own lives together.
We still care. We just ran out of room to carry it all. If we want that caring to come back strong, we have to let people stand again first.
Ease the pressure. Give people room to breathe. Because when people feel steady again, they will give. They always have. But here is the part we should not ignore. Some people have already stopped answering the knock.
And that number is growing. That is the warning. Because when people stop answering, it is not loud. It is quiet.
Quiet enough that no one notices at first. Until one day, the knock is still there. But no one opens the door.
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When Good Intentions Go Wrong
When Good Intentions Go Wrong
The Bike Lane Problem in Bowmanville There’s a difference between smart infrastructure and ideological infrastructure. Right now, in parts of downtown Bowmanville—particularly corridors like Liberty Street and King Street East—we’re not seeing thoughtful planning. We’re seeing the forced application of a one-size-fits-all policy that ignores the physical realities of the road.
Let’s be clear: this is not an argument against cycling. Cycling infrastructure, when done properly, improves safety, reduces congestion, and enhances communities. But when it’s forced into corridors that were never designed to accommodate it—by stripping away existing traffic lanes—we create the opposite outcome: congestion, driver frustration, and, ironically, new safety risks. What we’re witnessing is a classic case of policy over practicality.
Downtown Bowmanville is not a wide, multi-lane urban grid. It is a constrained, functioning corridor that already balances commercial access, parking, deliveries, and commuter traffic. Removing a live traffic lane in that environment doesn’t “calm traffic”—it compresses it.
The result? - Increased bottlenecks - Reduced emergency response efficiency
- More aggressive driving behavior due to congestion
- And in some cases, greater risk for both drivers and cyclists There is a better way—and it already exists.
Across Europe, municipalities have moved toward dedicated, off-road cycling networks wherever possible.
These are: - Physically separated from vehicular traffic
- Integrated with parks, boulevards, and secondary corridors - Designed for safety without compromising primary road function.
This is not theory. It’s proven. Instead of forcing bike lanes onto already constrained arterial roads, municipalities like Clarington—and across Durham Region—should be asking a simple question: Where can cycling infrastructure be built properly, not just conveniently?
That means: - Leveraging hydro corridors - Utilizing parkland connections - Creating parallel cycling routes off main streets - Designing infrastructure that works with traffic, not against it Because good planning isn’t about checking a box—it’s about outcomes.
Right now, the outcome in parts of Bowmanville is clear: more congestion, more confusion, and a growing disconnect between policy and lived experience. If we actually care about safety—for cyclists and drivers alike—we need to stop forcing infrastructure into places it doesn’t belong and start designing it where it does.
That’s not anti-cycling. That’s just good planning.
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Dear Fellow Canadians
Dear Fellow Canadians
By Bruno Scanga
Financial Columnist
According to Statistic Canada, over $10,000,000,000 was donated from 5,000,000 Canadians to charity in 2019. All these donations are eligible for a non-refundable tax credit.
By using Life Insurance, you can increase your overall charitable donation benefiting a cause that really means something to you. Donating funds to the Canada Revenue Agency through taxation just doesn’t provide the same legacy.
Enhance Your Charitable Giving Using Life Insurance
Below are two structures that allow you enhance your donation to the charity of your choice and potentially pay less tax.
Personally Owned Life Insurance: Purchase a Life Insurance policy where you are the owner/payor of the policy with your chosen charity as the beneficiary.
Policy growth is tax-free increasing your overall donation. When you die the charity receives the death benefit tax-free. Your estate receives a tax credit of up to 100% of net income for both the year of death and the year immediately preceding it. You have access to the cash value during your life as the owner of the policy.
Can change the beneficiary at any time.
Charity owned Life Insurance:
Purchase a Life Insurance policy and make the charity the owner and beneficiary. You pay the premiums. Every year you receive a tax credit in the amount of the premium paid. Maximum donation credit is 75% of net income per year while living. Unused credits can be carried forward up to 5 years. Charity has access to cash value and they control the policy.
Using Life Insurance, you have enhanced your charitable contribution by 33.42%.
The option you choose is dependent on your income tax situation and where you want to use the non-refundable tax credit (annually or at the time of death). With both options, the legacy that you can provide a charity has been significantly increased.
If this is something that resonates with you, please reach out to discuss enhancing your
legacy.
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Fighting Cancer With Precision
Fighting Cancer
With Precision
Common Sense Health – Diana Gifford-Jones
In my work with universities, I meet an array of Canada’s leading researchers. This week, it was Arghya Paul, Canada Research Chair in the Department of Chemical and Biochemical Engineering and Chemistry at Western University in London, Ontario. Professor Paul and his team of young researchers are investigating new ways to fight cancer.
For decades, the war on cancer has relied on chemotherapy and radiation to kill cancer cells, treatments that often harm healthy cells too.
Now, scientists like Paul are exploring smarter ways to deploy drugs. He is working not at the scale of the tumour or the cancerous lesion, but at the biomolecular level of the nanoscale. That’s one billionth of a metre, where materials can be engineered to interact with the body in highly specific ways.
Instead of flooding the body with toxic chemicals, researchers are designing tiny biocompatible particles that travel through the bloodstream, seek out cancer cells, and act only where needed. It is a guided system rather than a scattershot approach. These particles can be activated by ultrasound waves. When exposed to a specific ultrasound intensity, they heat up and destroy tumour cells from within. Healthy cells nearby are largely spared.
Additionally, these particles can track tumor sites in the body using advanced clinical imaging systems. That means they can do more than one job at a time. They help doctors both see cancer cells more clearly and site-specifically destroy them. Detection and treatment are part of the same process.
This is a big shift in thinking. For years, medicine has treated diagnosis and therapy as separate steps. First find the disease. Then treat it. Now, the two are beginning to merge.
As Professor Paul explains, “This research represents a shift from treating cancer with blunt tools to engineering precise responses at the microscopic level. We’re beginning to program how therapeutic agents should interact with cancer cells rather than simply attacking them.”
His research lab is looking into how these systems can be built to respond to the unique environment of a tumour. Cancer cells often differ from normal cells in subtle ways. They may have slightly more acidic surroundings, different oxygen levels, or altered surface markers. Nanoparticles can be engineered to recognize these differences and act only when they are encountered.
The goal is simple in concept, but revolutionary in practice: maximum damage to cancer, minimal harm to the patient.
There is still a long road ahead. Much of this work is in experimental stages. What works in a laboratory dish or in animal studies does not always translate to human patients. Safety, long-term effects, and large-scale manufacturing are all challenges that must be overcome.
But the direction is clear. We are moving away from a model of medicine that relies on broadly toxic interventions, and toward one emphasizing precision, personalization, and control. This could mean fewer side effects, shorter recovery periods, and more effective treatments.
It could also mean catching and eliminating cancers earlier, before they have a chance to spread.
What’s another important insight? The future of medicine will not come from biology alone. It will come from the merging of physics, engineering, chemistry, and medicine. We need to stop thinking about doctors solely as people who come out of medical schools. The lifesavers may be graduates of engineering programs in advanced materials.
We are not yet at the point where cancer can be treated without risk or discomfort. But we are closer to a world where treatment is targeted, intelligent, and far less destructive, using microscopic tools designed with extraordinary precision, aimed directly at the disease, and nowhere else.
Carry on, researchers!
Practicing Water Conservation
Practicing Water Conservation
by Larraine Roulston
‘Protecting Our Ecosystem’
After reading that the Colorado River is experiencing severe low water levels, it’s a reminder that Canadian waters need our safeguarding. If you haven’t already begun, by making small changes to conserve water in your home, your water bills will be lower as well.
The family chefs can become water efficient when rinsing fresh produce. Place these foods in a bowl of water rather than running the tap. Add a little salt or vinegar and let the vegetables sit for several minutes to help remove pesticide residue.
Vegetable stock that is used to create soups can also be poured over oats to make porridge or used to boil rice. Save pasta water to thicken soups.
Allow frozen foods to thaw in the fridge rather than immersing them in running water, unless the instructions on the package state otherwise.
Run your dishwasher when full. If washing dishes by hand, rinse them first in a bowl of warm water to keep your soapy water clean and hot. Soak sticky pots and pans overnight.
Cooking with a steamer or pressure cooker uses less water than boiling veggies in a pot.
Place a jug of water in the fridge so that you don’t have to run the tap for a cold drink.
Aerators can be installed on faucets. They will mix air with water which reduces the flow rate without water pressure being compromised. Be on the lookout for leaks and dripping pipes.
Opportunities also exist in the bathroom by simply turning off the sink’s tap while shaving, brushing teeth, and soaping hands.
Taking showers with cooler water saves energy and has been noted to boost muscle recovery, increase circulation and energy levels.
Installing low-flush or dual-flush toilets and water-saving shower heads will reduce water usage.
In the laundry room, wash full loads in cold water. If you are able to catch rinse water, use it to wash matts, slippers, or to wipe floors. Wear clothes more than once, thus reducing the amount of laundry.
Use a bucket of water rather than a hose to wash the car. Strive for low maintenance landscaping that includes native plants. Replace some grassy areas with a ground cover.
Obtain a rain barrel. Water your lawn with grey water. Retain water in your garden by composting and placing mulch around plants.
Watering your garden in the early morning reduces evaporation loss and prevents fungal growth by allowing leaves to dry.
Sweep walkways, steps, and driveways rather than using a hose. When using a hose, control the flow with an automatic shut-off nozzle. Avoid water toys that require a constant stream of water.
If going to a spa, take your own robe and towels. It’s such a waste to see these being washed after a single use. Small challenges and awareness! These simple acts will help retain our waterways.
Try These ‘Offbeat’ Job Search Tactics to Shorten Your Job
Try These ‘Offbeat’ Job Search
Tactics to Shorten Your Job
Search
By Nick Kossovan
In 2026, being 'qualified' is merely the price of entry into the job market. A major challenge for job seekers is that hiring managers are inundated with AI-slop, creating 'all the same' applications that are not only uninspiring, but also render a candidate's qualifications invisible.
Nowadays, job seekers need a job search strategy that catches the attention of recruiters and hiring managers; to do this, they must 'be different.' Being different involves thinking creatively about how to showcase your skills and enthusiasm to contribute to the company's profitability, which is often more important than your qualifications.
Here are some 'offbeat' tactics to get an employer's or recruiter's attention.
Compile a Failure Portfolio
It's through failures that meaningful lessons emerge and wisdom grows, which is why I'm drawn to comeback and 'here's what I learned' stories.
Employers are terrified of risk, and, as a 2025 Harvard Business Review article noted, hiring managers are increasingly seeking "psychological safety through candidates who've already survived their biggest mistakes."
Create a one-page document that shows you've learned from your mistakes. List your three biggest professional 'train wrecks,' the lessons you've gained, and the safeguards you now have in place to avoid repeating them. Use this document to demonstrate you're a reliable candidate because you've 'been there, done that.'
Before Your Interview, Send a '30-60-90 Day Action Plan'
I favour proactive candidates because they demonstrate their ability and willingness to self-manage.
Prepare a 30-90-Day Action Plan detailing how you'll approach your new job, integrate with your new colleagues, and become a valuable employee as quickly as possible. As with a Failure portfolio, the key is to submit your action plan before your interview. Doing so shifts the conversation from "Do you have the skills?" to "How do you plan to make an impact?" and shows you aren't just looking for a paycheck.
Mail a Physical 'Technical Brief'
With 99% of communication being digital, a physical object arriving on a desk feels revolutionary.
Print a coil-bound' Technical Brief' that discusses a challenge the company is facing, such as a decrease in customer satisfaction scores or a slow product rollout, and how you'd address it. This document, to be sent by registered mail to your potential boss, provides evidence that you understand the company's pain point and possess the qualifications to address it.
Create a 'Video Proof of Concept'
In a job market rife with bad actors, claiming you can use Salesforce or use Solver to create predictive models often elicits skepticism. Prove you're the real deal! Record a two-minute screen share showing how you'd optimize Salesforce or media spend allocation using Solver. Video proof shifts the decision to hire you from mere trust to tangible evidence, eliminating the 'onboarding anxiety' that often slows hiring decisions. In the words of tech leaders, "The demo is the deal."
Review the Hiring Manager's Public Statements and Offer a Critique
Flattery is cheap and easily ignored. Instead, find a recent article, podcast, or LinkedIn post by the hiring manager and send them a professional, assertive critique or an 'extension' of their idea via email. For example: "When you were a guest on Austin Becak's podcast 'The Dream Job System Podcast,' you spoke about your thoughts on call centre churn, but you overlooked the impact of tiered incentive structures on Tier 2 agents." Sharing your opinions, ideas, or perspectives positions you as a peer rather than a subordinate and demonstrates that you have the confidence to speak up rather than be another 'yes-man,' which often turns hiring managers off.
Treat the Job Posting as a Request for Proposal (RFP)
Who's a less risky hire: a full-time employee, taking on a long-term financial liability, or a contractor with no long-term liability? In case you missed the memo or haven't been paying attention to all the layoffs happening, employees are essentially free agents, so why not start acting like one? The next time you see a job posting for a role you believe you're qualified for, instead of applying, consider submitting a proposal as if you're a consultant (free agent). Include sections like 'Terms of Service,' 'Projected Deliverables,' 'Cost-Benefit Analysis,' and 'Length of Contract.'
Proposing a consultant arrangement not only offers the employer a low-risk, cost-effective alternative to hiring a full-time employee, but also encourages the hiring manager to evaluate you on business grounds rather than against an HR checklist.
Offer to Do the Work
An employer's biggest concern is hiring someone who isn't the right fit or lacks the necessary skills. Ease that concern by offering to do an hour of actual work—such as identifying a process bottleneck, troubleshooting a live technical issue, or outlining a plan for vendor negotiations. Say: "Don't take my word for it; let's spend sixty minutes solving a live problem." A 'try-before-you-buy' approach—walking your talk—is very appealing.
Playing it "safe" keeps you invisible and unemployed. The aforementioned offbeat tactics do more than make you different; they show employers you have the grit and initiative most job seekers lack. As Henry Ford once said, "If you keep doing what you've always done, you'll keep getting what you've always got."
When Labels Become Identity: A Warning We Should Not Ignore
When Labels Become Identity: A Warning We Should Not Ignore
By Dale Jodoin
Columnist
Have you noticed how quickly people are labeling each other now? It shows up in conversation, online, and in how people describe who they are. It may seem harmless at first, even helpful, but it carries a risk that should not be ignored. Because once labels take hold, judgment follows. There are no official cards being handed out in Canada.
No one is lining up to receive papers that define them. But in a different way, something similar is starting to appear. Labels are being worn openly, almost like identity cards.
Not in your wallet, but in how you present yourself and how others decide where you belong. That should give people pause. History has shown what can happen when societies begin sorting people into fixed groups. In the Soviet Union, citizens were classified by class. Worker. Farmer. Enemy.
These were not just labels. They shaped lives and limited opportunity. In the People's Republic of China during the Cultural Revolution, people were judged by family background. Good class or bad class. Those labels followed individuals for years and often defined their future. Most Canadians would agree those systems went too far. And today, there is no formal version of that here. But the warning is not about what exists on paper. It is about what is forming in practice.
The shift begins quietly. Words like privilege and victimhood are used more often. People are grouped before they are understood. In many cases, the goal is to address real issues such as inequality and fairness. Those are important conversations.
But something changes when the focus moves from helping people to defining them. The label comes first. The individual comes second. Critics say the New Democratic Party reflects this shift, with messaging that focuses on groups defined by disadvantage or privilege. Supporters call it fairness.
Critics say it risks turning people into categories first, citizens second. That concern is part of a wider shift, not just one party or one idea.
And that is where the warning becomes clear. Because once a society becomes comfortable assigning identity based on group, it becomes easier to assume things about the person in front of you. It becomes easier to judge. It becomes easier to divide. A man standing in line at a grocery store is not thinking about labels. He is thinking about the price of food. But in the wider conversation, he may already be placed into a group before anyone knows his story. That is where the disconnect begins.
Across communities, people are saying similar things in plain language. I just want to be treated fairly. I work hard, but I feel judged before I even speak.
No one sees my situation. These are real voices. Some, especially men of European background, say they feel they are being viewed through the lens of the past rather than their own actions. They hear conversations about history and feel that weight placed on them, even though they had no role in those events.
At the same time, others point out that history still shapes the present. Access to jobs, education, and opportunity has not always been equal. Ignoring that would also be a mistake. Both realities can exist at once. You cannot inherit guilt.
But you can inherit circumstances. The problem begins when those realities turn into fixed labels. Because labels are simple. Too simple. They reduce complex lives into single categories. They overlook effort, struggle, and personal story. They replace understanding with assumption.
And once that happens, something changes. Trust weakens. Conversations break down. People stop listening to each other. History shows that this kind of shift does not happen overnight. It builds slowly. One label at a time. One assumption at a time. That is why this moment matters.
Most people in Canada still see themselves as Canadian. They are not thinking in categories. They are focused on daily life. Paying rent. Buying groceries. Raising their children. Trying to move forward.
Many newcomers feel the same way. They are grateful for the opportunity to be here. They want to work, contribute, and build a stable life. That is the quiet majority. But there is also a smaller group that pushes these ideas more strongly. They speak loudly about identity and categories. They try to define people before those people can define themselves. That is where the concern grows. Because once people accept labels without question, they begin to see others through them.
And that changes how people are treated. It changes how decisions are made. It changes how a country sees itself. The danger is not in recognizing problems. The danger is in deciding who a person is before you know them. Because that decision can be wrong. It can be unfair.
And it can close the door to understanding before it even begins. This is why the idea of a modern card system, even as a metaphor, matters. Not because cards exist. But because the thinking behind them can grow quietly. And when it does, it shapes everything. It shapes language. It shapes judgment. It shapes how people treat each other. So this is the warning. Be careful with labels.
Be careful when you apply them to yourself.
Be careful when you apply them to others. Because the moment you decide who a person is before you understand them, you step into something dangerous. And that danger does not stay in one place. It spreads through conversation, through assumption, through everyday life. Until one day, the label matters more than the truth.
Canada works best when people are judged as individuals. Not as categories. Not as assumptions. Just people. So stay aware. Watch how people treat you. Watch how you treat others. Because the real danger is not the label. It is the moment you stop questioning it.
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STRONG MAYOR POWER CARRIES TO REGION
STRONG MAYOR POWER CARRIES TO REGION
Strong Mayor Powers Ontario have just made their way to the Regional Municipality of Durham — and with them comes something far more consequential than most people realize.
This isn’t just governance reform.
This is the beginning of the end of regional government as we know it.
The Shift No One Is Talking About
The Province is moving to:
- Appoint the Regional Chair
- Grant strong chair powers
- Centralize authority at the top
On paper, it looks like efficiency.
In reality?
It’s an admission that the current system doesn’t work.
Mr. X’s Position (On Record)
I made a recommendation to the Province of Ontario:
- Eliminate regional councillors
- Convert the Chair into a Speaker of the House
- Let Mayors vote with weighted authority
This isn’t theory — it’s already been accepted in principle at the Regional Municipality of Niagara.
And it works.
The Core Problem: Duplication & Dysfunction
Regional government today is:
- Redundant
- Politically bloated
- Structurally inefficient
You have:
- Local councils doing local work
- Regional councils duplicating governance layers
- Staff reporting through parallel systems
The result?
Delay, cost, and zero accountability.
What Strong Chair Powers Really Mean
The Province isn’t “empowering leadership.”
They’re trying to:
- Force decisions
- Override gridlock
- Streamline approvals
But here’s the truth:
If you need strong mayor powers at the regional level…
The structure itself is broken.
The 4-Year Warning
Regional government has 4 years to prove it can justify its existence.
If it doesn’t:
- It will be dismantled
- Or fundamentally restructured
The Only Path Forward
Regions must become a Services Board — Nothing More
That means:
- Eliminate duplication
- Focus ONLY on:
- Water / wastewater
- Major roads
- Transit
- Mandated services under the Municipal Act, 2001 (Ontario)
Everything else?
Gone.
The Real Future Model
- Mayors run the show
- Weighted voting replaces regional councillors
- Chair becomes procedural, not political
This is not radical.
It’s inevitable.
Final Word
The Province didn’t just change legislation.
They sent a message:
“Fix it — or we will.”
Regional governments can either:
- Reinvent themselves as lean, service-focused bodies
OR
- Go down as one of the most inefficient governance experiments in Ontario history
Mr. X Verdict:
This is not reform.
This is a countdown.
Remembering the Battle of Vimy Ridge, 109 Years Later
Remembering the Battle of Vimy Ridge, 109 Years Later
by Maj (ret’d) CORNELIU, CHISU, CD, PMSC
FEC, CET, P.Eng.
Former Member of Parliament
Pickering-Scarborough East
There are moments in history when a nation does not merely act—it becomes. For Canada, that moment came on the cold, scarred heights of Vimy Ridge in April 1917.
Between April 9 and 12, more than 100,000 Canadians fought together for the first time as a unified corps. They faced a fortified German position that had defeated previous Allied assaults and was widely considered impregnable. Yet, through meticulous preparation, disciplined execution, and collective resolve, the Canadians did what others could not: they took the ridge.
Vimy was not simply a battlefield victory. It was the forging of a national identity.
The cost was staggering. Canada suffered over 10,600 casualties in just four days, including 3,598 killed. April 9 remains the bloodiest day in Canadian military history. These were not professional soldiers alone—they were citizens in uniform. Farmers, labourers, students, immigrants. French and English Canadians, Indigenous soldiers, and newcomers all fought side by side. In their shared sacrifice, they revealed the essence of Canada before it fully knew itself.
Historians have long argued that Vimy marked the moment Canada stepped out from Britain’s shadow and asserted its own capability and confidence on the world stage. Brigadier-General Alexander Ross famously described witnessing “the birth of a nation.” That phrase endures not because it is poetic, but because it captures a profound truth: Canada emerged from Vimy more unified, more self-assured, and more conscious of its destiny.
Yet the lesson of Vimy is not found in symbolism alone. It lies in how the victory was achieved.
The Canadian Corps did not rely on luck or sheer courage. They rehearsed relentlessly. They mapped every trench, studied every metre of terrain, and coordinated artillery with unprecedented precision.
The creeping barrage—moving in timed increments ahead of advancing troops—allowed infantry to follow closely behind a curtain of fire.
This was not reckless sacrifice; it was disciplined innovation.
That Canadian approach—thorough, methodical, intelligent—became a hallmark of subsequent victories. Under the leadership of Arthur Currie, Canadian forces refined tactics that emphasized planning over impulse and effectiveness over spectacle. From Hill 70 to Amiens, the Canadian Corps earned a reputation not just for bravery, but for competence.
And that may be Vimy’s most enduring lesson.
Because today, Canada faces a different kind of battlefield—one shaped by geopolitical instability, economic uncertainty, and shifting global power dynamics. The war in Europe has shattered illusions about lasting peace on the continent. The Middle East remains volatile. Great power competition is intensifying. The rules-based international order, long taken for granted, is under strain.
At home, Canadians are grappling with economic pressures, housing challenges, and questions about national resilience. We are no longer insulated from the turbulence of the world. Geography alone cannot protect us. History reminds us that complacency is not a strategy.
Just months after Vimy, the world was struck by the Spanish influenza, which claimed millions of lives globally and deeply affected Canada. More recently, the COVID-19 pandemic exposed vulnerabilities in global systems and tested national cohesion. Each crisis—military or medical—has reinforced the same truth: resilience is built before the crisis, not during it.
Vimy teaches us that success is never accidental. It is the product of preparation, unity, and leadership.
Today, that means strengthening Canada’s defence capabilities—not as an act of aggression, but as a responsibility in an increasingly dangerous world. It means investing in our armed forces, modernizing our infrastructure, and ensuring that Canada can contribute meaningfully to collective security alongside its allies.
But it also means something deeper.
The soldiers at Vimy did not fight as isolated individuals. They fought as Canadians—with a shared sense of purpose and duty.
That civic responsibility must not be lost in our time. A strong nation is not built solely through policy; it is sustained through the character of its citizens.
We must rediscover that sense of collective obligation—to one another and to the country we share. In an age of division and uncertainty, unity is not a luxury. It is a necessity.
As we reflect on Easter 1917, we should remember not only the courage of those who advanced across that shattered ridge, but the discipline and preparation that made their success possible. We should remember that nationhood is not a fixed achievement, but an ongoing responsibility.
And we should ask ourselves a difficult but necessary question: are we living up to the legacy they left us? Are our leaders demonstrating the foresight and resolve required for the challenges ahead? Are we, as citizens, prepared to shoulder our share of responsibility?
The answers will define the Canada of tomorrow.
Because Vimy is not just history. It is a standard.
A reminder that in moments of uncertainty, Canadians have risen—not through rhetoric, but through action. Not through division, but through unity. Not through chance, but through preparation.
The men who fought at Vimy Ridge did their duty.
Now, the question is whether we are prepared to do ours.
Lest we forget.
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FACT vs FICTION SETTING THE RECORD STRAIGHT
FACT vs FICTION
SETTING THE RECORD STRAIGHT
By Maurice Brenner
Regional Councillor Ward 1 Pickering
There has been a lot of discussion about intensification across Pickering from Altona Road to the Brock, triggering concerns raised about the impact it will have on our aging limited infrastructure and already congested roads.
While it’s fact that Pickering Planning has processed or is actively reviewing (33) development proposals that collectively include (103) towers exceeding seven storeys in height. These proposals represent a mix of high-density mixed-use buildings, retirement residences, long-term care facilities, and a hotel.
It’s also fact, that these proposals are at various stages of the planning and building permit approval process, ranging from the initial review of Official Plan Amendment and/or Zoning By-law Amendment applications, to projects that have received planning approvals, only a limited number are under construction with several towers currently on hold or inactive.
In the spirit of transparency , City Planning Staff at my request prepared a breakdown of the current status of towers in the development approval process:
-On hold / inactive development proposals (16 towers)
-Appealed to the Ontario Land Tribunal (20 towers)
-Official Plan Amendment and/or Zoning By-law Amendment under Review by the City (30 towers)
-Official Plan Amendment and/or Zoning By-law Amendment approved by Council (19 towers)
-Site Plan Applications under review (11 towers)
Of this total, only (7) Building permits have been issued and are currently under construction.
The following towers have received all required planning approvals and building permits and are currently under construction:
• Two high-density mixed-use towers by CentreCourt at Shops at Pickering City Centre.
• Two high-density towers by Chestnut Hill Developments at Universal City (UC6 & UC7).
• Two mixed-use high-density towers by Tribute at the VuPoint project.
• One 15-storey long-term care facility proposed by Southbridge Healthcare, which was approved through a site-specific enhanced Ministers ’Zoning Order
Contrary to the belief that Pickering is on the verge of becoming a concrete jungle, only (7) of the (103) proposed towers are currently under construction. Of these, (6) are for high-density mixed-use developments located in the City Centre, while the remaining tower is for a 15-storey long-term care facility proposed by Southbridge Healthcare on Valley Farm Road.
While additional towers may proceed in the future, City staff anticipates that up to (11) more towers could be constructed over the next 5 to 10 years. Development of the remaining towers is long-term and uncertain, and will depend on many external factors that caused the current condo market to crash, and unlikely to recover for many years.
These same developers that saw yesterdays boom as a winning lottery ticket will need to find new ways that meet the new realities of today and into the future.
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