SENIORS MONTH

t By Todd McCarthy MPP Durham This year, our government themed Seniors Month, ‘Working for Seniors’ which emphasized the continued importance of supporting older adults through vital programs and initiatives that provide wellness, social engagement and education in communities across the province. Seniors Month in Ontario has been celebrated since 1984, making this year the 40th anniversary of recognizing Ontario’s outstanding seniors and recognizing the positive impact they have made on the lives of Ontario’s current residents. In 2021, the number of adults aged 65 and over was approximately 2.6 million and this figure is expected to grow exponentially as Ontario is projected to house 4.4 million seniors by 2046. It is paramount that we provide these seniors with the services they need as these individuals have made enormous contributions in building the Ontario we all enjoy today. I am exceptionally proud of the work that the Ministry of Seniors and Accessibility has done - and continues to do - to address the needs of Ontario’s seniors while also helping these individuals contribute to all aspects of our community life. n Of significance, the Seniors Active Living Centre (SALC) Program promotes wellness, social interaction, education and support services with the goal of keeping seniors healthy and independent through approximately 316 programs across the province. This program was especially important to Durham as we had 6 different organizations receive grants from the SALC Program. The Bowmanville Older Adult Association, and five of Oshawa’s Senior Citizens Centres all received annualized funding of $51,137. This sum of annualized funding will be used at these organizations to bolster the services they provide and will allow seniors to continue to thrive in our community. In addition to the SALC Program, our government also provided grants through the Seniors Community Grant Program which funds local not-for-profit community groups and organizations to deliver projects supports and resources that help older adults by offering a wide variety of activities to promote engagement, reduce isolation and promote healthy living. In Durham, these grants were awarded to Clarington Public Library ($17,740), the Municipality of Clarington ($18,630), Theatre 3x60 ($24,950) and New Life Global Church ($25,000). This funding is crucial for these organizations to continue to be able to provide seniors with support that they would not otherwise receive. If more information regarding these programs is required, visit our new website ontario.ca/seniors and our Guide to Programs and Services for Seniors as there is a wealth of information for seniors and caregivers concerning health, finances, housing, security and more. Providing seniors with these programs is extremely important. As Minister Cho, the Minister of Seniors and Accessibility has stated, “Our government knows that Ontario’s communities are strengthened, and everyone benefits when our aging population can stay active and connected with local supports”. As Seniors Month in Ontario comes to a close, our government has worked with many municipalities and community partners to provide necessary resources that promote the health and well-being of Ontario’s seniors. In providing this support, we have reduced social isolation in numerous communities, Durham included, to ensure seniors have the opportunity to thrive in their later life. In the months following Ontario’s Seniors Month, it is important to continue to encourage everyone to reach out to a senior in their life and acknowledge the achievements they garnered for Ontario. Let’s recognize Ontario’s seniors and help them to stay active, fit and socially connected to their community.

Celebrating Canada Day (Dominion Day) with Heritage and Traditions

As we celebrate Canada Day, I am filled with pride for our beautiful country and everything it represents. Our nation, founded under God, stands as a beacon of freedom, democracy, and unity. These values, symbolized by our iconic Canadian flag, inspire me every day in my role as a politician. From the early days of Jacques Cartier to Sir John A. MacDonald, Canada was built on Christian principles, with deep roots in the Church of England and a devotion to God’s teachings. Our Parliament buildings, adorned with biblical passages, remind us of this heritage. Psalm 72:8, inscribed on the Peace Tower, proclaims, “May He have dominion from sea to sea,” reflecting our identity as The Dominion of Canada. This is more than just history; it’s a call to uphold the values of faith, justice, and unity that shaped our nation. Today, however, these foundational principles are under threat. Our educational institutions often overlook Canada’s Christian heritage, teaching instead a narrative devoid of these roots. The rise of secularism and the promotion of ideologies that contradict our historical values concern me deeply. It’s essential to educate our children, not indoctrinate them. We must ensure our schools foster critical thinking and respect for diverse opinions, rather than pushing one-sided agendas. Unfortunately, some politicians prioritize political posturing over patriotism, choosing to fly special interest flags on government buildings rather than solely our national and government flags. This is, in my opinion incredibly unpatriotic. The Canadian flag should always be our number one symbol, alongside the veterans’ flag, honoring those who made the ultimate sacrifice for our freedom. It’s unfortunate that some politicians care more about special interest groups and d gaining votes, than upholding the very foundations on which Canada was built: the supremacy of God, our Bill of Rights, and our Charter of Rights and Freedoms. The erosion of these values undermines the sacrifices made by our veterans who fought for the freedoms we enjoy. To preserve their legacy, we must resist the pull of transient cultural shifts and the so-called “woke” ideologies that seek to redefine our national identity. Holding onto our traditions is not just a matter of nostalgia; it’s about safeguarding the moral and spiritual fabric of our society. Biblical passages like Ephesians 6:13, which calls us to “put on the full armor of God,” remind us of our duty to stand firm against the challenges we face. As a nation, we must remember that our strength lies in our unity and our adherence to the principles that have guided us since our founding. We are a nation under God, and it is His sovereignty that has sustained us. On this Canada Day, let us reflect on our heritage and renew our commitment to the values that define us. Together, we can keep Canada strong and free, a place where everyone can thrive and contribute to our shared future. As we celebrate, let’s proudly wave our Canadian flag, our true pride flag, and reaffirm our commitment to this great nation and its enduring values. Please sign up for my online newsletter. Through my web site: lisarobionpolitician.ca "Strength Does Not Lie In The Absence Of Fear, But In The Courage To Face It Head-On And Rise Above It"

Rethinking harmful DEI policies that are steering us towards Communism

By Patricia Conlin Have you ever heard of the phrase Divide and Conquer which was made famous by Julius Caesar during the Roman Empire? This military strategy to control the masses has worked so well over the centuries that it is still being used today in the form of Identity Politics. An example of Identity Politics are DEI policies. DEI which is supposedly an acronym for Diversity/Equity/Inclusion is more accurately described as Division and Engineered/Inequality. As an active and concerned citizen of Durham Region, it’s time for all of us to examine the harm of DEI policies. I speak on this topic out of love for all people regardless of any external factors including their skin colour, beliefs or their choices for life partners. Today’s DEI policies are leading us collectively down a very dark path. They are fueling division and are blatantly discriminatory. Martin Luther King stated beautifully “I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin but by the content of their character.” Martin Luther King fought for a world where his fellow man had an equal opportunity and was treated fairly and with respect independent of race, religion or sexual identity. Current DEI policies actually promote reverse discrimination and inequity instead of what they advertise. And this isn’t the first time this propaganda has been used by governments. The roots of so called “Diversity, Equity and Inclusion” come from Marxist ideology which was used throughout history as a tool to implement totalitarian policies in communist countries with promises of a utopia of equality which of course never happens. The result with these types of Marxist ideologies is always the same…increased censorship, government control, corruption and poverty. Any yet, here we are again going down this path of division. Right now, in Canada as an example, some jobs are advertising ONLY for those who are part of the LGBTQ++ community to apply. Others will not be considered. This is excellent if you are part of the LGTBQ++ community but not if you are not. You won’t have a chance under DEI even if you have the best skills for the jobs. Is that fair? Other companies are subsidized to hire new immigrants or refugees instead of long-term Canadians and if you say anything about it, you will be called a racist or worse. Many long-term immigrants are seeing that they are being cast aside for the newer arrivals who meet made up criteria of deserving better treatment. Is this right? As Canadians become poorer, sicker and increasingly demoralized, these polices become more fanatical. There is now, like in communist countries, a quota for every “persecuted group” except our government has totally forgotten about merit or character. Martin Luther King was a powerful force of unity but current government policies seek only to divide. DEI has gotten so out of control that safety and quality are now at state. Companies like Boeing and many others are experiencing massive issues with quality control as a result of having implemented DEI policies. They have seen record safety issues due to hiring unqualified people over competent workers to meet DEI quotas. Is it healthy that we are building a victim society where only those who identify as being persecuted are granted any assistance, employment or support? Although equity of opportunity is critical to all of us in Canada, no government or private official can or should work to guarantee equity of outcome. This means that decisions for hiring, events and policies should be based on equal standards or benefits for all people in the community. But is this happening? Even if you are benefiting today from DEI policies, realize that you too might be on the chopping block by discriminatory policies that might judge you not by your work but by whatever new quota has been identified. We are all equal and each person deserves the opportunity to improve their live and reach their goals. Let’s remove Marxist DEI from government, work and schools and start promoting equal opportunities for everyone. This starts with removing harmful ideologies from our schools, focusing on skills and learning, hard work, character and competence again so we can create real positive growth and unity again in Canada.

FIESTA WEEK TRAGEDY

FIESTA WEEK TRAGEDY By Joe Ingino Editor/Publisher ACCOMPLISHED WRITER/AUTHOR OF OVER 800,000 Published Columns in Canada and The United States

Before we begin we must define what a fiesta is. As per dictionary interpretation, FIESTA: You can use the word fiesta for any party, but it usually refers to a large feast, festival, or very extravagant party. In Spanish, fiesta means "feast," and in many Spanish-speaking places, a fiesta celebrates a saint's day or other religious occasion. The word comes from the Latin festus, "festive, joyful, or merry." Now, focus on the LARGE word as that is the key to the event. I say this because through the years I have seen the so called Fiesta week slowly diminish. I have personally approached the committee involved and they refuse help. If is not their way it is no way. This type of mentality is seen across many City committees. Committees made up of people with good intentions but no clue on how to promote and or market an event. A success is not 40 - 50 people appearing on any one particular day. A success is 1,000 - 10,000 showing up in our city. People from all across the globe coming in for a good time. For a FIESTA. No, instead we have small gathering... normally family and friends of those hosting the particular pavilions and some curious visitors. The fiesta week for the past 10 years at least has had no real promotion or advertising. Sadly, this is another example of why our City of Oshawa has opportunity after opportunity pass us by. The downtown car show, the lakeview park car show. Gone. We have a chamber of commerce that is ineffective and inactive. It has been years since I seen one of the reps come over for a chat. I know that if I had been mayor. I would have turned Fiesta Week into a real international event. I would have targeted all kinds of groups to create a buzz like never before. This would have been months of pre-event preparation. Coordination with all kinds of real partners....not like they do it here in Oshawa... they call partners... nothing short of political supporters for those elect. I would have approached investors in the Fiesta week. I would have had the event marketed in foreign countries inviting tourism to Durham Region. No, instead what do we have? The same old the same old. The numbers slowly dwindling and opportunity keeps passing us by. Have we not had enough of the same old, same old?

Canada Day 2024

by Maj (ret'd) CORNELIU. CHISU, CD, PMSC, FEC, CET, P. Eng. Former Member of Parliament Pickering-Scarborough East This year is the 157th anniversary of a country still called Canada. Mired by the dark aspersions cast on our history and the complicated world situation we find ourselves in, we need to remember that we are still Canadians and be proud of it. As we reflect on events since the beginning of the year, let us hope that this year Canada Day will finally bring the nation a glimmer of hope and that the second half of 2024 will be better. Let’s take a moment to consider the incredible contributions made by Canadians throughout our history. Their efforts have helped to make the country what it is today; a country of vibrant cities and strong rural communities. Canada is a place where cultural freedom still flourishes, and Canadians from all backgrounds are still free to express themselves and help our country prosper despite recent tendencies to restrict these freedoms. Successive waves of immigrants from France, Ireland, Germany, the United Kingdom and other countries together with Indigenous people have helped to forge our nation’s unique character. Through their efforts, our communities have become a distinct part of the Canadian identity which we need to preserve rather than deny. We should honour this legacy while we recognize that we can do better in the future. Let’s be proud of our combined anglophone, francophone and indigenous heritage and seek a strong and constructive cooperation with all our people of different backgrounds for a better Canada. Canada was not born of bloody conflict. It emerged from a lengthy process of brainstorming about practical matters, of negotiations, proposals, and legislative ratifications. On July 1, 1867, the Confederation of four Canadian provinces created our country and with the inclusion of Lower Canada – now Quebec – it ensured from the outset that Canada would be a blend of two nations, two cultures and two languages. The acceptance of both civil and common law systems is a factor that still makes Canada a helpful player on the international scene. And from the outset, religious tolerance was Canada’s only option. The enactment of the British North America Act, 1867 (today called the Constitution Act, 1867), which made the confederation of the provinces law, was celebrated on July 1, 1867, with the ringing of the bells at the Cathedral Church of St. James in Toronto. Contemporary accounts of the celebration also describe "bonfires, fireworks and illuminations, excursions, military displays and musical and other entertainments". On June 20 of the following year, Governor General the Viscount Monck issued a royal proclamation asking for Canadians to celebrate the anniversary of Confederation. However, the holiday was not established in statute until May 15, 1879, when it was designated Dominion Day, alluding to the reference in the British North America Act to the country as a dominion. The holiday was initially not dominant in the national calendar; celebrations were mounted by local communities and the Governor General hosted a party at Rideau Hall. No larger celebrations were held until 1917 and then none again for a further decade—the gold and diamond anniversaries of Confederation, respectively. Canada's centennial in 1967 is often seen as an important milestone in the history of Canadian nationalism and in Canada's maturing as a distinct, independent country, after which Dominion Day became more popular with average Canadians. Some Canadians were, by the early 1980s, informally referring to the holiday as Canada Day, a practice that caused some controversy. However, with the granting of Royal Assent, the holiday's name was officially changed to Canada Day on October 27, 1982. Canada Day coincides with Memorial Day in Newfoundland and Labrador, with memorials typically held in the morning of July 1. As the anniversary of Confederation, Dominion Day, and later Canada Day, was the date set to commemorate a number of important events. It was the first national radio network hookup by the Canadian National Railway (1927). It was the inauguration of the Canadian Broadcasting Corporation's cross-country television broadcast, with Governor General Vincent Massey's Dominion Day speech from Parliament Hill (1958) and the flooding of the Saint Lawrence Seaway (1958); It was the first colour television transmission in Canada (1966); the inauguration of the Order of Canada (1967); and the establishment of "O Canada" as the country's national anthem (1980). Other events fell on the same day coincidentally, such as the first day of the Battle of the Somme in 1916, shortly after which Newfoundland recognized July 1 as Memorial Day to commemorate the Newfoundland Regiment's heavy losses during the battle. Our nation is facing greater challenges today, than ever before. These include economic hardship and high inflation, issues related to a new conflagration in Europe, high unemployment and seriously escalating social problems. Let us again show that we support each other. This community spirit is one of the most admirable characteristics of being Canadian. On July the 1st let’s celebrate our country’s achievements and use them, not our failings, as a foundation to build a better and a brighter future together. Let’s celebrate our unity and our treasured country. Happy enlightened Canada Day!

A NEW NAZI MENTALITY ...

By Dale Jodoin The Echoes of History: Examining the Alarming Parallel between Canadian Left-Wing Extremism and Nazi Ideology A disturbing shift has taken root within Canadian left-wing circles, echoing the hateful rhetoric and tactics of historical Nazi ideology. This dangerous trend is not only a threat to democratic values but also poses a grave danger to the safety and well-being of Jewish Canadians. Today, elements within the Canadian left-wing have embraced extremist narratives, including calls for the destruction of Israel and the denial of Jewish people's right to exist. This virulent anti-Semitic rhetoric bears a striking resemblance to the propaganda and policies propagated by the Nazi regime. The impact of this ideological shift cannot be overstated. Jewish Canadians now face a heightened risk of verbal assaults, threats, physical violence, and systemic discrimination, reminiscent of the persecution experienced during darker periods of history. While not identical, the parallels between contemporary left-wing extremism and Nazi ideology are alarming. Both propagate hateful stereotypes, promote scapegoating of minority groups, and advocate for the elimination of perceived adversaries, be it through words or actions. Regrettably, the response from Canadian political leaders has been insufficient, with condemnations often lacking meaningful follow-up actions to address and combat the growing tide of anti-Semitism within the left-wing. Extremist groups, such as Hamas and Iranian-backed organizations, have played a pivotal role in fueling anti-Semitic sentiments within left-wing circles, exploiting grievances and spreading hateful ideologies under the guise of activism. The erosion of civil liberties, including freedom of speech and religious expression, is a direct consequence of this extremist infiltration within left-wing politics. The very values that underpin democratic societies are under threat. A resolute and collective response is urgently needed to confront and dismantle this resurgence of hate and extremism. Concrete measures must be implemented to safeguard the rights and safety of Jewish Canadians and uphold democratic principles. In closing, the rise of Nazi-like rhetoric and actions within Canadian left-wing extremism serves as a stark warning. It is incumbent upon all Canadians, regardless of political affiliation, to reject hatred, uphold inclusivity, and stand in solidarity against bigotry and discrimination in all its forms.tion habits. More and more Canadians are choosing bicycles, e-bikes, and scooger laws that treat the theft of bicycles, e-bikes, and scooters with the seriousneensure a safer, more secure future for all Canadians.

Innovation Unlocked: How CEO’s Can Encourage

Connection, Community, and Creativity By Stephanie Uprichard, IDC, GDC, ARIDO, IIDA Studio Forma Interior Design Principal Designer Connection, Community, And Innovation: Unleashing Creativity In The Workforce In the modern business landscape, innovation and problem-solving are key drivers of success. CEO’s recognize that fostering a sense of connection and community within their organizations not only enhances employee satisfaction but also unleashes the creative potential required for breakthrough ideas and solutions. Here’s how these vital aspects are intertwined and how CEO’s can further encourage a culture of innovation: The Power of Connection and Community in Innovation When employees feel connected and part of a community, they are more inclined to share ideas, challenge assumptions, and build on each other’s thoughts. This collaborative environment stimulates creativity and fosters a collective intelligence that can lead to innovative breakthroughs. A strong sense of community also encourages risk-taking and the exploration of new ideas, as individuals feel supported and valued, even if their suggestions don’t always lead to success. CEO’s who understand this connection actively work to break down silos and encourage cross-functional collaboration. They recognize that diverse perspectives are crucial to innovation and that a community-oriented culture can provide a platform for diverse thoughts and experiences to come together. Encouraging Innovation through Connection and Community Here are some ways in which CEO’s can further encourage innovation within their organizations, building on the foundation of connection and community: Foster a Culture of Psychological Safety: Create an environment where employees feel safe to speak up, ask questions, and share ideas without fear of rejection or ridicule. This can be achieved through inclusive leadership, where diverse thoughts are welcomed, and through team-building activities that emphasize the value of each individual’s contribution. Embrace Diversity and Inclusion: Seek out and promote diverse talent, ensuring that your workforce represents a variety of backgrounds, experiences, and perspectives. Diversity fuels innovation, and by creating an inclusive community, CEO’s can harness the power of these diverse viewpoints to drive creative solutions. Encourage Cross-Functional Collaboration: Break down departmental barriers and encourage employees from different teams to collaborate. This can be facilitated through mixed-team projects, social events, or even shared physical spaces that bring people together. Such interactions spark new connections and can lead to innovative insights. Provide Creative Spaces: In addition to the physical design elements mentioned earlier, consider incorporating dedicated creative spaces within the office. These might include maker spaces, innovation labs, or simply areas with whiteboards and creative supplies, encouraging employees to brainstorm and experiment. Celebrate Failure: Reframe failure as a learning opportunity and a stepping stone to success. CEO’s can lead by example here, sharing their own stories of failure and the lessons learned. This shifts the organizational mindset from one of risk-aversion to one of experimentation and growth. Leading with Vision and Inspiration CEO’s set the tone and provide the vision that inspires employees to embrace innovation. Here’s how they can further encourage a culture of creativity: Share the Vision: Clearly articulate the organization’s vision and how innovation plays a role in achieving it. Help employees understand how their contributions, no matter how small, fit into the bigger picture. This provides a sense of purpose and motivates employees to bring their creative best. Lead by Example: CEO’s should embody an innovative mindset, embracing new ideas and technologies. They should be willing to experiment, learn, and adapt, signaling to employees that innovation is a continuous journey. Leading by example inspires employees to follow suit. Recognize and Reward: Implement recognition programs that celebrate innovative achievements, no matter how small. Recognizing and rewarding employees who take calculated risks, challenge the status quo, or develop creative solutions encourages others to do the same. By fostering connection and community within the workforce, CEO’s create an environment ripe for innovation and creative problem-solving. This, coupled with a thoughtful approach to office design and a culture of psychological safety, empowers employees to bring their full creative selves to the table.

Think of Ways You Can Be Attractive to Employers

By Nick Kossovan Think of Ways You Can Be Attractive to Employers Shiny objects catch our attention. When job searching, you want to be that shiny object that catches the attention of employers; exposure is the key. There's no "shiny" without exposure. Some people—perhaps you know one or two—are constantly sought after by employers, while most chase employers. Sought after people understand it's not their knowledge or experience that will make them attractive to employers, but what they show. (read: expose) Consequently, the adage "It's who you know, not what you know" has been replaced with "It's not who you know, it's who knows you." In today's job market, finding a job boils down to making yourself as attractive to employers as possible. When you appear on an employer's radar, you want them to say, "I must meet this person!" The more attractive you are as a "must-meet," the more opportunities will present themselves. Whether or not you successfully attract opportunities depends on what you strategically (keyword) show the world. Fundamentally, when searching for a job, your skills and experience matter less than what you show. (Of course, you must show employers what they want to see.) Showing requires visibility; visibility requires exposure, which can be achieved in several ways. · Utilize social media to build a strong presence. Employers and recruiters pay attention to online "goings-on," hence the obvious: Use social media to promote yourself. When done correctly and consistently, your digital footprint will showcase your expertise and connect you with influencers in your field and industry, along with: 1. Positioning you as an expert in your industry and/or profession. 2. Demonstrating your communication skills, a skill employers highly value. The key is to be active, ideally daily, and not just passively observe. Don't just create profiles and let them sit there. Participate in LinkedIn groups, write posts and guest blogs, share insightful content, and ask questions. Social media's reach is unfathomable. You never know who might read your profile or content and contact you. Years ago, I got a call from Crocs's VP of Human Resources. The head of marketing had seen my Pinterest board, 'Brands That Have My Heart,' which included Crocs— it's common for employers to Google themselves to see what's being said about their products—and after reviewing my LinkedIn profile, felt I might be a good fit for an open position her had. I ended up working for Crocs for several years. My social media posts often lead to recruiters and employers contacting me. When used to build a visible personal brand, the Internet and social media are job seekers' best friends. · Become an active member of a professional association. Professional associations are the perfect place to increase your visibility with like-minded individuals who share a passion for a particular profession or industry. Employers often look for candidates among association members. Understandably, employers prefer players in their industry, people who exhibit an affinity for their profession and industry by staying current with news, trends, and market changes, information that can come in handy during interviews. As with not leaving your social media idle, don't join an association solely to list it on your resume and LinkedIn profile. Being visible in an organization requires active participation. Volunteer to recruit conference speakers, or, even better, be a speaker/panellist yourself. Write for the association's newsletter, offer to manage their social media, or sit on a committee. Becoming a member of an association opens you up to a smorgasbord of networking opportunities with people who are most likely attached to opportunities in some way. Hence, to be top of mind for the opportunities they're connected to, they first need to know you. · Volunteer "strategically" You probably know someone whom everyone knows because of their volunteer work. Strategic volunteering means volunteering for a position (e.g., fundraiser, social media manager, event planner) within a cause that'll leverage and enhance your core skills while making a tangible contribution to the cause, which is where creating your visibility happens—difference-makers are noticed—and provides an opportunity to expand your network. Volunteerism brings together people from a wide variety of industries and backgrounds for a common goal, thereby creating uncommon connection opportunities that often lead to rare opportunities. All networking, no matter with whom, has potential benefits. Additionally, many employers gravitate to charitable candidates. · Make your LinkedIn profile stand out with numbers. According to Hootsuite, every month, 1.6 billion people visit LinkedIn. You don't need statistical evidence to know LinkedIn profiles receive many more views than resumes, so give your LinkedIn profile lots of love! Your LinkedIn profile and resume should follow the cardinal rule of emphasizing your results rather than your responsibilities. An employer's success largely depends on its employees' results; therefore, understandably, your past results are all they care about. Use quantifying numbers that illustrate your achievements to make your LinkedIn profile and resume stand out. For instance, mentioned that you managed a $4 million annual budget or that you sourced a new Internet service provider that reduced costs by 15%. Numbers that show that you improved your employer's bottom line or increased revenue are eye-catching, making you a shiny object. ___________________________________________________________________________ Nick Kossovan, a well-seasoned veteran of the corporate landscape, offers advice on searching for a job. You can send him your questions at artoffindingwork@gmail.com

Mrs. Robinson

from Wayne & Tamara My wife, 41, and I have been married 18 years. She is very religious and attends church every weekend. During the past six months she's shown special interest in a 25-year-old young man who is new to her church. Based on our phone records, she calls him several times a day even when we are on vacation. When I ask why she is so interested, she says she is mentoring and coaching this young man in life situations. He recently broke up with his girlfriend, and she serves as a sounding board for him. She told me she has no romantic feelings for the young man. However, she does care for this single young man and loves him as a friend. He is always a perfect gentleman, she claims. She says she would like to help him find a girlfriend, but I do not see much evidence of that. A few months ago she asked if he could spend the night in our house since he lives an hour away and it was late. I told her no. She invited him anyway. When I found out he was in the house, I asked her to tell him to leave. She did. That incident did not change their relationship. She took a trip with him to a church function out of town, while I was on a business trip. Am I simply being jealous? Should I be concerned this relationship will grow into a romance? Jim Jim, if you don't have children, and if we consider your wife's age, there is an innocent possibility. Many women in their 40s feel a biological need to mother. They often want a child. We might call this the last gasp of their biology. What your wife is doing could be a last expression of her biological urge. He's a young man, lost in life, and she can direct and mother him. This may also be what is expected of her in her church, so she is taking care of two things. She is nurturing him as a mother, and she is nurturing him spiritually as her religion requires. There is another possibility, of course, one which trips your triggers. You see this as the movie "The Graduate" and your wife as Mrs. Robinson, the older woman who seduces a young man. Women in their 30s and 40s are at their sexual peak, and your wife could be attracted to a young man. Which of the two is it? Is her biological clock ticking, or is her sexual pot boiling? You know your wife better than anyone. Take an honest look at your relationship with her right now. Not how you imagine it to be, but how it actually is. Is she enough disconnected from you to be having an affair with a young man? Or is she looking for the spiritual and emotional connection you've lost with her? Wayne & Tamara Want Ads I work at a small radio station. I started eight months ago, and I've done really well. But the longer I'm here the more problems I have with my boss. He's the type of man who can talk friendly all day, but the minute you want to talk business, he gives you the cold shoulder. I work on commission and am paid once a month. I was supposed to be paid 10 days ago, but I haven't even seen my boss. Five of my paychecks have bounced since I started. I need money to pay bills, but the more I ask for my commission, the more he avoids me. Natalie Natalie, the Greeks invented a way of deducing answers called the syllogism. Putting your problem in a three-part syllogism, we get this: I have a job and jobs pay money. I am not being paid. Therefore, I don't really have a job. I must move on. Wayne SEND LETTERS TO: Directanswers@WayneAndTamara.com Wayne & Tamara are the authors of Cheating in a Nutshell and The Young Woman’s Guide to Older Men—available from Amazon, Apple, and booksellers everywhere.

“SOCIAL MEDIA, FACEBOOK, NEXTDOOR, YOUTUBE ETC.” IS IT GOOD OR BAD ?

On the upside, some would say, Social Media has opened the world to them ….. - it brings me closer to family & friends who live far away from me, who otherwise I might not see - it links me with groups of similar interests and hobbies, and thereby, new friends - it introduces me to my neighbours and alerts me to what is happening in my neighbourhood - it allows ordinary people to provide their opinions on comments of others, of politics, of news etc - the comments, videos, stories often bring a smile to my face, a tear to my eye or challenge me On the downside, it has allowed a platform for bullies, for haters and those that delight in being able to brag to their like minded friends, “Well, I told them”….. Hmmm …. The majority of these bullies are full of self importance, bullies take pride in attacking without actually knowing what they are attacking. Bullies attacks are based on a headline or usually on what someone told them. Bullies can’t wait to jump in, their self importance desires to be the first to attack without research. Rarely do these bullies actually read or understand the whole article or have they actually witnessed the happening. There are two types of bullies, those puffed up on self importance seeing their name on social media for all to see and then there are the bullies who hide behind fake names and pictures. Note - Neither do either of these types of bullies actually explain or answer why they felt the need to attack. Bullies seem to lack common sense or understanding. MANY MUNICIPALITIES AND COMMUNITIES, INCLUDING THOSE IN DURHAM, USE SOCIAL MEDIA AS ANOTHER PLATFORM TO KEEP CITIZENS INFORMED. The City of Pickering has their own Facebook known as …. Let’s Talk Pickering …. an online hub to find out about what special projects and initiatives are open for public comment. Note - you must register to get involved. “Pickering Talk”, a facebook forum, not the city’s, created to given residents another avenue to share their many valid questions and concerns as to what’s happening. Unfortunately it seems this forum is used primarily by a number of residents (bullies) to spread their biases, only a few residents use this forum to bring up valid concerns. I have to ask the following bullies, who continually have delightedly these past number of months posted their names and biases against Councillor Robinson; “Hopes Cradle” a safe place for a mother to secretly anonymously abandon/surrender her baby, without facing criminal charges, provided the baby is healthy. Sounds good, save a life. so what’s the downside? Hmmm … let’s think about this for a minute. Suppose the mother is/was youR daughter, grandaughter, your girlfriend, your son’s girlfriend etc. and for one reason or another, you were not aware of the pregnancy. You only become aware some months later that a baby, who related to you, was born. Too bad for you after thirty days, any legal rights as the mother or you, a blood relative who was never aware of the pregnancy, has no rights to the child, the baby, your family member has gone into the system and you will be left with a hole in your heart, never knowing the joy of having this child in your life. I understand that these are the questions that Councillor Robinson asked, that need to be dealt with prior to just approving Hopes Cradle as it currently stands. I pray that you, your daughter, your son or other close relative never finds yourself in this situation. As an added note, the baby will never know it’s medical & family history. Now, for all you bullies, real & fake, who love to be seen out there and love make false accusations, Kathy Sauve Uden, Brenda Holdsworth, Lead Todd, Allison Myers Marcoux, Lesly Mckenna McConnell, Janet DiLeo, Chris Raithby Robinson, Julie Fontbona, Aaron Mcguillicuddy, Ed Cunningham, Kevin Ashe & others it’s time for you all to stop the accusations, stop trying to pass your misguided words off as being the councilor's words. I challenge you to “Provide real proof, evidence of your accusations not what someone else said or wrote, that’s hearsay”. In my opinion, all government levels, are in a mess because we are afraid to speak up for what’s right. PLEASE SPEAK UP WHILE WE HAVE SOME RIGHTS BEFORE WE LOSE THEM ALL

Mayor Ignores Public Pleas for Change Room Choice at Chestnut Hill Developments Recreation Complex (CHDRC)

By Lisa Robinson - Pickering City Councillor In a recent development, Mayor Kevin Ashe has dismissed my pleas to bring forward a motion that would allow users of the CHDRC to choose their preferred change room. Despite substantial public interest and repeated recent requests, the mayor’s response indicates a clear disregard for the community’s concerns. The mayor’s reasoning is encapsulated in his recent correspondence: “Your request for a Seconder on Notice of Motion is moot. As of December 2023, CHDRC front desk staff have been trained and instructed to consider accommodation requests from non-members to use the membership change rooms. This has been promoted on our Conversations in the Community web page for the past half year. I am aware that you’ve previously referenced Conversations in the Community on social media, but perhaps you missed this key point. Here is a link to the page: Conversations in the Community I know that this issue is very important to you, but to date, there have been zero instances where non-members have requested to use the membership change rooms. Outside of some online chatter that took place months ago, the reality is that the universal change rooms are a non-issue for the thousands of visitors and users of the CHDRC. I hope these new insights are able to satisfy your concerns.” In response to the mayor’s stance, I conveyed the following: Dear Mr. Mayor, Thank you for your response regarding the accommodation requests at the CHDRC. I appreciate the efforts taken to train front desk staff and the promotion of this information on the “Conversations in the Community” webpage. However, I must respectfully disagree with your assertion that this issue is moot, and here is why. Firstly, the absence of formal requests from non-members to use the membership change rooms does not necessarily indicate a lack of demand or concern. It is possible that potential users are unaware of their rights or feel uncomfortable making such requests, particularly if they have not seen explicit signage or direct communication about this accommodation at the CHDRC. Secondly, while the “Conversations in the Community” webpage is a valuable resource, not all community members may visit this page or be aware of its contents. This highlights a gap in communication that could be addressed through more proactive measures, such as clear signage at the facility, direct emails to registered users, and social media posts specifically highlighting this accommodation policy. Furthermore, my recent influx of calls, emails, and social media comments on this topic indicates a growing concern within the community that cannot be ignored. These communications suggest that there is indeed an underlying issue that needs to be addressed more transparently and effectively. I believe that incorporating this accommodation policy into a formal, widely disseminated policy document would provide clarity and assurance to all users. This could involve outlining specific procedures for non-members to request access to the membership change rooms, ensuring staff are not only trained but also periodically reminded of these protocols, and actively monitoring the policy’s effectiveness through regular feedback from the community. In conclusion, while your insights provide some context, they do not fully address the concerns being raised by community members. A formal policy would not only address current issues but also prevent potential misunderstandings in the future, ensuring that the CHDRC remains an inclusive and welcoming space for all. Thank you for considering this perspective. I look forward to continued dialogue on this matter. Sincerely, Councillor Lisa Robinson We hope that Mr. Mayor acts in the best interest of the people of Pickering and brings this forth in open and civil public debate. "Strength Does Not Lie In The Absence Of Fear, But In The Courage To Face It Head-On And Rise Above It"

Ontario education today: doing everything but teaching fundamentals

by Maj (ret'd) CORNELIU. CHISU, CD, PMSC, FEC, CET, P. Eng. Former Member of Parliament Pickering-Scarborough East Ontario’s school system is worse than a tsunami disaster on all fronts these days. It seems to be driven by an ignorant woke class that permeates every aspect of the system like a malignant virus. A group of people in power positions pushing their own agenda with a blatant disregard for parental input, opinion or concerns. Today, the leaders of the boards of education are there to tell you that as a parent you do not need to know what is being taught, just trust them. If you ask questions, they tell you that you are racist, your kids are racist, the system is racist, everyone is homophobic, and our society is built on white supremacy and colonialism. Furthermore, the police are to be feared and Canada is a horrible country whose founders are to be forgotten because they were bad people. They also tell you that mathematics and science are only to be tolerated and sidelined because they are tools of the privileged class. Today’s educational leaders favor the new, so-called futuristic social approaches in order to create a ‘better’ society, ruled in bliss, by ignorants. Most people are unaware of what goes on in the school system. They genuinely believe the system is there to provide a service on which they can rely to do the best for their children. That may have been the case once upon a time, but now the system is there to serve the needs, wants and ideology of a completely ignorant class of lackeys and the wokecrats who employ and enable them. Not long ago, Canada was a beacon of hope; the example of a harmonious society eager to do better for the country and be proud of it. Today we see a destructive trend that fractures our country and creates friction in our society, perpetuated by people following a globalist ideology that is harmful to the very existence of humanity. This is evident in the educational approach of today, which ignores real science in favor of a pseudo social science. Today it is more important to socialise than teach mathematics, physics and chemistry. One may wonder whether there are still teachers available who are knowledgeable in and competent to teach these subjects. Long gone are the homework assignments for children to complete, that served as the basis of a teacher parent interaction. Parents today are deliberately kept in the dark, strongly discouraged from asking questions about the curriculum or how it is being implemented in their child’s classroom. At best, they are given very vague, non-committal answers. Children are not allowed to bring home their workbooks, or even their marked tests. They are told the mark they got on the test, but do not have it when the correct answers are discussed, to see where they went wrong. Have these educators forgotten that correcting your own mistakes is one of the key elements of effective learning? The education system has become quite dictatorial with no recourse for questioning by the very people who pay the taxes to support it, and hence, pay their salaries. The results are evident in the performance of Ontario students on provincial tests in mathematics. They have been on a steady decline for years, despite careful tweaking of who takes the test, and specific lessons delivered before administering the test. It seems that the education system is there to produce graduates who are scientifically illiterate and technically challenged. This is not good for either the province or the country. For example, once Canada was a strong leader in the nuclear sciences. Today, when nuclear energy is recognized as ‘green energy’, we have lost that edge to countries whose education systems still hold mathematics and the exact sciences to be the cornerstone of general education. An approach to education that marginalizes mathematics and the exact sciences by making them socially unacceptable is bound to flounder in a technological world. A curriculum that makes statements like the following has clearly been taken over by people trying to rationalize their own scientific illiteracy: “Mathematics has been used to normalize racism and marginalization of non-Eurocentric mathematical knowledges, and a decolonial, anti-racist approach to mathematics education makes visible its historical roots and social constructions,” taken from the 2021 curriculum revision. When kids are being taught that math is racist, or everyone in history, including one of the founding fathers of our country, Sir John A. MacDonald for example, is racist, or that they are racist, a great injustice is being done both to the children and our history. Furthermore, the current curriculum is exposing children prematurely to social constructs in the classroom that also pose legitimate concerns, particularly about gender ideology. The idea that we should be teaching young children that gender is fluid, that you can change your gender, before they even fully understand the concept of gender, is not only unconscionable, but a recipe for disaster. There are also policies in place at school boards across the province that tell teachers not to inform parents of children, as young as four, who tell a teacher they want to change their gender. The school policy, far too often, is to do what the child says he/she wants based on premature exposure to these social constructs in school, while keeping the parents in the dark. There are also boards of education that prefer to celebrate flags other than the Canadian Flag, hoisting it instead of the symbol of our nation. How is that for inclusivity? Is this the new and revolutionary concept of nation building? We also had bans on allowing police officers into classrooms, especially in uniform, even for kids who wanted to bring a parent who works in law enforcement, for career day. None of these issues are driven by what is best for the students. They are driven by wicked politics. It is time for parents to stand up and say, enough is enough. It is also time for the government to listen to parents and return to them their justly earned primary role in the education of their own children. What do you think?

A Call to Action: Strengthening Laws Against Bicycle, E-Bike, and Scooter Theft in Canada

By Dale Jodoin In recent years, Canada has witnessed a significant shift in transportation habits. More and more Canadians are choosing bicycles, e-bikes, and scooters over traditional vehicles. This change is not just a trend; it's a conscious effort to reduce environmental impact, cut down on traffic congestion, and promote a healthier lifestyle. Cities across the country are responding by investing in infrastructure such as bike lanes, dedicated parking, and shared mobility services. However, while infrastructure improves, one critical aspect remains neglected: the laws governing the theft of these personal transportation devices. Theft of bicycles, e-bikes, and scooters is on the rise, outpacing car theft in many areas. In major Canadian cities, reports of stolen bikes have quadrupled over the past few years. According to the Vancouver Police Department, bike thefts increased by 60% between 2018 and 2022. Similarly, Toronto saw a 45% rise in reported bicycle thefts in the same period. These statistics are alarming, yet the legal response has been inadequate. The current laws treat the theft of bicycles, e-bikes, and scooters with leniency. Offenders often receive nothing more than a slap on the wrist. This light punishment does little to deter thieves, who know they can operate with minimal risk of serious consequences. When someone steals a car, they face significant penalties, including jail time and hefty fines. In contrast, stealing a bike, e-bike, or scooter rarely results in more than a minor fine or a brief stint in jail, if any at all. For many Canadians, bicycles, e-bikes, and scooters are not just recreational items; they are essential modes of transportation. They offer a cost-effective alternative to cars and public transit, especially in urban areas where traffic congestion is a daily challenge. With more people relying on these vehicles, the financial impact of theft is substantial. The cost of replacing a stolen bicycle can range from a few hundred to several thousand dollars, depending on the model. E-bikes and scooters are even more expensive, often costing between $1,000 and $4,000. For many individuals, the loss of their primary mode of transportation can lead to significant financial strain and disrupt their daily lives. Moreover, the environmental benefits of increased bicycle, e-bike, and scooter use are undermined by the high theft rates. When people lose confidence in the security of their personal transportation devices, they may revert to using cars, negating the environmental gains made by the shift to more sustainable modes of transport. To address this growing problem, we need stronger laws that treat the theft of bicycles, e-bikes, and scooters with the seriousness it deserves. Current penalties are insufficient to deter thieves, and the lack of enforcement leaves victims feeling helpless. We must push for legal reforms that impose stricter penalties for these types of thefts. Increased jail time and higher fines would send a clear message that stealing someone's personal transportation is a serious crime with significant consequences. Additionally, improved recovery efforts, such as dedicated police units for bike theft and better coordination with local bike shops and pawnshops, can increase the chances of recovering stolen property. We can look to other countries for examples of effective policies. In the Netherlands, a country known for its bike-friendly culture, bike theft is taken very seriously. Dutch police employ advanced methods, including bait bikes equipped with GPS trackers, to catch thieves. These efforts have significantly reduced bike theft rates and increased recovery rates. Adopting similar measures in Canada could help curb the problem. Beyond legal reforms, community involvement and technology can play a crucial role in preventing theft. Neighbourhood watch programs focused on bike theft, increased use of bike registration services, and the implementation of secure bike parking facilities can all contribute to reducing theft rates. Technology, such as GPS tracking devices and smart locks, can also make it more difficult for thieves to operate. It's time for Canadians to take action. We need a national petition to demand that our politicians address this issue with the urgency it deserves. By signing this petition, we can show our elected officials that we care about the security of our personal transportation and the environmental benefits that come with it. We must push for stronger laws, better enforcement, and community-based solutions to tackle the rising tide of bicycle, e-bike, and scooter theft. This issue affects us all, and it's time we treated it with the seriousness it deserves. By coming together, we can create a safer, more secure environment for all Canadians who choose to ride bicycles, e-bikes, and scooters. Let's make our voices heard and demand the changes needed to protect our personal transportation and promote a greener, healthier future for Canada. the rise in bicycle, e-bike, and scooter thefts in Canada is a pressing issue that requires immediate attention. The current legal framework is inadequate and fails to deter thieves, leaving many Canadians vulnerable. Stronger laws, better enforcement, and community involvement are essential to address this problem. By signing a national petition and demanding action from our politicians, we can make a difference and ensure a safer, more secure future for all Canadians.

When Interviewing Speak to B, C and D (Examples)

By Nick Kossovan In my previous column, I outlined the steps for preparing for an interview: A. Research the company and its leadership team. B. Consider why you want to work for the company. C. Identify the company's pain points. D. Think of at least one genuine reason you'd like to work for the person you'd report to. E. Throughout your interview, speak to B, C, and D, which speak to the two factors that influence hiring decisions: 1. Reason, and 2. Ego I wrote it's understandable for interviewers to be interested in a candidate's reason(s) for being interested in the job. Therefore, ensure you have a solid grasp of why you want the job and can confidently answer, "Why do you want this job?" or "Why do you want to join our company?" Additionally, I discussed the importance of mentioning your understanding of the company's pain points and how your skills and experience can address them. Furthermore, I proposed a strategy that'll help you stand out from your competition, especially if your interviewer is the person you'll be reporting to: speak to their ego. In this column, I'll share two examples of what speaking to B, C, and D looks like. I'll start with Bob Nielsen, who's interviewing for an outside pharmaceutical representative position. His interviewer, Titos Thanides, who'd be his boss, asks the inevitable question: Why do you want to join Ottinger? Bob's answer: "I've been selling pharmaceutical products for over 15 years and have consistently exceeded sales targets due to my strong relationships with healthcare providers. At Nordstral Pharmaceuticals, I managed a territory spanning Kingston to Quebec City. In 2022, I received the Salesperson of the Year award for growing sales by 27%. I'm attracted to Ottinger's commitment to innovation and cutting-edge treatments. Ottinger's focus on R&D and new product development reflects my values and goals. I became a pharmaceutical rep to contribute to people's well-being. Ottinger is looking to gain market share in the Ottawa area, a challenge that excites me. Since I have established relationships with healthcare providers throughout the Ottawa region, I'm confident I can increase the use of Ottinher's pharmaceuticals, especially Serisone, a game-changing, innovative pulmonary fluid management drug. Additionally, I heard you speak at the International Conference on Pharmacy and Pharmacology in Winnipeg in October 2018 about pharmaceutical companies' societal role. It must have taken a lot of courage to publicly declare pharmaceutical companies should be less profit-driven and more socially responsible. You have a reputation for being one of the few leaders who speaks their truths, which would make working with you a privilege, and you're known for being a results-driven sales director who'd bring out the best in me." Here's how Ariana Darzi, interviewing for a Marketing Director position, responds to her would-be boss, Veronica Lodge's question: "Why do you want this job?" "I've been marketing consumer goods for over 22 years, from detergents to tissues to soft drinks to stationery. I've consistently delivered measurable results throughout my career, increasing brand awareness, market share, and profitability. For example, as Marketing Manager at Acme Corp, I oversaw the relaunch of their flagship tissue paper brand. In 18 months, using data-driven segmentation, targeted advertising, and innovative product development, my team and I increased our tissue paper market share by 36%. My interest in Sunshine Desserts is based on the company's reputation for product innovation and market leadership. As someone with a sweet tooth, I've long admired how Sunshine Desserts consistently pushes the boundaries of what's possible and understands sweet doesn't have to equate to being unhealthy. Your recent line of sugar-free desserts, many of which I've tried, your peanut butter cookies being my favourite, is a prime example of the forward-thinking, consumer-centric approach I want to be a part of. I read in Canadian Living that you're launching a gluten-free dessert line this fall, which I'm looking forward to trying. Sunshine Desserts faces the same challenge as its competitors. Health-conscious consumers no longer consider desserts part of a healthy diet. Your lines of healthy dessert offerings I just mentioned make it possible, with my using the same strategic thinking and execution I used at Acme Corp, to market your desserts as part of a healthy diet because they're "made right." Moreover, Veronica, your leadership in driving Sunshine Dessert's North American expansion and your ability to adjust to rapidly changing market conditions is inspiring. Working alongside you would further expand my strategic marketing skills while making a meaningful contribution to Sunshine Desserts' continued success in the North American market. The combination of my marketing expertise, proven track record of success, and sweet tooth make me an ideal candidate to be Sunshine Desserts' next Marketing Director." I can't emphasize enough the importance of preparing your answer beforehand to the most common interview question, "Why do you want this job?" or "Why do you want to work for this company?" and practicing delivering your answer effortlessly, so you speak to the two factors that influence hiring decisions: reason and ego. ___________________________________________________________________________ Nick Kossovan, a well-seasoned veteran of the corporate landscape, offers advice on searching for a job. You can send him your questions at artoffindingwork@gmail.com

Artificial Dummies

By Rosaldo Russo Allow me to begin this column by thanking the Oshawa/Central newspaper for allowing me the opportunity and access to the press. Not to many if any allow an average person like me to tell the world what I see and think. In my opinion. The Editor/Publisher is a real upstanding type of guy. He shoots from the hip and hold traditional core values. My name is Rosaldo Russo. I came to this great country to make a better life for myself and my family. I thank Canada for everything it has allowed me to do and earn. I worked construction all my life. I know the value of hard work and honesty. I remember as a boy my father always telling me to work hard and buy land. So I did. I remember days when I did not have enough to eat. I go to work... but I did not wait for hand outs. I rounded up my pride my skill and my determination to succeed and went to work. In those days the only benefits we received was the fact we were employed. Before retiring I was the owner and operator of local material supply company that allowed me to retired without worry. Now that I have time to enjoy life. I look around me and have some concern for future generations. I see that the world is finished. What is all this talk about Artificial Intelligence? I look around me and all I see are a bunch of dummies. Yes, I say dummies because we go around being led like Ox. Price of gas skyrockets... We do nothing. Food prices out of this world. No one does nothing. Forget the thought of purchasing a new home. Unless you are dealing in drugs... Most on a single income can barely afford to rent. What is going on here.... Society sells us on convenience. Bull cookies... there is nothing convenient about getting out of your car in the middle of winter to pump your own gas... or to be forced to pre-pay. Really, how is that convenient to me? Not only that. You have to take a freaken course to operate a gas pump. This is ridiculous. I remember the days, when pulling in a gas station it was the highlight of the day. Two or three attendants would come out. One would pour gas. One would clean your windshield, check your tire pressure while the other one offered you tea or coffee while you waited. What happened to those good old days? Now you pick up a phone and no matter who you call. It is that brain washing forced conformation automated system. Press 1 and press 2 and press 3 and you end up on voice mail. Wow that was convenient. They call that Artificial Intelligence. Well, I pay someone to develop Artificial stupidity. A system that would be so simple that even a chimp could operate. A system that would always have someone answering the phone with a professional attitude and eager to assist. Not some third wold type barking language in an attempt to sound western. I don’t want the world. I want customer service. I want to be treated like a customer, not just some number as if in a bingo parlor. Oh, Canada. Where are thy...

Love Of Writing

from Wayne & Tamara I've been seeing a wonderful woman for about a year. We're in love, but I feel frustrated because I'm sometimes over the top in the romance department and she doesn't seem to respond. For example, if I write several paragraphs in an email about how much she means to me, I get a one or two line reply about something mundane like seeing me the next day. She says she's not expressive romantically but likes my romantic advances. Sometimes I feel as if she's the man, and I'm the woman. A lot of guys shy away from romance by telling their woman, "You already know I love you. Why do I have to tell you all the time?" I'm the exact opposite. I need to tell her and affirm her as often as I can, but sometimes I feel as if I'm a plain old pest with all my flowery stuff. How would I know if she's put off by all the romantic talk? Am I wrong to expect something she might not be wired to give? Emil Emil, let me give you three ways of looking at this. First, you are a writer who is looking for a reader. You are looking for someone who appreciates your poetry, but only a true fan of poetry can express that appreciation. Your girlfriend is not a true fan of poetry. It is as if you are a chef whose specialty is Italian, and she prefers Chinese. Or maybe it's this. You're giving her flowers seven days in a row and expecting the same reaction on the seventh day as on the first. It's almost as if you are making her dislike what you give her. Have you run her out of appreciation? Are you making her wallow in it? People like a little rain, but they don't want a flood. Or finally, maybe this is it. Part of what you find attractive in a woman is an appreciation of your nature. You want to be respected and praised for the way you are. That is also a negative element. Instead of this flowing from your nature, you also require praise for it. You want a certain kind of thanks for your gift. Poetry, when it works, allows the essence of a thing to show through. She may feel the essence of your relationship is that you are looking for a fan of yourself. You are trying to get praise from her without appreciating her. What do you appreciate about her? Is it the way she really is? Or the hours spent writing about how much you love her? What might she appreciate more: two hours spent writing a flowery email on your computer, or two hours spent dancing with her? If you require, for your happiness, appreciation of your romantic nature, then you must find someone who loves romance and can express it to you. They say opposites attract, but only when the opposite is appreciated for its difference. Tamara Fire And Ice I'm recently divorced, and I've found a great but not-so-great guy. We love old movies, working out at the gym together, and we think a lot alike. The one important thing is he says his heart is a block of ice, and he won't have a serious relationship with anyone. He plays the field. Yet he says he will commit to being a great friend. We watched movies together the other night, and now he wants more physically. He asked me to be his sex buddy. I've never had sex outside marriage. Yet he's wonderful with my child, fixes my car, and even does my dishes! Heather Heather, he is a block of ice, and you are playing with fire. The longer you have contact with him, the more likely he will get you where he wants you, not where you want to be. Wayne SEND LETTERS TO: Directanswers@WayneAndTamara.com Wayne & Tamara are the authors of Cheating in a Nutshell and The Young Woman’s Guide to Older Men—available from Amazon, Apple, and booksellers everywhere.

Surgical Rule Number One: If It’s Not Broke, Don’t Fix It

Surgical Rule Number One: If It’s Not Broke, Don’t Fix It By W. Gifford-Jones MD and Diana Gifford The most important lesson is often taught in the first class. This was the case at Harvard Medical School where a professor of surgery gave sound advice to students aspiring to hold the scalpel. He told them, “If it’s not broke, don’t fix it.” Another professor echoed this advice when he said, “There is no such thing as minor surgery.” How tragic when this simple message is ignored and the result is death. It should not happen. But it did recently in Canada, twice. Two children died following tonsil and adenoid surgery, shocking the nation with a wake-up call to alert that common procedures are not risk-free. What went wrong is being investigated. But it’s nightmare occurrence for the doctors and families alike. And we must all learn anew. Surgery is never minor, and if it is not needed, don’t go for it. Tonsillectomy is considered major surgery by the Otolaryngological Society. But one can bet most families would not perceive it as such. Rather, it’s seen as a quick, easy procedure to remove troublesome tonsils and or adenoids. Tonsils and adenoids are part of the immune system. Repeated infections or difficulty breathing lead to the decision for a surgery deemed safe. The main risk is bleeding up to 10 days after the operation. Needless surgery caused the demise of comedian Joan Rivers. She joked about going under the knife to tuck this and that. But it would be one too many. She died from cardiac arrest during a cosmetic procedure. The youngest victims are newborn babies having undergone circumcision and dying due to hemorrhage. Yet, day after day, this procedure continues to be done. Why? Some people believe it should be performed for religious reasons. Others site medical reasons, that it decreases cancer of the penis, a very rare disease, or decreases urinary infections in the first year of life. But does this mean all breasts should be removed at birth for fear of cancer or the nose to avoid infections? Some critics say circumcision violates the United Nations Declaration of Human Rights. After all, prior to newborn circumcision, no doctor or parents gain the consent of the child. Medical journals are full of surgical complications. They occur when too much skin is removed, when botched procedures make it hard to pass urine, or when mistakes lead to amputation of part of the penis. The foreskin is loaded with blood vessels and nerves that have a sexual function, not a surgical imperative. Ultrasound is often used during a medical workup to help diagnose a problem. On occasion an ultrasound will find large stones in the gallbladder that have been present for years without causing trouble. On the other hand, small stones can enter the cystic duct that carries bile to the intestines. This results in severe abdominal pain and requires emergency surgery. The best treatment for large silent stones is to leave them alone. If they start to cause pain, surgery would be needed. But the best treatment, in the absence of trouble, is to leave them for the crematorium. Why? Because during removal of the gallbladder there’s always a chance of injuring this small narrow duct. It happened to Athony Eden, one of England’s Prime Ministers, and is extremely difficult to repair, four subsequent surgeries in his case. Everyone knows heart surgery can be a life and death procedure. Don’t be fooled into thinking that common surgery is free of risk. Indifference becomes tragedy when something terrible happens. Sign-up at www.docgiff.com to receive our weekly e-newsletter. For comments, contact-us@docgiff.com. Follow us Instagram @docgiff and @diana_gifford_jones

Treason on the Hill

By Dale Jodoin In recent times, Canada has found itself at the center of a storm. Concerns about other countries meddling in our election system have taken center stage. A committee is currently meeting to investigate these allegations, seeking to uncover the truth about foreign interference. This isn't just about election integrity; it's about trust, sovereignty, and the future of our nation. The Global Perspective It's not just Canada that is worried. The United States, Australia, and Europe have all shown signs of distrust towards Canada. In fact, a new agreement between Australia and South Korea aims to keep a close watch on China, but Canada was excluded from this alliance. This exclusion raises serious questions: Why were we left out? Who are the politicians behind this, and what price did they pay to sell out our country to India and China? Political Accountability Our current government, led by the Liberal Party and their ally, the NDP, seem to be doing everything they can to protect those involved. This protective stance has raised eyebrows and sparked outrage among many Canadians. Why are they hiding the truth? Before the next election, we must uncover the identities of those responsible for this treason. Treason is a serious crime that cannot be taken lightly. Historically, Canada has treated treason with the utmost seriousness, with penalties including life imprisonment or even the death penalty. The Gravity of Treason Treason is defined as betraying one's country, especially by attempting to kill or overthrow the sovereign or government. It's a grave offense, and in Canada, the penalties for treason are severe. Historically, those found guilty of treason could face the death penalty or life in prison. While the death penalty has been abolished, life imprisonment remains a possible punishment. This demonstrates how seriously Canada takes this crime. Despite the gravity of treason, our government seems intent on keeping the details classified. This lack of transparency is unacceptable. Canadians deserve to know who is responsible for betraying their country. We need answers, and we need them before the next election. The current government cannot continue to hide behind a veil of secrecy. The Role of the NDP The NDP, often seen as the puppet of the Liberal government, is also complicit in this cover-up. Their refusal to demand transparency and accountability is deeply troubling. Canadians need to understand that the NDP's inaction makes them just as guilty as those who committed the treason. They are failing in their duty to protect the interests of the people they represent. A Call to Action It's time for Canadians to wake up. We cannot allow the Liberal government and the NDP to continue to betray us. We must demand an immediate election to hold these politicians accountable. Treason is not something to be taken lightly, and those responsible must be brought to justice. The Penalty for Treason in Canada - To understand the severity of treason, let's look at the penalties in Canada. According to the Criminal Code of Canada, anyone found guilty of treason can be sentenced to life imprisonment. This means spending the rest of their life behind bars. In the past, those convicted of treason could face the death penalty, although this has since been abolished. This harsh punishment reflects the seriousness of the crime. Treason is not just a betrayal of trust; it's a direct attack on the very foundation of our nation. It undermines our democracy, our sovereignty, and our values. That's why it's crucial to identify and punish those responsible. The Shame of a Cover-Up What's even more shameful than the act of treason itself is the government's attempt to cover it up. By keeping everything classified, they are protecting the traitors and denying Canadians the truth. This lack of transparency is a betrayal of the public's trust. We deserve to know who is responsible for selling out our country. The Importance of Accountability - Accountability is the cornerstone of any democratic society. Without it, trust in the government erodes, and the integrity of our institutions is compromised. The Liberal government and the NDP must understand that they cannot hide the truth forever. Sooner or later, the people will demand answers, and those responsible will be held accountable. The Path Forward - The path forward is clear. We must demand transparency, accountability, and justice. We need to know the identities of those who committed treason, and they must face the full force of the law. We cannot allow our government to continue hiding behind a veil of secrecy. The future of our nation depends on it. This issue should serve as a national wake-up call. We must be vigilant in protecting our democracy from foreign interference. We must hold our politicians accountable and ensure that they act in the best interests of Canada, not their personal gain or the interests of foreign powers. In conclusion, treason is a grave crime that cannot be ignored. The current government's attempts to cover up the truth are unacceptable. We must demand transparency, accountability, and justice. Canadians deserve to know who betrayed their country and why. Only then can we move forward and protect our democracy for future generations. It's time for Canada to wake up and take a stand against treason.

Complaining How Employers Hire Doesn’t Help Your Job Search

By Nick Kossovan "Complaining is not a strategy. You have to work with the world as you find it, not as you would have it be." ? Jeff Bezos In a different reality, employers would: · Offer salaries dependent on the candidate's needs, not the job's market value. · Not use applicant tracking software. (ATS) · Reply to every application. · Have a short and transparent hiring process. · Not scrutinize your resume and digital footprint. Today's reality: · More than ever, getting hired comes down to who you know and who knows you. · Employers are skittish (read: cautious) when it comes to hiring, hence why they have long, drawn-out hiring processes with many hurdles to navigate. · Ghosting. (in fairness, candidates also ghost) · Employers are looking for the perfect fit and are willing to wait until such a candidate comes along. (What employers want to see and the stereotypes they expect are constantly shifting paradigms.) I understand why job seekers are frustrated with their job search and how employers design their hiring process. However, punching down on employers as if that'll get them closer to their goal, presumably to get a job, accomplishes nothing other than wasting time and energy. Job seekers need to know and accept their controllables and uncontrollables. Can't control: · The economy or the number of job openings. · How an employer has designed their hiring process. · A hiring manager's biases. - Whom you're competing against. Can control: · The amount of time and effort you put into your job search. · Whom you connect with and how you maintain your connections. · Your digital footprint. · Your preparation and performance. (Practice! Practice! Practice!) · How you cope with rejection. (Embrace the power of "Next!") Focus on what you can control, not on what you can't control. Where you focus is where your energy goes. You can spend your energy and time complaining about employers being unfair and not giving you a chance. Such complaints stem from a sense of entitlement and do nothing to improve your job search success. Complaining discourages you from overcoming the many challenges you're facing throughout your job search and breeds negativity, which manifests into excuses or believing you're a victim of some "ism." Complaining isn't a strategy or a way of taking responsibility; it's not even a way of getting what we want. It's a way of avoiding responsibility, blaming others, and trying to get sympathy without having to take action. An essay I recommend everyone read is The Common Denominator of Success, by Albert E.M. Gray, who spent much of his life searching for the one denominator all successful people share. Putting first things first was the common denominator. "The successful person has the habit of doing the things failures don't like to do," he wrote. Put simply, to succeed, you must form the habit of doing what others don't like to do. This is especially true when job searching. (e.g., networking) Job seekers tend to complain because it's easier than doing what they should be doing. Additionally, job seekers have expectations of employers, which, when not met, cause them to complain. Managing your expectations will limit your complaints about employers. Two truisms job seekers would be wise to accept: · Total strangers (employers) owe you nothing. · Employment isn't an absolute right. I can't overstress the importance of accepting these truisms. If you're feeling bitter or resentful about your job search, wishing things were different, or thinking how life isn't fair—any of this sounds familiar?—you're fighting reality, which, as Bezos pointed out, "you have to work with the world as you find it, not as you would have it be." Complaining is counterproductive and does nothing to help you land a job. In today's brutal job market, or in any job market, you need to be proactive as opposed to reactive, which is what most job seekers are. The difference between reactive and proactive job seekers has nothing to do with degrees, skills or experience. The difference is their mindset. Proactive job seekers base their expectations on reality. Reactive job seekers base their expectations on how they wish the world would be. Guess which spends their energy complaining. There are four critical steps in the proactive job search: 1. Identify which companies interest you. 2. Research the companies. 3. Leverage your network. 4. Reach out to hiring managers. There's too much of this: · 1,000 applicants answer a job posting. · 900 candidates sprayed and prayed and, therefore, don't have the required qualifications, skills, or experience or know what the business does. · 75 are "okay" candidates. · 25 are candidates worth pursuing. The Internet has made it much too easy to apply—spray and pray—which has resulted in qualified candidates getting lost in the tsunami of "quick apply applications" employers receive for their job openings. Job seekers have to deal with this reality, the world they have to work with, and no amount of complaining will change this reality. Save your energy for your job search. Job hunting isn't a totally unpredictable process if you're a proactive job seeker and understand that successful job searching and complaining don't go hand in hand. ___________________________________________________________________________ Nick Kossovan, a well-seasoned veteran of the corporate landscape, offers advice on searching for a job. You can send him your questions at artoffindingwork@gmail.com

A new show in Ottawa: the inquiry into foreign interference in Canadian politics

by Maj (ret'd) CORNELIU. CHISU, CD, PMSC, FEC, CET, P. Eng. Former Member of Parliament Pickering-Scarborough East The recently released report by the National Security and Intelligence Committee of Parliamentarians (NSICOP) is the basis for the case of national security nightmares. The committee reported that when it comes to foreign interference, the call is coming from inside the houses: several parliamentarians may be working with foreign governments in ways that undermine Canada’s national security and democratic institutions. Notably, these parliamentarians may have unknowingly received donations from foreign governments, while at least one is alleged to have passed confidential information to foreign agents. Now the show is in full swing with a lot of people, academics, journalists and other luminaries, voicing opinions on the issue, in the guise of experts. Let us first acknowledge that the majority of past and current parliamentarians are not required to have security clearance. Moreover, when new parliamentarians are elected and undergo orientation to familiarize them with various aspects of the job, there is no mention, whatever, of how to deal with confidential information. On the other hand, the public service does require that their employees undergo security clearance. Do you see an inconsistency there? Therefore, in my mind it is very clear that incompetence in this area is rampant. Furthermore, it is unclear to me what is being defined as foreign interference. If there is a threat to our national security, what are the RCMP and CSIS doing about it, and why are they not doing their job? I think that foreign influences on the Canadian political landscape is not new at all, but suddenly it is front page news, and the subject of a new Ottawa spectacle put on at the expense of taxpayers. We need to be serious about this issue and stop focusing only on politically convenient black sheep countries such as China, India and Russia. There are many other countries that exercise serious influences in Canadian politics, because Canada is fertile ground for this kind of thing due to the nature of our national structure. If we look back into our beloved and ignored history, we can find examples of foreign interference, much more damaging than what is alleged today. So, the question is, when will our political class serve our national interest instead of serving many foreign and globalist interests, which is what they are doing today, in the name of defending democracy. It is time to serve the interests of Canada and not only their selfish personal interests. When I was an MP, my personal experience in this regard was quite interesting. Observing how parliamentarians and staff were dealing with confidential and secret information in and around the House of Commons was most disconcerting to someone who had security clearance. Documents marked secret floated freely in the lobby, where hardly anyone had security clearance. Being security aware, I was appalled to see that, as I had valid security clearance from my service in the Canadian Armed Forces and deployment on several missions overseas. It was especially frustrating when the Defence Committee I served on at the time could not carry out its study effectively, because we were told we could not see certain documents relevant to our study, due to lack of security clearance. In the current media flurry a lot is being said, a lot of articles are being published and a lot of opinions are being expressed on this issue. However, no one is mentioning the need to train candidates for parliament or sitting MPs on how to deal with confidential documents, and to require that they have security clearance at various levels. The word treason is being bandied about, and there are calls for the heads of the MPs involved. There are demands to disclose and publish names, but no one is making suggestions to the effect that we must avoid this kind of situation, and how we might accomplish that. Some academics, journalists and experts speculate that upon release of the findings of the National Security and Intelligence Committee of Parliamentarians (NSICOP), foreign agents and proxies, possibly under surveillance as a part of much wider national security investigation, would learn that their activities are being monitored. In Canada there are many foreign embassies which clearly have a mission to pursue their nations’ interests. Since they have diplomatic status, they are immune to prosecution. They can be asked to leave the country, but no more, because they have diplomatic immunity. It is true that many MPs interact with foreign diplomats, and without training in security matters, they might release sensitive information without realising it. In light of these shortcomings in the education of our parliamentarians, it is sad to see this kind of spectacle unfolding in Ottawa. It only confirms the fact that the RCMP and CSIS should do a better job and that there are more important things for Canada to focus on at this time. Let us hope that this clown world will end soon and parliamentarians will do the job that is called for, in improving the lives of Canadians. That they will finally become aware of the things that they should be doing in order to serve Canada’s interests first, foremost and solely. What is your opinion?