Hello 2024

By Joe Ingino Editor/Publisher ACCOMPLISHED WRITER/AUTHOR OF OVER 800,000 Published Columns in Canada and The United States “I live a dream in a nightmare world” Always Remember That The cosmic blueprint of your life was written in code across the sky at the moment you were born. Decode Your Life By Living It Without Regret or Sorrow. - ONE DAY AT A TIME - As 2023 comes to a closing. I like to thank all our columnist, associates, reporters, journalist, contributors, advertisers, investors, carriers and countless volunteers. My staff and all contractors, sub contractors and creative engineers, consultants, supporters. Most importantly you the reader. Without you the reader. We would not have a paper. The Central is now entering 29 years of serving Durham Region. Based out of Oshawa. Our mission has not changed. Never be compromised, influenced and or bought. Our policy is to work with everyone and deliver the news based on facts and the truth. This approach at times have made us less than popular. We, are not in a popularity business. We are in the publishing business. At the Central we take great pride in today being number one across the Region. The Central must be doing something right!!! I remember the many critics that would pass judgement without understanding. For those of character that would come in and meet me in person. Would leave with a sense of understand and refresh perspective. The Central is about serving the community. About bring you the news without political or hidden agenda. You care about your community. We want to hear from you. We want to work for you. As it stand we have offered every councillor and Mayor across the Durham Region the opportunity to become a columnist. Free of charge. Hopefully in 2024 we will see who takes advantage of this great offer to keep you informed. Right from their desk. Community leadership is more than winning and election. It is about keeping constituents informed and represented. What are we looking forward in 2024? Great things once again. We are looking forward to having a full roster of columnist. We are looking at having a page for every municipality. A way to unite the community by having them get the local paper and keep it in their homes. No one is going to check on line or visit complicated web pages. People are to busy. People want it on their coffee tables on their dinner table. In the new year we are looking at expanding the page count. Expanding our covarage and the hiring of former Metroland Journalist. The electronic media does not work. It may be cheap, but you get what you paid for. Happy New Year.

Nothing and Nobody will erase “Christmas” from this holiday

by Maj (ret'd) CORNELIU. CHISU, CD, PMSC, FEC, CET, P. Eng. Former Member of Parliament Pickering-Scarborough East It’s Christmas time again! This year, with many of the stresses of COVID behind us, we should be able to enjoy a more convivial Christmas time, redolent of the spirit of Christmas. Unfortunately, economic hardships are on the rise, and they point to a challenging new year to come. In addition, the instability of the world today, with dangerous developments percolating, does not bode well for the future, either. However, none of this changes the importance or the meaning of Christmas, or its message of peace, love and goodwill. Christmas is Christmas, and people will find a way to celebrate it no matter what restrictions are imposed upon them. Not even The Canadian Human Rights Commission, which wields broad quasi-judicial powers, will be able to challenge the celebration of Christmas. They argued that an official day off to celebrate Christmas is 'discriminatory'. This quasi woke organization that is fully funded by the federal government, has declared that the celebration of Christmas is evidence of Canada’s “colonialist” religious intolerance. I cannot help wondering who these people are and who appointed them to wipe out our basic heritage on taxpayers’ money. This brazen attack on our history and traditions is an outrageous use of our own hard-earned tax dollars against us. “Discrimination against religious minorities in Canada is grounded in Canada’s history of colonialism,” reads a Discussion Paper on Religious Intolerance recently published by the agency. “An obvious example is statutory holidays in Canada,” it adds, noting that the Christian holidays of Christmas and Easter get days off, while non-Christians have to “request special accommodations to observe their holy days.” The essence of the paper is that Canada is replete with religious intolerance and always has been. “In order to move forward towards sustainable change, all Canadians must first acknowledge Canada’s history of religious intolerance,” it reads. It seems quite clear that in the agency’s view, we, as Canadians, need to be selective about our history and brainwashed into praising futuristic globalist values. Canada welcomes newcomers and cultures from around the world. Its reputation for stability and tolerance makes it a popular destination for those considering a fresh start in a new country. It would be nice to maintain this status in the years to come without denying our history and destroying our own heritage. Even with the growing number of immigrants in Canada, Canadians tend to observe holidays and traditions based on those of the founders of our country, who were mostly French and British settlers. These traditions are often rooted in Christian beliefs and Christmas day is arguably the most observed holiday of the year. Christmas began as, and for millions around the globe still is, a religious holiday in the Christian faith that celebrates the birth of Jesus Christ. For those who are not of the Christian faith, it is a time to enjoy a spirit of giving and good cheer as the community celebrates. Regardless of religious beliefs, over half of Canadians celebrate Christmas as a completely secular holiday; an occasion to spend time with friends and family. Whether religious observance is part of the day or not, there are many long-standing Christmas traditions that everyone can enjoy. That brings me once again to the need to remind people that it is Christmas time, not “Merry and Bright” season and not “Generic Happy Holiday Time.” It is Christmas, and the greeting during this season, if you want to acknowledge reality, should be “Merry Christmas”. The war on Christmas, which reached its zenith a few years ago, but continues to rage amongst those who have a self-hating compulsion against their own society and culture, has failed to erase Christmas and the beautiful greeting of “Merry Christmas.” It will continue to fail because Canadians know who they are, and understand that the Christmas season and “Merry Christmas” are part of being Canadian. A generic seasonal celebration will not now, or ever, replace that. In conclusion, current social trends, aimed at erasing historical realities and traditions, savour strongly of globalist socialist strategies and pseudo-Marxist philosophies. The bitterness some show toward the Christmas season is skewed and out of touch with the feelings of the majority of Canadians who love Christmas. Therefore, I wish you all, a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year. May this be a happy, healthy and meaningful holiday season for everyone!

GAMES POLITICIAN PLAY

Games Politicians Play Politics is often regarded as a serious business, where elected officials work diligently to address the needs and concerns of their constituents. However, behind closed doors, there is a different game being played. I would like to shed a little light on how to recognize these behaviors to ensure transparency and accountability in our political system. One unfortunate game politicians play is dismissing delegates by not paying attention to them during meetings. I’ve witnessed many politicians so engrossed in their phones exchanging text messages with friends or fellow council members, that they neglect the pressing concerns and questions raised by the public standing before them. There are also council members who prioritize their own interests, such as sporting events, over the heartfelt pleas for help from certain delegates. Then when a delegate astutely points out the politician's distractions, it is regrettable to observe the politician resorting to falsehoods by claiming to be engaging with other constituents. Some take solace in deceit. Such disingenuous behavior undermines the fundamental principles of transparency and integrity that should guide our political discourse. Drawing further from my personal experiences, I have been witnessing politicians making disheartening derogatory comments about delegates and/or fellow council members. Laughing at them behind closed doors, or sometimes right in front of them where only few can hear, labeling them as crazies, or participating in patronizing behavior by talking down to members of the council and dismissively saying you’re kidding me, when wanting to ask delegates questions. Then there is the rolling of their eyes when asked serious questions, or disallowance to ask any more questions, which demonstrates a lack of respect and professionalism. Such behavior fosters a toxic work environment and undermines the integrity of the political process. I believe that one needs to foster meaningful and respectful conversations. This should be the backbone of effective governance. However, some politicians engage in behind-the-scenes talks where they criticize and belittle other council members or members of the community, simply because they persevere in their quest to make change. Amidst differing views, it is essential that every voice, even those unpopular with elected officials, is elegantly acknowledged and respected. They should not be unjustly denied well-deserved awards due to the vindictive actions of politicians, undermining their perseverance and accomplishments. In the age of digital media, politicians have found new ways to manipulate information. Cropping names and documents or editing photos to make it appear as if certain individuals have not attended events is a deceptive tactic used to shape public perception. This game of altering facts undermines transparency and the public's trust in their elected representatives. Another frustrating game politicians play is the misuse of taxpayers' dollars on unnecessary and wasteful spending. Instead of prioritizing the needs of the community, some politicians prioritize their own interests or pet projects. This misuse of public funds not only drains resources but also neglects those who are most in need, and rather than addressing the matter directly, many politicians and staff excel and have honed in on their skills of redirecting the conversation towards answering a completely different question other than the one that was posed. Other times they may only provide you with partial truths leaving the central concern unanswered. This tactic creates a sense of confusion and frustration, as the focus has now shifted away from the core issue – the misuse of public funds. This doublespeak raises serious doubts about the commitment of politicians and staff to transparency and accountability. It is high time to demand better from our elected officials. Hold them accountable for their actions. Demand open dialogue, and actively participate in the political process. Let’s strive for a more ethical and effective governance system. I always say “Empower The People, Ignite Change” and together, we can create a political culture that values the needs of the people over personal gain or political gamesmanship. "Strength Does Not Lie In The Absence Of Fear, But In The Courage To Face It Head-On And Rise Above It"

Setting the Record Straight: The Importance of Expertise in Committee Selection

As a City Councillor, I must address a concerning issue that arose during our recent council meeting on Monday, December 11th. Our Chief Administrative Officer (CAO) referred to individuals volunteering on our committees, labeling them as experts. However, the truth is, sometimes decisions are made without receiving resumes, nor are we given the opportunity to meet these individuals. In my personal opinion, it is evident that many of them lack the necessary expertise and/or qualifications. We must acknowledge the gravity of this situation. Calling these individuals experts during the meeting is a great disservice to the truth and undermines the integrity of our decision-making process. During my tenure as your City Councillor, I have experienced first hand the pressure to select certain individuals based on recommendations from staff members and biased relationships of Council members. This undermines the fair and objective nature of committee selection. Transparency and accountability are fundamental principles guiding our actions as public servants and I believe we must work on establishing a more robust and unbiased process for committee selection. It is essential. We must ensure that the individuals we choose, possess the expertise and qualifications required to make informed decisions that benefit our community. The term "expert" holds significant weight, and it is imperative that we use it judiciously. An expert is someone who possesses specialized knowledge, skills, and experience in a particular field. Merely being a volunteer or having personal connections should not automatically grant someone the title of an expert. Moving forward, I would like to see Council reevaluate our committee selection process. Basing the process on merit, qualifications, and a thorough assessment of an individual's expertise in the relevant area. This will help restore the public's trust in our decision-making process and ensure that our committees are composed of individuals who can truly contribute their expertise. I urge the Mayor and my fellow City Councillors to join me in demanding a fair and transparent committee selection process. It’s time we prioritize the qualifications and expertise of potential committee members over personal biases or friendships. By doing so, we can uphold the integrity of our council and better serve the needs of our community. If not, then let’s be mindful of the importance of language and its impact on perception. By refraining from using the term “expert” loosely, then we can avoid misleading our constituents and maintain a clear understanding of the qualifications and expertise that committee members bring to the table. Let’s be accurate in our communication. "Strength Does Not Lie In The Absence Of Fear, But In The Courage To Face It Head-On And Rise Above It"

LOOK INSIDE THE PROCESS

LETS TALK BUDGET A

By Maurice Brenner Deputy Mayor/Regional Councillor Ward 1 Pickering Pickering is preparing its 2024 budget under the Strong Mayor’s Powers granted by the Provincial Government. Todays column will provide an inside look at how the Budget is being created and the why the Public’s input is so important. Before getting into the details, I want to make it very clear that I DO NOT SUPPORT THE GRANTING OF STRONG MAYORS POWERS as I see it as an erosion of the role of elected Councillors. That said, until the Province reverses the Legislation that granted it,( topic for another day) it is my role to do the best I can to find ways to ensure the voices of the Public are heard on all Municipal matters such as the setting of the Budget. NEW THIS YEAR This is the first year that the Pickering Budget will be prepared under the Strong Mayor's Power which is why Public input to the Mayor is so important. City Staff are currently working with the Mayor and will forward it to each member of Council the Mayor’s Budget both Capital and Operating for review. At that point I along with my colleagues will have the opportunity to challenge the Budget on a line by line basis and provide suggestions to the Mayor. These challenges however are not binding to the Mayor however it is an opportunity to try to convince the Mayor to re-consider. WHY IS COMMUNITY INPUT SO IMPORTANT Pickering is a thriving city thanks to the residents and businesses who choose to live, work, and invest here. A budget not only sets your Property Tax, but also puts in place the individual business plans of every department which translates into the services and new infrastructure you can expect for 2024. TIME LINES The commenting period closes at midnight, Thursday, January 4, 2024. Input received will be provided to the City's Director, Finance & Treasurer, and Mayor Ashe for consideration when presenting the Mayor’s 2024 Capital and Current Budgets by January 30, 2024. Councillors get the Budget at the same time the Public gets it. VIRTUAL PUBLIC INPUT Members of the Public can tune in for a virtual presentation and Q&A on the Recommended Draft 2024 Capital Budget highlights, with City of Pickering Director, Finance & Treasurer. Residents can tune in and leave their questions on the comments thread or email their questions in advance to socialmedia@pickering.ca. Location: Facebook.com/CityofPickering or YouTube.com/CityofPickering Date/Time: Thursday, January 4, 2024 - 7 pm to 8 pm WARD 1 & 2 COMMUNITY TOWN HALL Ward 2 Councillors Linda Cook (Regional), Mara Nagy (City) along with myself are planning to host a joint Ward 1 and 2 Community Town Hall meeting Monday January 15th 7:00PM, at the Westshore Community Centre. This will be an opportunity for residents to learn more about the Capital Infrastructure being planned as part of the proposed Capital Budget as well as a dialog with residents on items that are important to them. (Watch for more details) CAPITAL BUDGET FORECAST; The Senior Staff Recommended Draft 2024 Capital Budget and 2025-2027 Capital Forecast is available for viewing online, with the option to reach the Finance Department directly through budget@pickering.ca. Residents can visit Let’sTalkPickering.ca/Budget to view this document, get a better understanding of the cost of capital infrastructure and where property taxes go, watch a video overview of the City’s key infrastructure projects, and share budget priorities for Pickering’s future.

Merry Christmas

By Joe Ingino Editor/Publisher ACCOMPLISHED WRITER/AUTHOR OF OVER 800,000 Published Columns in Canada and The United States “I live a dream in a nightmare world” Always Remember That The cosmic blueprint of your life was written in code across the sky at the moment you were born. Decode Your Life By Living It Without Regret or Sorrow. - ONE DAY AT A TIME - There is no other time of the year like Christmas. A time to reflect on what makes life great. Remember sacrifices and wait for a new beginning to unfold before your eyes with new years soon coming. The anticipation of Christmas is like no other. Young and old can’t wait to see what life will bring. In the season of celebration with family and friends. Here at the Central Newspaper. We like to thank the many contributors, associates and people of interest. This includes our investors, supporters, readers, columnist, advertisers, readers, employees, contractors and our staff. Without everyone's contributions, we would not be able to bring you this great award winning newspaper. It took us 28 years to achieve number one status. We, thanks to you we did it. We survived many pitfalls. Many challenges from all angles. Even today we face many challenges from groups and organization that should be supporting us and joining our success. As the new year rolls in. We are already planning on overcoming obstacle and once again lead by example. I remember our first few years. The criticism, the challenges we met as we dealt with the competition. Our biggest obstacle was to set our pace apart from the competition. To carve our own way. This created a clear non-contractual agreement between Metroland and the Central. This move is what made us survive tidal waves of tidal waves of controversy and challenges. Competitors came and went one after the other. They failed to recognize the importance of respect and integrity. The publishing industry is very controlled and very well safe guarded. The bigger you are the more control you have. Any challengers are quickly dismantled through various tactics. Tactics like the control of advertisers, news items and access to the presses. This is in part why all competitors have failed. At the Central today we are the local, regional newspaper. We have the experience, the proven track record. This Christmas we celebrate for the community at large. Rejoice in the season. Merry Christmas to all...

The rise of crime in Canada

by Maj (ret'd) CORNELIU. CHISU, CD, PMSC, FEC, CET, P. Eng. Former Member of Parliament Pickering-Scarborough East According to Statistics Canada, Canada's Crime Severity Index (CSI) increased by 4.3 percent in 2023. The violent CSI increased by 4.6 percent, and the non-violent CSI increased by 4.1 percent. These indices have been on the rise since 2014, except for a drop during the COVID-19 pandemic. In the first months of 2023, skyrocketing violent crime is the new reality in every Canadian time zone. In Saskatchewan, First Nations leaders are sounding the alarm on a “crisis” of on-reserve violence. Newfoundland and Labrador is coping with a 20 per cent increase in violent crime severity. In the Yukon Territory, politicians and RCMP officials are reporting crime that is both “more intense” and “increasing dramatically.” A new survey published recently by the Leger and the Association for Canadian Studies found that two thirds of Canadians believe violent crime is visibly worse than it was before the onset of the COVID-19 pandemic. Of respondents, one fifth said they had feared for their safety in the last six months. One in every 20 said they had been personally assaulted. On top of this trend, according to a recent federal report, Crime groups are slowly gaining influence in government agencies. Recent information from the Toronto police says they have arrested seven people in connection with a suspected auto theft ring in which the accused were allegedly conspiring with Service Ontario employees. "As the project progressed, investigators learned that suspects were conspiring with employees at Service Ontario, who were trafficking in driving and vehicle data taken from the Ministry of Transportation database," police said in the release. Police also said that they seized about $1.5 million in proceeds of crime as part of the investigation by the service's major crime unit. The proceeds included numerous luxury vehicles and hundreds of thousands of dollars in cash. According to police, employees at Service Ontario would provide the accused with information about vehicles and drivers, including their addresses. Police alleged that the accused would then steal the vehicles. Service Ontario employees would also provide the accused with fraudulent vehicle registrations and vehicle identification numbers (VIN), police said. Investigators say the accused would place the fraudulent vehicle identification numbers on the stolen vehicles, in a process known as "re-vinning”, to appear legitimate. The fraudulent numbers were linked to the fraudulent registrations, police said. "The vehicles were then sold domestically, to unsuspecting buyers, as used vehicles, or were used to commit other crimes," a press release said. Officers executed 25 search warrants between July and October at residences, commercial garages, Service Ontario branches and vehicles. “Investigators located and recovered several stolen and re-vined vehicles in addition to equipment, tools and electronics utilized by the accused to facilitate the theft of motor vehicles. The search warrants also revealed that the number of people who had their data trafficked by the accused were in the hundreds," police said. However, this event is only the tip of the iceberg. In recent years, the weakening of the quality of public service has made it a fertile ground for various crime groups to profit. Organized crime groups are attempting to “infiltrate” government agencies and departments, a report obtained by Global News suggests. The Criminal Intelligence Service Canada (CISC) reported in 2022 that 29 organized crime groups reportedly have “influence and access” within the public sector, while at least 369 groups are believed to be trying to gain a toehold in government. The “infiltration” is primarily taking place within local and “regional” governments, the CISC suggests, and groups “may be using the benefits of this access for interprovincial or international criminal activities.” Last month, the National Security and Intelligence Committee of Parliamentarians (NSICOP) noted that criminal and extremist groups have attempted to join Canadian law enforcement and security agencies, and suggested some have been successful. The RCMP consider 14 organized crime groups operating in Canada to be a serious threat, the NSICOP report read, who commit a “range of serious crimes” including infiltrating “police and security agencies.” Those 14 “high-level threats” are operating in four provinces, the CISC report reveals: Ontario (6), Quebec (3), British Columbia (4) and Alberta (1). Moreover, where organized crime groups’ motivation is ultimately profit, extremist infiltration has more sinister intentions: access to training, tactics, equipment and weaponry. Despite these revelations, there seems to be little appetite, (or is it lack of interest?) on the part of the Canadian political establishment, to deal with this very dangerous trend. Instead of being tough on crime, it seems that the Canadian judicial system has become complacent. It is not rooting out the causes which are creating this rise in criminality or the intent of it, in Canadian society. The crime rise in our cities and towns is a concern that should not be ignored until it is too late. Otherwise, we will see a degradation in our quality of life that is already quite clear in our neighbor to the south. NOW is the time to act for the benefit of our citizens, so we can continue to enjoy a safe life with our families. Are the politicians listening? Make them do so.

Nick, What Do You Look for in a Resume?

By Nick Kossovan My first The Art of Finding Work column, back on January 11, 2021, was titled There's No Universal Hiring Methodology. I pointed out that every hiring manager, each a unique individual, evaluates candidates differently; hence, what I look for in a candidate's resume will understandably differ from what other hiring managers look for. Picture yourself in a bookstore, having picked up a book and flipping through it to see if it is a book you will want to spend time reading. To decide if I want to take the time to read a candidate's resume in-depth, I spend between 10-20 seconds skimming it, searching for what I believe every recruiter and hiring manager looks for; evidence the candidate has contributed positively to their previous employers (revenue generated, savings, efficiency improvements, percentage increases or decreases) and not just maintained the status quo. The adage, "There is beauty in simplicity," certainly applies to resumes. Stylish layout, fancy fonts, and opinion statements (e.g., "I'm a team player," "I pay attention to details." Unless your claim is quantified, it is just your opinion.) do not trump a candidate who showcases their results. When reviewing a resume, I am looking for a career story showing how the candidate contributed to their employer's business and how they manage their career—their commitment to their career, their desire to improve themselves, and their progress. When writing your resume, you cannot go wrong keeping the following in mind: A great resume frames the candidate's career story and how their accomplishments were an asset to your employer's business. The same applies to your LinkedIn profile, where you have much more room and options (upload projects, videos, articles) to tell your career story. Getting back to my skimming resumes; in an ideal world, recruiters and hiring managers would spend five to ten minutes reviewing the resumes they receive. We do not live in an ideal world. A hiring manager has only so many hours in a day to review hundreds of resumes, which their applicant tracking system (ATS) has passed on, hoping to find a few qualified candidates. Like most hiring managers, I do not have the luxury of time; thus, I skim resumes to make my initial "yes/no" decision. A skimmable resume, an important factor seldom mentioned by self-proclaiming "experts," along with the right content, is most likely to catch my attention. You can make your resume skimmable by: · Not centring or justifying any of your text. · Left-align dates and locations. · Maintaining consistency in font size (10-12) and type (Arial or Times New Roman). · Bolding either your roles or your companies, not both. · When writing numbers, use digits. · Maximizing the first five words of your bullet points. · Having a separate "Skills" section. I will not read a resume if there is no link to the candidate's LinkedIn profile, which should appear beneath their contact information. I find the lack of a LinkedIn profile link suspicious, as if they are hiding something. Every job seeker on the planet knows that in addition to reviewing their resume, the hiring manager will scrutinize their LinkedIn profile and digital footprint to evaluate whether they are interview-worthy, so include a link to your LinkedIn profile to make it easy for the reader. Typos, spelling mistakes, and grammatical errors turn me off. Unless the content (READ: quantified results, skills) is exceptional, if there are more than two errors, I will reject the resume. Given that a resume is crucial job search document, I do not think it is unreasonable to ask that it be error-free. There you have it, a resume that will most likely lead me to call the candidate will have what I am primarily looking for: · A LinkedIn profile link · Results (numbers) · A career story · Error-free Skimmable resumes get extra points. Now you know what I look for in a resume. However, there is a caveat, a candidate must include a customized cover letter to get me to read their resume. A candidate's cover letter is more important to me than their resume; therefore, I only read resumes accompanied by a cover letter. Why? Based on my experience, if the candidate did not take the time to write a cover letter tailored to the position, they are likely spraying and praying, which, unfortunately, is a common job search strategy. Job seekers who spray and pray just want any job, which is not appealing to me. A cover letter also helps me decide whether to read a candidate's resume by: · Allowing me to evaluate their writing skills. ("People who think well, write well." - David Ogilvy, Ad Executive) · Seeing if they have the professional acumen to explain any employment gaps. · Assessing their ability to sell me on how their skills and experience align with the job requirements. I believe I speak for all hiring managers when I say the importance of your resume presentation and content cannot be overemphasized. Do not, however, underestimate the power of a customized cover letter. Still, even if your cover letter convinces me to read your resume, if it does not contain the aforementioned, I am looking for, then... next! _____________________________________________________________________ Nick Kossovan, a well-seasoned veteran of the corporate landscape, offers advice on searching for a job. You can send him your questions at artoffindingwork@gmail.com

Support Your Local Sports in Oshawa and the Durham Region

By Dale Jodoin In the bustling city of Oshawa and the wider Durham region, there's a vibrant world of local sports that offers not just entertainment, but also a way to connect with the community and support local talent. From the spirited games of Ontario Tech University's Ridgebacks to the thrilling local wrestling matches, there's a wealth of sporting activities that cater to all ages. The Ridgebacks: A Source of Local Pride Ontario Tech University's sports teams, known as the Ridgebacks, are a cornerstone of Oshawa's sporting scene. They compete in various sports, including hockey, soccer, and more, providing an exciting and affordable option for family entertainment. Attending a Ridgebacks game is not just about watching a sport; it's an experience that brings together students, families, and sports enthusiasts in a shared passion for the game. Local Wrestling: An Exciting Alternative Apart from university sports, the local wrestling scene in Oshawa and Durham region is a hidden gem. These events, often characterized by their high energy and captivating matches, offer a unique and affordable way to spend an evening. For about $20, you can dive into the world of wrestling, cheering on local athletes as they compete with skill and determination. More Than Just Games: The Community Impact Supporting local sports in Oshawa and the Durham region goes beyond the thrill of the game. It's about contributing to the local economy and fostering a sense of community. Every ticket purchased, every snack bought at a game, helps support the local sports infrastructure, from the teams to the venues. This cycle of support is crucial for the growth and sustainability of local sports. Other Sports to Explore The sporting landscape in Oshawa and Durham is diverse. Depending on the season, you could find yourself at a cricket match, a football game, or enjoying other athletic events. These sports not only provide variety but also reflect the rich cultural tapestry of the region. They offer a chance for different communities to showcase their talents and for spectators to learn about and enjoy a variety of sports. Family-Friendly and Accessible One of the best aspects of local sports in this region is their family-friendly nature. These events offer a safe and exciting environment for children and adults alike, making them perfect for a family outing. The affordable pricing also means that a family can enjoy a day or evening out without the burden of high costs typically associated with professional sporting events. The Role of Schools and Community Centers Schools and community centers in Oshawa and the Durham region also play a vital role in promoting local sports. They often host games and events, providing platforms for young athletes to showcase their skills and for the community to gather in support. These institutions are instrumental in nurturing future talent and in creating a supportive environment for sports at the grassroots level. Volunteering and Participation For those looking to get more involved, local sports organizations often welcome volunteers. Whether it's helping at events, coaching, or providing logistical support, there are numerous opportunities to contribute. Volunteering not only helps the sports community but also offers a chance to learn new skills, meet new people, and be an active part of the community. Conclusion: A Call to Action In conclusion, supporting local sports in Oshawa and the Durham region is about much more than just watching games. It's an investment in the community, a celebration of local talent, and a commitment to keeping sports accessible and enjoyable for all. By attending local sports events, you are not only guaranteed an affordable and enjoyable experience but are also contributing to the vitality and spirit of your community. So, take the opportunity to explore the rich and diverse sports scene in your region – it's a decision that benefits everyone involved.

Duplicity

from Wayne & Tamara We’ve been married 20 years. In order to spice up our sex life, we would occasionally share fantasies, and one that seemed to turn us both on involved my wife with me and another man. This remained a fantasy until recently, when we had drinks with a photographer who specializes in “boudoir photography.” Probably as a result of too much wine, I asked if he would take photos of my wife, and he agreed. On the day of the photo session, my wife asked me what she should do as she was nervous. I conveyed to her she was to lose her inhibitions and enjoy the experience. The shoot took place at midday, and I could not be there. Afterwards, she told me the photo session had been a success. She and the photographer shared a bottle of wine, and in the course of the session she’d learned much about posing properly. She went on to say she and the photographer participated in a whole gamut of sex acts she really enjoyed, since he had unlimited stamina. She said she hoped I felt good since she had gone along with it for me. She says she loves me more than ever and will never do this again. Her subsequent actions support this. Although I helped to arrange it, I am unable to stop thinking about the whole episode. I want to get over it and move on, but I’m losing sleep big time. John John, in one of Mozart’s operas, an older man bets two younger ones their sweethearts are fickle. As part of the bet, the two younger men are to pretend to be called away, then return in disguise and try to seduce the women. The older man is confident the women will not be faithful; the young men are equally confident they will be. While the plot is hokey, it flirts with a great truth. Our deepest desire is for someone who wants only us. What you really want is for your wife to say and mean, “You are the only one I could ever make love to.” That is the sexier thing and the deeper desire. You didn’t understand your sexual fantasy would override your deeper desire. In your head, you controlled the outcome. In actuality, you controlled nothing. You didn’t fantasize your feelings would turn out like this. But in the letters we receive, one or both parties are always revolted by the outcome. Your wife was not true to your fantasy. You weren’t there, and that is why you feel she is mollifying you. But even if you had been there, your feelings would likely be the same. We never, ever, recommend intimate relationships with more than one person. In the letters we receive, the outcome is always what you describe. Wayne & Tamara Diminished Capacity Last month, my boyfriend of eight years and I hosted a party. After I was completely and utterly drunk, my boyfriend and best friend took me into the bedroom with plans to have a threesome. We discussed this before, but not thoroughly. My somewhat sober boyfriend had sex with her. Apparently (I don’t remember much) I approved. Now I am heartbroken. Everything that was so special between us is gone. I look at him with disgust because of the things they did. I am so ashamed this happened. I don’t know if I’ll ever get over this. Audra Audra, we get more letters about sexual jealousy than about any other topic. This is the most intimate act you can do with another person. Most people cannot tolerate even the suggestion there is someone else in their partner’s life. The third, fourth, fifth, or sixteenth person in an intimate relationship dilutes and devalues the relationship. When the relationship is no longer mutually exclusive, the boundaries are lost, and usually, so is the relationship. Wayne & Tamara Wayne SEND LETTERS TO: Directanswers@WayneAndTamara.com

Heart Disease Prevention Begins with Children and Good Parenting

By Common Sense Health – W. Gifford-Jones MD and Diana Gifford Heart disease is called the “silent killer”. Why? Because the first symptom can be a fatal attack. Most people lead their lives unaware of the ticking time bomb within, neglecting lifestyle changes that could radically reduce the risk. The fact is, preventing heart disease needs to be a lifelong practice, starting in childhood. Pediatric cardiologists and researchers who focus on identifying and mitigating risk factors for cardiovascular disease in children and young adults are proving the case. Studies show that obese children have higher levels of insulin resistance and inflammation than their non-obese peers, both of which are known risk factors for heart disease. Obese children also have stiffer arteries, which can lead to high blood pressure and other cardiovascular problems. But heart health among children can begin even earlier in their lives, including before birth. Long before childhood obesity becomes a risk factor for heart disease, low birth weight, maternal smoking during pregnancy, and childhood exposure to environmental toxins are a concern. In one study, children who were exposed to second-hand smoke had higher levels of atherosclerosis, or the buildup of plaque in the arteries associated with cardiovascular disease, than children who were not exposed. The list of health problems caused by second-hand smoke is already a mile long. Adding increased risk of cardiovascular disease for children may not get the headlines this research finding deserves. But any adult neglecting to keep kids safe from smoke is guilty of the kind of child abuse that lasts a lifetime. Cholesterol is another common consideration in cardiovascular disease. While cholesterol is often associated with older adults, it is also an important factor in the development of heart disease in children and young adults. In another study, researchers found that children and young adults with elevated levels of LDL cholesterol, or "bad" cholesterol, were more likely to develop atherosclerosis and other cardiovascular problems. They also found that reducing LDL cholesterol levels through diet and medication can significantly reduce the risk of heart disease. There are important implications of this research for the prevention and treatment of cardiovascular disease in children and young adults. By identifying and mitigating risk factors early in life, it may be possible to prevent the development of heart disease later on. To combat childhood obesity, the recommendation is a multifaceted approach that includes healthy eating, regular exercise, avoiding exposure to environmental toxins such as second-hand smoke, and behavioral interventions, with an emphasis on starting early. But there are a few fundamental problems. One, infants and young children have no capacity to lobby for their health. They are utterly dependent on their caregivers and the environment in which they live. Two, young people tend to feel immortal. They willfully indulge in high levels of risk. Three, by the time mid-life arrives, it’s often too late to erase the cumulative negative health impacts of poor lifestyle. So for loving parents and grandparents everywhere: what might be the best birthday and holiday gifts for the youngsters in your family? Skip the sugary soft drinks, cakes and ice cream. Instead, make a photograph album of healthy, active centenarians and include the recipe for how to make it to 100+. There is an abundance of Gifford-Jones articles that could be included too – available at www.docgiff.com – arguably the best free advice of all! But we shouldn’t be making light of the situation. Here in North America, and sadly around the world too, we are currently getting this one very wrong. Make no mistake about it, global childhood obesity rates are on the rise. Sign-up at www.docgiff.com to receive our weekly e-newsletter. For comments, contact-us@docgiff.com. Follow us Instagram @docgiff and @diana_gifford_jones

Statement from Mayor Adrian Foster on 2024-2027 budget

Mayor Adrian Foster By Clarington Mayor Adrian Foster

Clarington, Ontario – Clarington Mayor Adrian Foster has issued the following statement on the Municipality’s first multi-year budget. “I want to make something very clear: Clarington residents are getting a good deal on their property taxes. Compared to other nearby municipalities, Clarington has provided, and continues to provide, similar services at a significantly lower cost to the taxpayers. Earlier this week, Clarington’s first four-year budget was adopted. I believe it is important to clarify how these figures impact your property tax bill. Clarington’s budget increase translates to about $67 per year for the average household. Clarington’s annual budget increase will be 4.2 per cent, on average, per year from 2024 to 2027. The 4.2 per cent is the annual increase to Clarington’s total municipal budget, not your individual property tax bill. Clarington’s portion of your tax bill is about one-third of the total amount you pay. Clarington’s budget increase will result in a 1.5 per cent increase to your total property tax bill, or $67 more a year for the average home. The Region of Durham, which will also impact your tax bill, has yet to pass their budget. If we compare to our municipal neighbours, Oshawa's 2024 budget increase will result in approximately $82 more for Oshawa’s median house assessment value. In an effort to offer full transparency to our residents, we will compare and release the dollar amount increases between Clarington and other Durham municipalities as they set their 2024 budgets in the new year. Clarington now, and historically, has had amongst the lowest property taxes in Durham Region. Clarington is leading the way with a multi-year budget that provides residents stability and predictability over four years. I am confident that our budget will support and enhance the amazing quality of life we enjoy in our community, now and into the future.”

KEEPING YOU INFORMED

By Maurice Brenner Deputy Mayor/Regional Councillor Ward 1 Pickering Potential Crisis Faces Homeless and Food Deprive As Christmas is quickly coming, the needs of the Homeless and those that are food deprive could never be greater and once again Municipalities who are grass roots will need to find the funds to fill the financial voids. In Durham Region, data shows a 67 per cent increase in people experiencing unsheltered homelessness over the past year. Regional Staff have been meeting regularly with counterparts across the GTHA, sharing best practices and approaches to service delivery, and collaborate advocacy efforts for additional funding and policy changes at both the Provincial and Federal levels of Government. While funding announcements are appreciated, when you compare the reductions in funding compared to an increasing population that are and will experience homelessness, Municipalities will face a serious funding crisis that is not sustainable, with pressures increasing as Shelter Capacity decreases along with a lack of available affordable housing. A recent report presented to Durham Region Health and Social Services compared the current level of funding and how it will decrease by 2028. Based on current trends, the need will continue to increase while funding decreases and unless the Upper Tiers at the very least maintain current levels of funding, more and more will find themselves on the street which is why the Health and Social Services Committee past unanimously a motion to pressure both the Province and the Federal Government to reverse these reductions. Current Funding 2023-2024 - $4,956,872 New Allocations 2024-2025 - $ 4666,872 2025-2026 - $ 4666,872 2026-2027- $ 940,221 2027-2028 - $ 940,221 Side by side with the increasing numbers of those finding themselves homeless is the growing numbers of those who turn to Food banks. A snap shot of the City of Pickering and the St Paul’s On the Hill Food Bank, which like so many other Food Banks is a volunteer based organization who is struggling to keep up with demands. Over the past year demand for services has increased 41.63% as a result of an erosion of social support programs and the lack of affordable housing. From January 1st to November 30th 2023, they served 26,704 individuals including 9,298 children compared to 18,854 individuals for the same time period in 2022. On average each month 65 new families turn to the food bank with a majority family size of 6 or more. St Pauls on the Hill has reached out to Pickering and has requested emergency funding to get them through the Christmas Season with a $8763.52 financial support to cover the cost on increasing rent in the storage unit (4,511.27 of that amount will be used for rent cost for December and the other $4,252.2 will be used to purchase the milk and eggs distributed to our clients for December. The amount for the milk and eggs is based off November’s expense. While I am confident that this will be supported by Pickering Council, we will need to look at a more sustainable solution to ensure that no is food deprived not just in December but all year.

The dark side

The Dark Side of Universal Change Rooms: Safety, Voyeurism, and Mental Health Concerns “The current trend” of implementing universal change rooms in various provinces has sparked controversy and raised concerns over issues such as voyeurism, sexual assaults, and mental health. While the intention behind these inclusive spaces is commendable, it is essential to critically examine the unintended consequences and the impact they have on individuals, particularly children. The City of Pickering recently sent out a video via social media outlining all the reasons why they believe the Chestnut Hill Development Recreation Centre’s Universal Changeroom is, pardon the pun, fitting. The video mentions that the Universal change room uses signs posted in various areas, as a deterrent to remind people to keep clothes and bathing suits on at all times, notably while using the common area or the open stall showers. However, while signs serve as a visual reminder of expected behavior, they cannot guarantee compliance or prevent individuals with malicious intent from committing wrongful acts. One of the primary concerns surrounding universal change rooms is the increased vulnerability individuals face in these spaces. The absence of gender segregation can create an environment where voyeurism and sexual assaults become more prevalent. Incidents of voyeurism and inappropriate behavior have been reported, leading to a loss of privacy and a diminished sense of safety for many individuals. This poses a significant risk, particularly for children and those who have experienced trauma, as they may not feel comfortable or secure in these shared spaces. I would also like to point out that though the person in the video claims that all you can see under the doors of the stalls is someone’s feet, I can assure you that my head and most of my body can easily maneuver my way under the stall door(s), and over the stalls, leaving plenty of room for those individuals with malicious intents to easily slide their hands, feet, or possibly a gimbal stick under or over the doors making it easy for their phones or other recording devices to record potential victims while using these vulnerable spaces. Durhams recent police report noted that they posted a fake child web site wich attracted over 6,000 hits in one day soliciting child sex. Durhams most recent campaign was put forth in fight against human trafficking erecting sign along major roads. The threat here in Durham is real. Do we really need to invite the possible risk of criminal act to take place in our community recreation centres. Another important issue that was never even mentioned in Pickering’s Chestnut Hill Recreation Centre video is the psychological impact of these universal change rooms which cannot be overlooked, especially for children. Not to mention the lack of regards for cultural and religious values. The lack of respect and the pressure to conform to a specific societal agenda norm can lead to increased anxiety, stress, and impact natural cognitive development for children. Children, in particular, may find it challenging to navigate these vulnerable spaces, resulting in feelings of insecurity, discomfort, and even exclusion. It is crucial to recognize the importance of providing options that prioritize the mental well-being of individuals, particularly those who may already be struggling with mental health challenges. As a strong advocate for the people, every male and female,should have the right to make an informed decision about the spaces they feel most comfortable using. Whether they choose to use their biological changeroom or the universal changeroom which is inclusive to all, regardless of their age or membership status. While the Corporation of The City of Pickering continues to argue that Chestnut Hill Development Recreation Complex’s universal change room is safe, and promotes inclusivity and equality, it has inadvertently created increased anxiety, stress, and mental health issues amongst the community by taking away individuals right to feel safe in vulnerable spaces. Maybe Pickering could look at how Brooklyn designed their recreation center. They have biological changerooms for males and females to use regardless of their age, and instead of having a big open area, monitored by signs for the universal changerooms, they have individual rooms to be used as family/universal changerooms recognizing the importance of individual choice and autonomy. Giving everyone the right to personal privacy and personal comfort. Way to go Brooklyn.

PLEASE CALM DOWN

By Joe Ingino Editor/Publisher ACCOMPLISHED WRITER/AUTHOR OF OVER 800,000 Published Columns in Canada and The United States “I live a dream in a nightmare world” Always Remember That The cosmic blueprint of your life was written in code across the sky at the moment you were born. Decode Your Life By Living It Without Regret or Sorrow. - ONE DAY AT A TIME - I know that many of you have called frustrated and some even very angry. All I can say is “I am sorry, we are working as fast as we can with all municipalities.” It appears that citizens are becoming very frustrated over the fact that many of the services and programs are not being advertise in the community newspaper. People are left to wonder and are demanding that notices and events be posted in the local newspaper. Some of you have called frustrated when you attempted to call your city halls. From the automated system to the staff that had no real idea of when notices and happenings in the community would be made available. Others, of all ages have expressed anger over the fact that some municipalities are re-directing citizens to their web pages. Web pages that are very complicated to navigate this further increasing the frustration. Municipalities in my opinion do not understand the science behind posting online. If you look at those that have chosen FB for example. Many of the posting have no comments or no viewers. This means that no one is viewing the posts. Others select even more complex platforms. They do this because their IT people do not truly understand their audience. First and foremost. I personally believe that it is irresponsible and arrogant for any municipality to expect citizens to go check their web sites. I say this because in this age of caring and feeling and inclusiveness. Not everyone can afford the internet. Not everyone can afford a computer. Not everyone has a smart phone. Not to mention the countless number of people out there that have limited internet or computer savvy. So what does this mean. Citizens are not getting the information they traditionally would receive from a newspaper. Those that claim that news print is dead. They do not understand the digital revolution. On the one. It is not better exposure. It is controlled exposure as if you do not have internet you can’t get information. Two, the rule of thumb for most web pages. If the viewer needs to click more than three times. The viewer lost interest. As for advertisers. Cheap means you get what you paid for. Some less experience local business owners that claim to be advertising online. Only are truly telling you they are broke and that the cheap online posting is the tip of the iceberg to what they should be attracting. Newsprint, brings the community together. For a dollar a week you have fresh copy that sits in your home. Easy flip pages and quick access to information. For those calling frustrated. Please calm down. We are on it.

Bill C-18 the Online News Act and related issues

by Maj (ret'd) CORNELIU. CHISU, CD, PMSC, FEC, CET, P. Eng. Former Member of Parliament Pickering-Scarborough East As we have become accustomed to some of the ill-conceived Liberal government legislation, Bill C-18, The Online News Act, should not come as a surprise; not even the negotiations with Google. Never mind that Meta, the other giant, refused to negotiate. Bill C-18 will be in force by December 19, 2023. However, the Liberal government has announced that it has reached an agreement with Google on a deal that will ensure that news links are not blocked on the search engine, and the company pays $100 million to support the news sector in Canada. The government was ultimately able to strike the deal largely by changing the law, albeit through yet-to-be released regulations. After claiming for months that it would not get involved in negotiations and specifying in considerable detail what any deals between platforms and media companies needed to look like, the government dropped all of that and simply desperately negotiated the best deal it could get on behalf of Canadian news outlets. To be clear, this is apparently good news for all, given that the alternative was bad for news outlets, the government, Canadians, and Google. However, if we look into the details, this is hardly an example of good government policy, even if it is a far better outcome than blocked news links. Indeed, the loss of Meta from the system not only dropped the estimated benefits of Bill C-18 by $50 million, but the lost links and deals means that the actual losses run into the tens of millions of dollars. It was only a few months ago that the government said it estimated Google’s contribution alone at $170 million. There was some sense that the extra $70 million was designed to offset the Meta losses, but that was something Google was unwilling to cover. The reality is that Bill C-18 is now barely at break-even. Google’s $100 million is not all-new money. The company was already paying millions in deals for its Google Showcase program with many Canadian news outlets. Those deals will now be cancelled with the single payment replacing the other contributions. There is obviously some new money – particularly for broadcasters – but it is not the full $100 million and it must be offset by the losses sustained by the exit of Meta. Therefore, thinking rationally, Google made a good deal and the Liberal government blew it, as usual, spending a lot of time on bad legislation, for nothing. In the deal, the broadcast sector will remain the big winner, though speculation of the possible removal of the CBC from the system would increase the distributions to the remaining companies. Of course, the question remains: why should the CBC even be considered, when it already receives yearly 1.3 billion from public money? "Given concerns about public broadcasters competing with the private sector for ad dollars, to have it also compete for [Big Tech] money makes matters worse," University of Ottawa professor Michael Geist, who opposed Bill C-18, told a Senate committee studying the bill in May. Regardless, allocating the majority of the money to broadcasters presumably helps explain why the government announced a $129 million bailout that expands the available money in the labour journalism tax credit, for which only print and digital publications (known as Qualified Canadian Journalism Organizations) are eligible. The risks to the independence of the press are significant. The Canadian experience will likely serve as a cautionary tale for other countries. An example of how government and industry ignored the obvious risks of a legislative approach, ultimately leaving the government desperate for a deal to salvage something for a sector that is enormously important to a free and open democracy. Once again, the Liberal government has shown that they operate from an ivory tower and we, ordinary Canadians, have to pay for it. My question is this: When will this government start to serve Canadians, not only itself; pursuing inordinately costly, scientifically immature, Canadian environment inappropriate if not unsound, pie-in-the sky projects, like climate exchange/carbon-tax, electric vehicles (for our sub-zero temperatures and distances!!??) and attempting to syphon revenue off private businesses that are already shoring up government lackeys like the CBC? You be the judge.

HUMAN TRAFFIKING

By Dale Jodoin Human trafficking, a form of modern-day slavery, remains a grave concern worldwide, including in countries like Canada, often perceived as safe havens. This narrative delves into the complexities of human trafficking in Canada, exploring the legal landscape and what can be done to combat this heinous crime. Human Trafficking in Canada: A Snapshot Canada, known for its strong human rights record, is not immune to the scourge of human trafficking. According to the Canadian Centre to End Human Trafficking, this crime is often hidden, making it challenging to quantify. However, available data paints a concerning picture. Between 2009 and 2016, there were 1,099 police-reported incidents of human trafficking in Canada, with numbers increasing annually. The majority of these cases involved sexual exploitation, and the victims were predominantly women and girls. Legal Framework and Sentencing The question arises: Why does Canada, a country with a robust legal system, appear lenient in sentencing traffickers? The Criminal Code of Canada does have provisions against human trafficking, with penalties ranging up to life imprisonment. However, the application of these laws can be complex. Factors influencing sentencing include the nature of the crime, the trafficker's role, and the impact on victims. In practice, sentences can vary widely, and in some cases, they may seem disproportionately low compared to the severity of the crime. For instance, in 2016, a landmark case in Ontario saw a trafficker sentenced to only five years for crimes involving the sexual exploitation of a minor. This sparked public outcry and raised questions about the effectiveness of Canada's approach to punishing traffickers. Challenges in Prosecution Prosecuting human trafficking cases is fraught with challenges. Victims, often traumatized, may be reluctant to testify. The clandestine nature of trafficking networks makes gathering evidence difficult. Additionally, there's a need for more specialized training for law enforcement and judicial officials to handle these complex cases effectively. Global Context Globally, human trafficking is a lucrative industry, generating an estimated $150 billion annually, according to the International Labour Organization. The United Nations Office on Drugs and Crime reports that 71% of trafficking victims worldwide are women and girls, with 29% being children. What Can Be Done? Strengthening Laws and Policies: Advocates argue for stricter enforcement of existing laws and, where necessary, the introduction of tougher legislation. This includes longer sentences for traffickers and more comprehensive protection for victims. Awareness and Education: Public awareness campaigns can play a crucial role in combating human trafficking. Educating the public about the signs of trafficking and how to report suspicions can lead to more effective prevention and intervention. Supporting Victims: Providing comprehensive support services for victims, including counseling, legal assistance, and reintegration programs, is vital. This support can empower survivors to rebuild their lives and, in some cases, assist in the prosecution of traffickers. International Cooperation: Human trafficking is a transnational crime. Strengthening international collaboration in law enforcement, sharing intelligence, and harmonizing legal frameworks are essential steps in addressing it effectively. Community Involvement: Local communities play a critical role in both identifying potential trafficking situations and supporting victims. Community-based programs can offer localized solutions and assistance. Corporate Responsibility: Businesses must ensure their supply chains are free from forced labor. Implementing ethical labor practices and conducting regular audits can help in this regard. Conclusion The fight against human trafficking in Canada and globally requires a multifaceted approach. While the legal system plays a crucial role, it is not the sole solution. A collective effort involving governments, law enforcement, NGOs, communities, and individuals is essential. By raising awareness, strengthening laws, supporting victims, and fostering international cooperation, we can make significant strides in eradicating this form of modern-day slavery. The journey is challenging, but with concerted efforts, a world free from the chains of human trafficking is an achievable

AN OPEN LETTER: This Holiday Season Be Nice to Hospitality Workers

By Nick Kossovan Dear consumers, The holiday season is upon us. Therefore, sadly predictable, even with hyperinflation and an uncertain economy, our Western consumerism has begun its annual shift into high gear, resulting in our interacting with front-line hospitality workers (retail sales associates, baristas, restaurant servers) more than usual. You can tell a lot about someone by how they treat the person serving them; hence, the value of kindness cannot be overstated. Throughout December and to support extended Boxing Week sales, well into January, hospitality workers will be working long hours, often eating on their feet or in the stockroom, missing out on festivities with friends and family and exhausting themselves. Crippling staffing shortages, coupled with stock shortages, have created stressful retail and eating establishment environments for both employees and customers. God forbid Barbie Dreamhouse is not in stock, the barista added the wrong flavoured syrup to your coffee, the Subway counter clerk forgot to swap your salad for chips, or you asked for no ice, and your drink came with ice. Breathe! You have food, a roof over your head, work to go to, and a sense of safety, as opposed to the millions worldwide who currently live in unimaginable poverty or, through no fault of their own, find themselves living in a war zone. Humans, especially in stressful, busy work environments, are bound to make mistakes. You gain nothing by not treating the person serving you with the respect they deserve other than adding stress to an already stressful situation and, as I have often seen, making a public scene because your Kansas City Striploin was done, according to you, medium-well, not well-done as you asked for. As much as everyone bemoans the economy and how hard it is to make "ends meet" (READ: "I have to rethink my wants.") our society has somehow evolved to where consumers have the privilege of prioritizing getting stressed over a toy, not being in stock, over putting food on the table. I assure you that the person serving you did not purposefully run out of stock or intentionally make whatever mistake you are upset over. Do not take it personally—it is not the end of the world. As an understanding and empathetic human being, which I hope we all are, give the person the benefit of the doubt and politely point out the mistake... or better yet, let it go! (The salad is better for you.) Now is the ideal time to put aside our 1st world privileges. If the person serving makes a mistake, which I repeat was unintentional, be understanding, nice and forgiving. Remember, especially when dining out, that the person serving you is working hard, while juggling factors out of their control (e.g., the chef called in sick, an item is out of stock, the cappuccino machine is broken), trying to make your experience as pleasant as possible. Who is not angry about today's prices? When making purchases which your cashier ringing them up likely cannot afford, be nice! Hospitality workers have no control over prices. If something is expensive, rethink if you really need to make the purchase and why you are making it. Is it to impress? To look rich? An attempt to buy acceptance or love? Evaluating your reasons for making a purchase is much more financially savvy than berating a sales associate that the Jordan Retro 7 sneakers you want to gift to your nephew in Regina, whom you have not spoken to in three years, but you want your brother to perceive you as "financially successful," cost $245. The sales associate or your server did not set the price. How you spend your money, what you are willing to pay, is entirely on you, not the person serving you. If you are angry at how much something costs, be angry at yourself for believing you "must have it." Hospitality workers are people with real feelings. Shouting at a McDonald's counter server, which I had seen on several occasions because they gave you sweet and sour dipping sauce when you asked for barbecue, will likely result in that person going in the back to cry. Was it worth making someone earning minimum wage feel bad for making an unintentional mistake over dipping sauce? The holidays are about celebrating the values that bind us and coming together. Despite all our self-identifying differences and how the media and politicians go to great lengths to create divisiveness, I like to think we can all agree, even though we do not always act accordingly—everyone is allowed a few bad days—that being nice to each other is a critical part of our social contract. Is not the heart of humanity human kindness? Smiling costs nothing. Saying "Please" and "Thank you" costs nothing. It costs nothing to treat bar, retail, and restaurant staff with patience. There is no better place to start than with hospitality workers to live by the simple golden rule: "Treat others as you would like to be treated," not just during the holiday season but throughout the year. As I mentioned initially, how you treat the person serving you tells a lot about you. _____________________________________________________________________ Nick Kossovan, a well-seasoned veteran of the corporate landscape, offers advice on searching for a job. You can send him your questions at artoffindingwork@gmail.com

Conspiracy of Silence

from Wayne & Tamara I'm hoping you can help me with a moral problem that crops up every now and then in my personal and professional life. Sometimes I find myself being blamed for an error or lack of judgment that actually occurred on someone else's part. For example, I asked someone at work about using a certain location for a display, was given the go-ahead, then chastised for using that location. When the only way I can defend myself involves pointing the finger at someone else, I'm in a real quandary. I am rarely prepared to defend myself if it means making someone else look bad. I handle the problem by saying nothing. I simply don't know what to say. There is usually ample opportunity for the person responsible to come forward, but I find that hardly ever happens. How can I handle this type of problem without taking the low road of attacking others? What is the moral or ethical thing to do? Karla Karla, each of us has principles of behavior rattling around in our head. These principles range from the Golden Rule to Miss Manners' etiquette to the Boy Scout Creed. Often we are not sure which principle to apply. The principle you are applying here is the playground and schoolyard rule which says one shouldn't snitch to a parent or teacher. It is not an ethical rule so much as a rule children employ in play. A much more basic rule applies. That rule says, in simple justice, each of us deserves to be known for the person we are. Your lack of explanations makes you look guilty. Coming forward and explaining why you acted as you did should not be a moral or ethical problem for you. It is simply a matter of fact. If you acted because Sheila told you to do it that way, or the employee handbook says to do it that way, or you have always done it that way and no one told you otherwise, you are simply reporting a fact. You should look at this as an impersonal matter, much as if you are reporting the time or the weather. When you report facts in these situations, there are three rules to remember: don't apologize, don't apologize, and don't apologize. An apology is due when you have done something wrong; no apology is called for when stating the reality of a situation. Karla, you don't have an ethical problem, but the people who know the truth and remain silent do. Wayne SEND LETTERS TO: Directanswers@WayneAndTamara.com

Doctor, with Limitations

The Doctor Game Have Faith in the

By Common Sense Health – W. Gifford-Jones MD and Diana Gifford Is it wise to believe what the doctor tells you? Or are there misleading types, not entirely honest with their patients? Does the medical system place the patient’s best interests first, as commonly stated on health center posters? Or do other factors, like pressure to ease wait times for a high-demand treatments, mean that some people aren’t informed of their best options. The truth is, having implicit faith in the medical profession is risky business. There are ample reasons to place your faith in doctors and medicines. Antibiotics save people from dying of pneumonia and a host of other diseases. Cortisone enables people to be free of wheelchairs. Cardiac pacemakers add years to the lives of heart patients. Surgeons (and organ donors) give new life to those needing transplanted hearts and kidneys. Individuals with diabetes or high blood pressure who trust their doctors are more likely to have better control of these problems because they have confidence in an agreed treatment plan and see the results. In fact, we’re all safer when people trust their doctors. Studies have shown that people who don’t trust in their medical care are less likely to take needed medications, for example. For some conditions, without that medication, individual and societal risk factors go up – the likelihood of car accidents, as one example, or the spread of a communicable disease, as another. People who have faith in their doctors can be thanked for their agreement to participate in clinical trials of new drugs and technologies. But blind trust is a fool’s game, as some doctors have entered the profession to make money instead of to care for people. Others have fallen from grace, lured by profit-seeking drug companies, or working the system to their financial gain. Some doctors are just not good practitioners. Watch out for the family doctor who doesn’t call in the services of a specialist when the situation warrants. Patients should also be on the alert for surgeons who too quickly decide on surgery as a treatment when other options should also be considered. In this case, unless the urgency is clear, use your wits and get a second opinion. Even the best doctor will make a rare mistake. You can help prevent this by reading up on the issues associated with your problem and treatment, asking questions of the doctor, and going over decisions a second time. In some situations, it is the patients who are the problem, as when they don’t like the advice of good doctors. They run down the street to find another one who is willing to write an unnecessary prescription, expose patients to the radiation of unneeded x-rays, or book a risky operation. You should remember that doctors who try to protect you from treatment are often more sincere than those who push you into it. Not trusting your doctor enough can be a bad mistake. Most of them play a good game. On every visit, your doctor should be listening to you carefully. Empathy for your situation is the hallmark of a good physician, but this should not be your main concern. Does it feel like the doctor and staff are on your team? Are your options explained in a way you can understand, and are you included in the decision making about what treatment is best for you? Although it may not be easy to find, it’s worth exploring the reputation of the doctor among his or her peers. So have faith, with limitations, and use a little common sense. You'll end up with better care. Sign-up at www.docgiff.com to receive our weekly e-newsletter. For comments, contact-us@docgiff.com. Follow us Instagram @docgiff and @diana_gifford_jones

THE HYPOCRISY OF ELECTED OFFICIALS: EMPTY WORDS AND MISSED OPPORTUNITIES

The Hypocrisy of Elected Officials: Empty Words and Missed Opportunities In the realm of politics, it is not uncommon to witness a mismatch between rhetoric and action. It is disheartening to observe elected officials who passionately advocate for helping the homeless, feeding those in need, and prioritizing mental health and well-being, only to fall short when it comes time to vote on these critical issues. Instead, they seem more interested in allocating taxpayers' money towards extravagant artwork, leaving one feeling a sense of shame and witnessing blatant hypocrisy. The plight of the homeless, the hungry, and those struggling with mental health issues is a pressing concern that demands urgent attention. It requires lawmakers who are not only vocal about their commitment to addressing these issues but also exhibit a genuine dedication to finding tangible solutions. Yet, all too often, we see politicians who excel in delivering eloquent speeches, emphasizing the importance of these matters, only for their actions to contradict their words. Pickering’s diversion of funds towards artwork, while neglecting essential social welfare programs, is a clear example of this hypocrisy. Art has its place and value in society, but when elected officials prioritize it over initiatives that directly impact the lives of the less fortunate, it becomes a cause for concern. It begs the question: do these officials truly prioritize the needs of their constituents, or are they merely seeking to make superficial gestures for the sake of appearances? And secondly, Addressing homelessness, hunger, and mental health issues requires more than just lip service. It demands a commitment to allocating resources, implementing effective policies, and collaborating with community organizations and experts. Sadly, when elected officials fail to back their words with concrete actions, they undermine the trust and hope placed in them by the very people they are meant to serve. To overcome this hypocrisy, it is crucial for citizens to hold their elected officials accountable. We must actively engage in the political process, demand transparency, and advocate for policies that prioritize the well-being of all members of society. By electing individuals who genuinely demonstrate their commitment to these pressing issues, we can work towards building a more compassionate and equitable society. It is imperative that citizens, strive to elect representatives who align their words and actions seamlessly, rather than those who exhibit hypocrisy and shift responsibility to higher levels of government. We possess the capability to do what is morally right and allocate necessary funds at the municipal level to support those in need. This can be achieved through a simple, yet powerful act of voting. Let us seize this opportunity to elect leaders who exemplify integrity, embodying the values we hold dear, and actively work towards positive change within our communities. When we empower the people, we ignite change, and only then can we move towards a future where the needs of the vulnerable are finally prioritized over self-serving gestures.

A Job, A Career... Which Do You Really Want? Why?

By Nick Kossovan When someone asks me for job search advice, my first question is: What are you looking for? A job or a career? So we are on the same page: · A career is a professional journey centred around a particular field, industry, and skill set. · A job is an activity you do for an employer for money. Earning money is the primary goal of every career and job. I have yet to meet anyone who would do their career or job for free. Increasingly, I am seeing job seekers searching for career jobs (e.g. marketing, social media management, financial services) but who are not career-driven, which savvy hiring managers take into account when assessing a candidate. INTERVIEWER: "I see you got your PM certification in 2014; how have you been updating your knowledge and skills since then?" INTERVIEWER: "Are you a member of any industry associations? Do you sit on any boards?" Despite what your well-meaning parents, high school guidance counsellor and social norms have told you, it is okay not to want a career—careers are not for everyone. So long as you can support yourself financially doing a job (e.g., carpenter, bricklayer, server, taxi driver, warehouse picker, mechanic), which you absolutely can, you do not need "a career." Career success involves climbing a ladder and navigating cutthroat office politics, which is not everyone's cup of tea. I have been knocked off "the ladder" more than once. In increasingly hostile workplaces, where everyone is fighting for survival, job seekers would greatly benefit from reflecting on whether they have the ambition, skills, social acumen, and mental fortitude to maintain a career. Few people ask themselves, especially in their late high school years, whether they want a job or a career when it comes to earning a living. It is never too late to reassess whether you want to remain in your career versus finding a job/learning a trade by asking yourself, "Is the juice worth the squeeze?" I know several people who have given up their career and opted for a job where they can clock in and out, resulting in less stress, being happier, and even making more money. Do you know what an AZ truck driver can make these days? Generally, people underestimate how difficult establishing and maintaining a career is. The time, sacrifices, continuous learning, and cultivating professional networks, particularly if you're trying to break into a field other than IT, finance, or sales, takes effort. In hindsight, I admit most of my failures were due to underestimating the work required. My failures were caused by the leading reason people fail: Not working hard enough. (Readers of my column know I don't play the "I'm a victim!" game.) There is no shame in not being career-driven. Millions of people live meaningful and fulfilling lives without a career. Perhaps it is just me, but I feel a waitress who smiles and makes small talk with a customer who appears lonely or sad makes the world a better place compared to a VP of Marketing whose job is to figure out how to manipulate consumers into buying products, often stuff we do not need which end up in landfills, or nutrient-deficient processed food, we should not be consuming. Your parents' definition of success and seeing what others have accomplished— whether they are happy and fulfilled is another matter—and, of course, your ego influenced whether you are now chasing a career. Passion versus money is an internal debate that everyone has at some point in their life, if not throughout their life. From one side, you probably have parents, relatives, friends, and even strangers (I raise my hand) telling you to be realistic and find a well-paying job. However, on the other side, you likely have well-meaning friends, Internet talking heads giving reconstituted job search advice, and TED talks of successful people telling you that "following your passion is the foundation for success." It is no wonder so many people anxiously question whether they should follow their passion, which is unlikely to earn them a living or choose a career that looks reasonably promising and has a somewhat stable future; this especially applies to artistic endeavours or being a social media influencer. Recently, I overheard someone say to a journalist who had been laid off, "Learn to code." The advice was not encouraging, but it was pragmatic. Due to my pragmatic nature, I nodded in agreement. “Being pragmatic is not surrender. Being pragmatic is not cynicism. Being pragmatic is not selling out. In truth, being pragmatic is often the only real path to progress in an uncertain, complicated world.” ? Tom C.W. Lin, Jack E. Feinberg Chair Professor of Law at Temple University's Beasley School of Law. The end goal of most people is to have a steady paycheck and benefits; hence, the question I mentioned earlier: Is the juice (a career) worth the squeeze? The competition for career jobs is fierce and likely to intensify. In contrast, competition for blue-collar jobs is not nearly as fierce. Do you know what plumbers make these days? _____________________________________________________________________ Nick Kossovan, a well-seasoned veteran of the corporate landscape, offers advice on searching for a job. You can send him your questions at artoffindingwork@gmail.com