Balancing Inclusion and Tradition: The Debate Surrounding PFLAG and Politicians Participation in Santa Claus Parades

Santa Claus parades hold a special place in our hearts, capturing the essence of the holiday season with their joyful and inclusive atmosphere. However, as we navigate the ever-evolving landscape of diversity and inclusion, questions arise about which organizations should participate and why. I was taught from a very young age that politicians should refrain from participating in Santa Claus parades. My parents instilled in me that a politician's presence can politicize an event that should be centered around community and traditions and not be politized. These parades are cherished opportunities for communities to come together, regardless of political affiliations to celebrate the holiday season together. Knowing how politicians have divided our Country within the past couple of years, I too think politicians may inadvertently shift the focus away from the spirit of unity and joy, which is the very substance on which these parades thrive. At this very moment in time, while I write this article, the anticipation builds as the mayor and fellow council members prepare to join the Santa Claus parade. I for one, after careful consideration, have chosen to remain on standby and uphold my personal morals and beliefs. While I respect their decision to participate, I believe it is essential for individuals to stay true to their convictions. Allowing for diverse perspectives and ensuring that our actions align with our values. By taking this stance, I hope to contribute to a society that encourages open dialogue, understanding, and the freedom to make choices based on personal principles, and not on finding ways to retaliate against our fellow man for having opposing views. As I mentioned earlier, not only has my upbringing instilled in me to avoid politicizing such festive events, but also being a mother, and an advocate for my community, I have become very mindful of organizations like PFLAG who may contradict different religious and/or cultural teachings, leading many to object to their presence in a traditional event like a Santa Claus parade. Some people are concerned about the appropriateness of exposing children to LGBTQ+ symbols at such a young age could be inappropriate or confusing, while others believe they are advocating for the sexualization of children. Personally, I will at all costs refrain from supporting such a cause and instead, prioritize the well-being and innocence of young ones during these cherished moments. PFLAG, which offers support and advocacy for LGBTQ+ individuals and their loved ones, mission is undeniably important, yet some argue against their inclusion in Santa Claus parades for a variety of reasons. Some critics argue that Santa Claus parades should primarily focus on maintaining the spirit of the event. These parades are cherished traditions that families attend to experience the magic and wonder of the holiday season. Many believe that introducing topics related to sexuality or gender identity may divert attention from the primary purpose of the parade, potentially diminishing the overall enchanting atmosphere for all attendees, especially young children. Secondly, the desire to avoid controversy plays a significant role in the debate. Discussions surrounding LGBTQ+ rights can be polarizing, and including PFLAG in a Santa Claus parade may unwittingly invite heated debates that detract from the parade's intended message of unity and celebration. Organizers may wish to keep the parade centered on traditional holiday themes that are more universally accepted. Another consideration is the need to respect diverse perspectives. While PFLAG serves as a vital support system, some individuals hold personal or religious beliefs that differ from its mission or message. Santa Claus parades strive to be inclusive, and organizers may aim to avoid alienating or offending any segment of the community by steering clear of potentially divisive topics or groups. Lastly, the appropriateness of content in relation to the audience plays a role in this debate. Santa Claus parades are often attended by families with young children who may not yet be ready to comprehend or discuss topics related to sexuality or gender identity. Some argue that introducing these discussions in an age-appropriate setting, such as secondary schools or community centers, may be more suitable than during a parade primarily targeted towards younger audiences. It is crucial to note that these concerns do not seek to undermine the importance of organizations like PFLAG or their vital advocacy efforts. Instead, they reflect the considerations and perspectives of those who question the inclusion of certain groups in Santa Claus parades. We need to navigate this delicate balance between tradition and inclusion, and it is essential to engage in respectful dialogue and seek compromise. Perhaps, finding alternative platforms to highlight the essential work of organizations like PFLAG, where discussions on LGBTQ+ issues can be more focused and age-appropriate, would be a step towards a harmonious resolution. To be clear, my perspective is not rooted in any form of transphobia or homophobia. Rather, my concern and those raised by my constituents lies in safeguarding the well-being of children and preserving their childhood innocence by protecting them from any form of sexualization or exposure to adult themes during Santa Claus parades and events. In the end, the debate surrounding PFLAG's participation in Santa Claus parades serves as a reminder that inclusivity is a complex endeavor. requiring careful consideration of various perspectives and traditions. "Strength Does Not Lie In The Absence Of Fear, But In The Courage To Face It Head-On And Rise Above It"

KEEPING YOU INFORMED-AFFORDALE HOUSING

By Maurice Brenner Deputy Mayor/Regional Councillor Ward 1 Pickering The need for affordable housing has never been greater. On November 22nd for those who missed it, was National Housing Day. A day to raise awareness about our housing crisis and growing numbers of persons who are homeless. WHY IS IT IMPORTANT? As Homelessness continues to grow, we are reminded of the increasing numbers of those who are one pay cheque away from not being able to afford a roof over their head or put food on the table. Statistics confirm that 49% of Canadians are spending over 50% of their incomes for a roof over their heads which is unsustainable and many in Durham Region face this crisis. WHAT ARE THE OPTIONS? While there is no question that increasing inflationary costs is a factor, and there is a need for upper level governments to find ways to reduce costs, we at the Municipal level can also play a key role through the Planning process. Ontario’s Housing Policy requires Municipalities to meet targets through intensification along Transit Corridors, as members of Council, there are opportunities to incorporate affordable strategies into action by requiring Developers to include in their plans affordable housing ownership through partnerships such as Habitat for Humanities. Other strategies must recognize that there is a need for Rental units including partnership with Durham Region Non-Profit, Durham Region Community Housing and other Social Housing providers. This won’t happen overnight, which is why we also need to be creative when it comes to creating options to help those who are already homeless. Pickering like many Municipalities is currently preparing its Community Safety Wellbeing Plan. Embedded into its work plan is taking on the challenge to find solutions rather than just dealing with the symptoms of homelessness which is why Council supported my resolution directing staff to create a dedicated staff position to lead the Community Safety Wellbeing Plan as well as to establish an Office of Affordability with-in the Planning and Development Department whose mandate will be to assess every application through the affordability lens. As champions for finding solutions to help those who are homeless, Pickering works closely with Community Groups and organizations like DARS, who provides outreach to those who are homeless in Pickering. DARS also provides a weekly lunch program (Wednesdays) in partnership with the Pickering Public Library, shower and hygiene program in partnership with the Chestnut Hill Development Community Centre (Arena) and a new concept of a warming centre that is tied to Health risks rather than temperature. I’m also excited to be working along side with DARS on launching an exciting entrepreneur transitional housing pilot which will be a upcoming feature once its finalized.

THE FALLACY OF ONLINE NEWS LETTERS

By Joe Ingino Editor/Publisher ACCOMPLISHED WRITER/AUTHOR OF OVER 800,000 Published Columns in Canada and The United States “I live a dream in a nightmare world” Always Remember That The cosmic blueprint of your life was written in code across the sky at the moment you were born. Decode Your Life By Living It Without Regret or Sorrow. - ONE DAY AT A TIME - What is it about human ignorance that is so ignorant? Ignorance as in lacking information or the intellectual ability to rationalize common sense. It appears that some municipalities are now attempting due to costs of printing opting to offer news and information via newsletters. This including the bankrupt former Metroland. Now apparantly offering news online only. You got to wonder how stupid do they think the readers/consumer/advertiser are. They screw over numerous municipalities, supplier and kids, (carriers). Now they expect for those same municipalities to continue supporting them? Incredible. Anyone using this means to broadcast their information is committing the ultimate social fallacy and clearly showing the lack of understanding of media, internet and the dynamics/logistics of the web. In part this is why many in print have failed. This is why those now still in print are prospering. A fallacy by definition: a mistaken belief, especially one based on unsound argument. "the notion that the camera never lies is a fallacy" With this said. Some municipalities are opting to force taxpayers to sign up for news letters online. Force them to go to their web pages. These same municipalities fail to understand the logistic and dynamics of their client/audience/taxpayer. This is the primary reason why many that have stop publishing failed. They do not understand their audience. How trends come and go. Municipalities forcing taxpayer to go to their webpages are showing lack of empathy during these tough economic times. Many can’t afford the internet, or computer. Many are on tight budgets and can’t even afford a cell phone. But leaving the financial burden aside. How about all those that do not use computers. Or have computers? How about all those that actually fall for the ‘sign up’ for our news letter malarkey. How many of those news letters end up in the spam folder? You got to wonder at who is doing the thinking. But you can’t blame municipalities that fall for this type of fallacy. After all many hire young people with little or no experience in the field of media, internet and trends. Many just follow the social norms and hearsay. They go on gut feelings not on what is best for the taxpayers. Look at some council where they vote on staff recommendation and not on good solid educated leadership. Next time you are forced to sign up for a news letter. Say, thanks but no thanks. Buy local and support your local small businesses.

Canada ethnic tensions

by Maj (ret'd) CORNELIU. CHISU, CD, PMSC, FEC, CET, P. Eng. Former Member of Parliament Pickering-Scarborough East In a world with a multitude of problems, where local wars are startGross mismanagement of taxpayers’ money. One must ask oneself: how long will Canadians tolerate the mismanagement of their hard-earned money. I personally hope that this will soon end, otherwise our standard of living will be affected badly. We have a rich country and we do not deserve to be treated like losers. Here are some of the facts that will make any Canadian ask who the politicians (at all levels and all parties) are, who are so blithely leading us into foreseeable disaster. Let us start with the latest worship of battery plants for electric vehicles. Both provincial and federal parties have invested heavily, using taxpayers’ money, in these highly polluting desecrations of nature, in the name of new jobs and other phantasmagoric promises. Last week the Parliamentary Budged Office (PBO) stated that the Provincial and Federal financial support for electric vehicle (EV) battery production will cost $5.8 billion more than government projections due to tax treatment of subsidies. The PBO report says the shortfall of $5.8 billion over ten years can be attributed to lost corporate income because the Canadian deal has to keep pace with the Advanced Manufacturing Production Credit (AMPC) in the United States. Under the U.S. deal, manufacturers get a tax credit, based on a calculation of per kilowatt-hour of energy, but in Canada that financial support per kilowatt-hour is delivered through a taxable subsidy. "Therefore, under existing law in Canada, these payments would be subject to applicable federal and provincial corporate income tax," the report said. The PBO report makes the assumption that to stay on par with the U.S. AMPC, the subsidies will be exempt from federal and provincial taxes, which would cost about $5.8 billion in tax revenue. An analysis of government support for the EV battery deals with Northvolt, Volkswagen and Stellantis- South Korea LG Energy Solutions said that over the next ten years that support will amount to $43.6 billion, rather than the announced costs of $37.7 billion. The deals with the three manufacturers amount to production subsidies of $32.8 billion, with an additional $4.9 billion in support to build the facilities. "Of the $43.6 billion in total costs, we estimate that $26.9 billion (62 per cent) in costs will be incurred by the federal government and $16.7 billion (38 per cent) will fall on the provincial governments of Ontario and Quebec," the report said. The report, which also looked at how long it will take for governments to break even on their investments, found that: 1. The Northvolt deal has a break-even time of 11 years, two years longer than the federal government's estimate; 2. The break-even time for the $13.2-billion Volkswagen deal is 15 years; and 3. The break-even time for the $15-billion joint venture Stellantis-South Korea LG Energy Solutions now called NextStar Energy Inc. deal was pegged at 23 years. The report also assumes that government investments will be debt-financed and therefore will incur public debt charges over the next decade that could amount to $6.6 billion. Well done governments! To add insult to injury, the latest news is that the NextStar Energy Inc. plans to bring in a sizable contingent of foreign workers to help build this heavily subsidized battery plant in Windsor, Ontario. Concerns were raised when Windsor police noted that after meeting with South Korean ambassador Woongsoon Lim, about 1,600 workers from South Korea were expected to come to the community next year, to help build the plant. Though it is not clear how many workers, in total, NextStar Energy Inc. the joint venture between automaker Stellantis and South Korea's LG, plans to bring from outside Canada, this issue has drawn legitimate concerns about why the jobs are not going to Canadians. NextStar Energy chief executive Danies Lee said in a statement that the company is committed to hiring Canadians to fill more than 2,500 full-time jobs at the battery plant, and engage with up to 2,300 more local tradespeople to help with construction and installation. He said, however, that the company has to bring in workers to help build the advanced manufacturing plant. Now this is interesting: around 40% of taxpayer money will go to subsidize foreign workers’ jobs. After this news the Canadian political class is in turmoil; running, hiding and apologizing, trying to conceal their incompetence. Once again, a badly negotiated contract involving taxpayers money; but who really cares when no one is held responsible? Right? I do hope this is not just the tip of the iceberg, because we do not yet know of any other hidden issues in the contracts with the other two electric vehicles batteries companies. I suppose we will find out eventually. In the meantime, Canada Invests $444m with a company that states publicly that millennials do not want a home. Canada keeps repeating that it is spending billions on new housing, but with whom, and how does it help? Earlier this week in a frenzy to keep power for the liberals, Deputy Prime Minister Chrystia Freeland announced $1.2 billion worth of investments to build rentals in Toronto. It turns out that over a third of those funds are going into one project at 373 Front St East; rentals planned years ago. Toronto-based Tricon Capital is one of the owners of the 855 unit project. They are best-known for buying and acquiring tens of thousands of single-family homes in a short time and good prices. Canadians may only be vaguely familiar with Tricon. The firm is a multi-billion dollar company, traded on the NYSE and TSX. The company treats single-family homes like Pacman; swallows them all. Their target is to buy 800 homes per month, and they currently have around 38,000 in their portfolio. Then they intend to rent them back to the demographic that can no longer afford those homes. Can any sane person think of a single rational reason for investing taxpayers’ money in these kinds of companies? Perhaps, as the trend continues, the misappropriations will come to light later. Do you see any similarity to the awarding of a federal contract to WE Charity to administer the $912 million Canada Student Service Grant program (CSSG)? We can look forward to the upcoming fall budget and continue to wonder. But how much longer can Canadians take it?ing at an alarming rate, Canada, once a beacon of people’s harmony, is starting to fall apart. Thi What are your thoughts?

Savvy Job Seekers Understand They Need to Prove How They Will Contribute to an Employer’s Success

By Nick Kossovan There are five must-haves employers look for in a job candidate: 1. Above-average oral and written communication skills. 2. Critical thinking and problem-solving skills. 3. A proven track record of achieving measurable results. 4. Culture-fitting and likeable. (Likability trumps your skills and experience.) 5. A positive, enthusiastic attitude. If you check off these five, plus a few more (e.g., relevant hard skills, education, certifications, a clean online presence), you will have a shorter job search than most people do today. While all five must-haves are important, savvy job seekers understand that employers hire to achieve results; therefore, they know number three, a proven track record of achieving measurable results, is what employers focus on the most. Most job seekers: Believe they will be hired based on their qualifications and experience. Savvy job seekers: Do not just show employers where they have been (their history), but where they can take them. For a business to survive, its expenses must not exceed its revenues. Therefore, employers do not simply seek employees who will do a task; they seek candidates with the capability and proactive mindset to contribute to their success by generating revenue, creating savings, or creating efficiencies. An employer's biggest ongoing expense is their payroll. Savvy job seekers comprehend that earning a spot on an employer's payroll requires convincing the employer they will earn their keep. Therefore, they convey via their resume, cover letter, LinkedIn profile and, especially during interviews, how hiring them will benefit the employer—why they will be worth their salary. Your skills do not earn your keep. You earn your keep by using your skills to deliver tangible results that impact the company's bottom line. A savvy job seeker grasps the fact that an employer wants a return for their salary, the employer investing in an employee, and is not offended by the fact employers look to profit from their employees. Today's workplace is no longer a place for passive observers. Employers want employees who contribute to the company and drive the company forward as opposed to just clocking in and out. Examples of resumes/LinkedIn profile bullet points that show contribution to an employer's success: · Steered the company through a complicated re-organization, resulting in a 75% increase in profits with minimal employee turnover. · Reduce the time it takes to process data by 50% with a new cloud data infrastructure, resulting in more timely insights. · In Q1 2023, exceeded partner development sign-on goals by 20%. · Wrote 400+ informative and beneficial articles, increasing organic website traffic by 21%. The following are meaningless: · Received 2 promotions, from co-management to director-level, in less than 12 months. · Since June 2019, I have led the company's social committee. · Proficient with Word, Excel, and social media. · I am an innovative, detail-oriented problem solver who thinks outside the box. (You are just stating your opinion.) Mentioning your grades, hobbies, and places you have travelled to has no bearing on what value you can bring to an employer. Employers are not concerned about your career, nor should they be; managing your career is your responsibility. Mentioning accolades, memberships, grades, supposed "proficiencies" and stating your opinions about yourself, rather than the results you have delivered, is a waste of valuable resume and LinkedIn real estate space. Unless the accolade demonstrates your proficiency at achieving results (e.g., Received the top salesman award at Mitch and Murray for four consecutive years.), consider not mentioning it. Employers hire results, not accolades, memberships and opinions. As a job seeker, you need to focus solely on demonstrating your ability and willingness to contribute to the employer's success. Evidence of results is something job seekers rarely bring to their interviews. Those who do, savvy job seekers, differentiate themselves from the candidates they are competing against. Consider bringing to your next interview: · Non-confidential productivity reports. "Since 2018, I have been the top 3 sales rep at Universal Exports" has much more credibility if you provide supporting documents. (Hiring managers hear exaggerations and outright lies daily; therefore, understandably, often they are skeptical about a candidate's claims. Candidates who prove what they claim erode skepticism.) · A 30-60-90 days plan. In your first three months, describe your top priorities, actionable goals, and the metric you will use to evaluate your progress. · Samples of previous projects. Hand your interviewer a physical copy of a project you've worked on. Explain the significance of the project, the results you've earned and how it impacted the company. · Identify opportunities. Identify opportunities for the company to increase revenues or save money, then write a proposal detailing how you will take advantage of these opportunities. Unlike most job seekers, savvy job seekers communicate how they will either save money, make money, or at least create efficiencies for the company, which is the opposite of what most job seekers do. Most job seekers talk only about how great, which is an opinion, their skills, experience, and education are, believing it is the employer's responsibility to connect the dots regarding the value of their background. Today, the name of the game is not "whoever is most qualified gets the job;" it is "whoever can demonstrate their value to the company gets the job." _____________________________________________________________________ Nick Kossovan, a well-seasoned veteran of the corporate landscape, offers advice on searching for a job. You can send him your questions at artoffindingwork@gmail.com

"Men's Health Matters: Let's Talk About It"

By Dale Jodoin In November, you might have noticed that men grow mustaches to show support for cancer awareness. This used to be a time for men to discuss what it means to survive cancer, have cancer, or face the harsh reality of being told there's no way to recover from it. However, it seems like men's health is sometimes forgotten amidst other important causes. Let's be clear; this isn't about ignoring other important health issues, including those affecting women. It's about emphasizing the importance of men's health, especially considering the world we live in today. It's tough out there—finding jobs, paying for expensive apartments, dealing with high mortgages, and often earning less than we deserve. But it's high time for men to take a moment to think about their own well-being. There are numerous organizations out there dedicated to men's health, including ones for men over 55. These places are willing to discuss what needs to be done and offer support. Unfortunately, due to the COVID-19 pandemic, cancer testing and surgeries have been delayed, making it even more critical to prioritize men's health. It's crucial to address another issue—the fear of finding out. Some men avoid seeking help because they're worried they won't be strong enough to face the truth. But being strong doesn't mean you can't ask for help or take a break when you're tired. It's okay to lean on others when you need it. So, let's encourage men to come together and talk about their problems. You don't have to follow a specific script or method; just have a beer, sit around a table, or play pool. The important thing is to start the conversation. It's my opinion, but I believe it's a valid one. Let's look at some statistics: men's suicide rates are alarming, and so is the cancer rate. We need to change this narrative. By talking openly about men's health, we can break down the stigma surrounding it and encourage more men to seek help when needed. In conclusion, men's health matters, and November should continue to be a time for us to reflect on it. We can make a difference by raising awareness, supporting one another, and prioritizing our well-being. It's not about ignoring other important issues; it's about ensuring that men's health isn't left behind. Let's take care of ourselves and each other because strong men are those who aren't afraid to ask for help when they need it. When a woman is seen being pushed around and hit by a man, people are more lik being ridiculed or not believed can be a significant barrier to seeking help, leading many men to suffer in silence. Addressing this stigma is crucial in creating a society where all victims of domestic violence and sexual assault, regardless of gender, feel safe and supported in seeking help. It involves changing the narrative and challenging the stereotypes that contribute to the underreporting and underrecognition of abuse against men. By acknowledging that men can be victims too and fostering an environment where their experiences are taken seriously, we can take significant steps towards providing better support and resources for all victims of domestic violence and sexual assault.

Mutiny

Mutiny from Wayne & Tamara I am a forty-something teacher. I recently bought a house, and given that I'm a single woman, I have a huge burden to carry financially. To counter those expenses, I put out an ad for two university students. As a result, I have two twenty-something young men living with me. One of my "roommates" is pilfering things. I know he uses my facial cleanser and cotton swabs. I like to keep a store of food handy because I live in an area with ice storms, and he helps himself to my edible dry goods. He's gone through a huge packet of oatmeal and a container of cocoa. My problem is I can't prove it, and in the one conversation I had with him about this, he denied it. Now I know this pilfering isn't the biggest problem in the world, but what do I do? I don't want to poison the atmosphere by making further accusations. My feeling is the best thing might be to put temptation out of his way. I have built-in storage cabinets in my basement. I could lock one of them and keep the excess bulk goods I buy in that cabinet. I guess that's not the real problem, though. I just feel a bit violated. I welcomed these two men with open arms, and lately every time I walk in the room, they shut up and stop talking. Tess Tess, new ideas are like ships. They need to be taken for a shake-down cruise to work out the bugs. You had a great idea for financing your new house, but it is an idea with a few problems. Locking up your property may be only a temporary solution. You can't live as an outsider in your own home. You must decide who you want to share your home with. Do you want teachers with your same professional interests? Will you be more comfortable with men or with women? Would you like international students who might draw you into their activities, and who you might mentor? Once you decide who you want in your home, you must determine how to attract those people. Of course, there need to be ground rules. There can be only one captain on a ship, and the captain sets the rules. On the next cruise out, you will need a different crew. Wayne Going Once, Going Twice… I am entering a relationship with a man I care very much about. He has two grown children, and I do not have any. At this time in his life he does not want any more, and I understand his reasons. We both agree I should determine if I want children before our relationship gets more serious. I realize this must be my decision. There are many logical reasons to have or not to have children. How do I really know whether or not I want children? Lea Lea, it's almost as if you are at an auction, and someone has bid "One husband." You don't have a husband so the offer sounds pretty good. But you wonder if someone else will bid "One husband and one child." Perhaps someone may even bid "One husband, two children, and an ivy covered cottage." How do you decide? Only two things are certain. First, the man you care about does not want children. Second, if you decide you want a child after you marry, you will see this man, not yourself, as the problem. This is not to blame you. It is simply the way it happens. Marriage is a gateway to having children, but by choosing this man your decision will be made for you. That is exactly the opposite of what you may feel after marriage. Some women know they should not have children, and wisely, they never do. Because you are not honestly there on your own, you should not proceed with this man. Tamara SEND LETTERS TO: Directanswers@WayneAndTamara.com

More Fire and Smoke to Come

By Common Sense Health – W. Gifford-Jones MD and Diana Gifford Fires are a natural part of life in the forests that extend across Canada and the northern US. But it is not normal for these forest fires to consume entire communities, take lives of unsuspecting citizens in a surreal panic, and leave thousands of people and animals displaced. Tragedies happen sometimes. Now however, experts tell us, we can anticipate more monstruous fires on a more frequent basis. Just when you think the great Canadian outdoors might offer a safe escape from all the maladies in the world, the lakeside campsite has become another danger zone. Climate trends are making northern summers hotter, drier, and longer. That means we can expect plenty more fires, more smoke, and more forced evacuations of campsites and cities alike. These are discouraging times. An unthinkable war in Ukraine. Taliban rule in Afghanistan. Migrants fleeing North Africa. Uneasy US-China relations. Evil people deploy cyber attacks and scam the vulnerable. Good people fear the ominous risks of artificial intelligence. Everyone is nervously hoping the fall months don’t rekindle the COVID pandemic. The world is a mess. There are many contributing factors, but surely one of the greatest is that the success of humans in growing our numbers has not been matched by a growth in intelligence. More and more people mean more congested cities and more encroachment on the natural systems our planet developed over billions of years. There’s no escaping that a lot of people are and will be dealing with mountains of anxiety, depression, and for the worst affected, significant trauma. It’s a challenging assignment in a short column to offer helpful advice. But how can we not comment on the current forest fires? So here are a few thoughts. First, research shows that the more you prepare for negative events, the better you will fare in recovering from the associated trauma. This means, it’s worth while to prepare for an emergency. Hopefully you will never need your list of things to pack when you have 15 minutes to evacuate. But having it ready will help. Second, there are health benefits to altruism. When people help other people (or animals, and presumably trees and the environment too), they can experience physiological changes in the brain that improve the likelihood for happiness. Third, getting involved is a good move. Helpers as well as people in need may build new or stronger support networks. This can improve self-esteem. Being connected and feeling positive are attributes associated with healthier, happier people. For anyone experiencing trauma, there is no better course than to seek help. Don’t struggle alone. It takes courage to reach out, but the rewards are proven. Finally, if you can do more, or give more, to make the world a better place, then follow this advice. Spend your energy and money the way porcupines make love: very, very carefully. The past few weeks have shown us that we’ll all need to think through the threat of forest fires – even if we live in as idyllic a setting as Lahaina on the beautiful island of Maui. We will need to protect our homes and plan a course for when fires and smoke threaten. What the future holds, we cannot know. But we can make ourselves resilient, and that is what we must do. It was Bram Stoker, in his novel Dracula, who made this point. “It is really wonderful how much resilience there is in human nature. Let any obstructing cause, no matter what, be removed in any way, even by death, and we fly back to first principles of hope and enjoyment.” Sign-up at www.docgiff.com to receive our weekly e-newsletter. For comments, contact-us@docgiff.com. Follow us Instagram @docgiff and @diana_gifford_jones

HOW CAN WE EXPECT WORLD PEACE WHEN WE CAN’T ATTAIN HARMONY

As most of you. At the end of the day I like to sit back and unwind. Unfortunately, sitting in front of a television for a few minutes at the end of the day, just makes me wonder what has gone wrong with society. From the many wars to social unrest, not to mention the many political battles unfolding across the globe. It appears humanity is on a downward spin into self destruction. Now don’t get me wrong. There are many efforts by many people in making life great. Over all and far away from our shores. It appears we live in a fragile utopian glass world sheltered from the many global realities. Working in the community as your local ward 1 representative I come across all kinds of issues. All kind of people. People with real needs and issues. As a municipal representative I am always impartial and try to listen carefully and respectfully dispense resolve in the best manner possible, with the resources made available to me by the municipality. It appears even though you may have great intentions. Harmony, is something that is far from achievable, even though the facts are right before you and common sense should prevail. The concept of right and wrong becomes compromised by personal agenda and or tainted political opinion/thought/interests. In my term in office. I realized very quickly that it is not about me but about what is best for the constituents that elected me in. It is about bettering our community. Even though, I tend to favor the rational, logical reasonable approach towards problem solving. I am quickly learning that many of my colleagues dance to the beat of a different drum. As a politician it is easy to fall victim of lobbyist, special interest groups, developers and or political pressure from above. Others fall victim to popular thought, social norms and pressures. They fall in a spiral of attempting to pleasing everyone and serving no one. In part this is why council at times appear to be divided. Other times vindictive and united in persecution. By now everyone has heard about my sanctions for exercising my freedom of speech. Three months worth of pay cut. Is this municipal leadership. I think not... I feel persecuted and attacked by my own council. My own people. My own council. How can this be in these times. Times when we are supposed to be united and harmonized during tough economic times. I guess my economic situation does not matter. I shake my head at all that cry that we strive for ‘world peace’. World ‘PEACE’. Or is it a misprint... ‘PIECE’. This type of mentality is not only a Pickering problem. Look around and just about every municipality is suffering from the same pandemic of me, me, me. Funded by developers and special interest groups. Influenced by agenda and special interests. Hey, we are starting to sound global. Much like the wars across the planet influenced by agenda and special interest. Primarily wealth, oil cartels and not to mention the drug cartels. World Peace is much like the word LOVE. There is a lot of interpretation involved. I signed up for this job to make our community a better place. Not to be punished, ousted and persecuted by those I am to work with. We live in sad times where we must abide to the drum of agenda. To be forced to comply. Socially, politically or other and accept the fact that we are nothing short of “MODERN DAY SLAVES”. Yes, modern day slaves. A people that is forced to work for no money or little money. A people that have no real choice due to economic restrains. A people of all races that are pigeon hole to live through their daily routines without questioning authority or else. Or else, face the law, the policy, the regulation, the norms, the fellow confused agenda driven citizen. Nothing to do with historical ethnic slavery. But modern day, all races included. By definition: a person who is forced to work for and obey another and is considered to be their property; an enslaved person. Nothing to do with race. It is a system much like most corporations today. Most government. For anyone becoming offended by the word ‘slave’. First. educate yourself on the meaning. Second, look around if you are not being used to substantiate someone else's agenda. I am afraid to turn on the TV, as only the God’s know what else all this technology will bring. They talk about artificial intelligence. Another system based on stored data and the ability to recall it faster than any human brain. Could this be the new social control? Could this be the new oppressive regime that will govern all humanity. After all, think about it. Those elected are given the right by the democratic ideology to have access to information that most citizens would not even know where to look. Much like artificial intelligence. We are given predestine information and from that we are told to make choices on the selected information. Boy is this not starting to sound like the same type of oppressive regime as described above. This time prescribed by a machine. A machine that we deem intelligent to rendering to the fact that we the surrendering to the fact that we the common person are simpleton? "Strength Does Not Lie In The Absence Of Fear, But In The Courage To Face It Head-On And Rise Above It"

KEEPING YOU INFORMED

kEEPING YOU INFORMED By Maurice Brenner Deputy Mayor/Regional Councillor Ward 1 Pickering Many thought it was a joke when Frenchman’s Bay and abutting properties was listed for sale for $60 million dollars by the Pickering Harbour Company (PHC). Many asked, how can this be? And many were very vocal that Pickering needs to purchase it to stop development. In this weeks column I will share with you an in depth look at how we got to this point, and why I think there is little to NO risk that the Bay will end up as a floating development. In the early1800s Frenchman’s Bay was a busy port of Trade referred to as the Liverpool Port. During the reign of Queen Victoria, a Charter was granted to the Pickering Harbour Company giving them ownership of the Bay and lands along Lake Ontario on condition that they ensured the safe passage of vessels between Lake Ontario and into the Bay. It was this Charter that put into Private Ownership Pickering’s Jewel the Frenchman’s Bay. In the 1980s the then Town of Pickering attempted a Court challenge of the ownership which failed. For decades that followed, Pickering continued to work with the PHC as we began our journey to create the Frenchman’s Bay Waterfront Masterplan on the East and West Sides of the spit along with the nautical village. Flash forward to today, the PHC attempted to develop their lands into massive Highrise Towers, something neither the residents nor the City of Pickering and Council were prepared to support. The matter was referred to the Ontario Land Tribunal where it subsequently was later withdrawn by PHC. In preparing its case the City of Pickering noted that (a) a majority of PHC is situated with-in the Pickering Nuclear freeze zone which prevents the lands from being developed for any other use other than its current Marine use something that is not anticipated to change for at least another 30-50 years until the Nuclear plant is no longer operational and all radioactive materials no longer exist as well as environmental concerns and a lack of compatibility with Community character. . Add to that the Charter granted by the Crown is very specific and I believe is of National interest given its history. While Pickering Council had every desire to purchase this asset and place it in Public ownership, our offers were rejected as we were not prepared to offer what the PHC listed it for, which would have bankrupt the taxpayers. Let me be perfectly clear, that while unable to purchase the Bay, I am confident that my Council colleagues are not prepared to allow our Jewel to be destroyed regardless of who may own it. Lets continue to work together to ensure Frenchman’s Bay can be enjoyed for future generations.

PLEASE BE PATIENCE

By Joe Ingino Editor/Publisher ACCOMPLISHED WRITER/AUTHOR OF OVER 800,000 Published Columns in Canada and The United States “I live a dream in a nightmare world” Always Remember That The cosmic blueprint of your life was written in code across the sky at the moment you were born. Decode Your Life By Living It Without Regret or Sorrow. - ONE DAY AT A TIME - Before I begin this column. I like to thank all the former Metroland paper delivery people that have flooded our phones with call wanting to continue delivering a paper to your door. As an industry leader. I am sorry that many of these delivery people did not get paid for their hard work. In some cases we made special allowance to pay them what they were owed by Metroland as way to instill industry good name. The Central Newspaper an industry leader will always champion peoples rights and freedoms. Fair treatment and fair compensation for work performed. For all that have called. Thank you. At the Central we have also received numerous calls from readers across the region. Readers wondering why the municipalities including the Region have not made the change to publish notice, listing and events in Durham only hard copy publisher The Central. Many frustrated that the municipalities including the Region have waited so long to publish essential information. Information like garbage pick up and the likes. I can assure you we have contacted all the municipalities and all the parties involved. The general consensus is that it takes a bit of time to make the transition. They assure me that by the new year. You will see your municipalities postings. If not call them directly. At The Central we know the financial hardships of many. Many can’t afford a computer. Others can’t even afford internet. Many are also on limited cell packages. The municipalities can’t expect people to go to their web sites to look for information. Municipalities should know better that most people using the internet have a five click patience expansion... meaning if they can’t get what they want in five clicks or less. They become frustrated. Case in point. Some callers expressed frustration that they attempted to navigate many of the municipal web pages and got no place. This came from young and senior callers. We have also received equal number of former Metroland subscribers wanting to sign up for home delivery. Everyone please be patience as we are in the process of bringing you all the municipalities posting under one newspaper. The Central will soon become the place to go for regional information. It is unfortunate that technology is proving itself to fail humanity. As the internet has become nothing short of a public toilet. A place where you can’t trust what you read and an arena for fraud, scammers and charlatans. This in part is why many are coming back to hard press copy newspapers. Read from a source you can trust. Please be patience. We are working on it. Thank you for your patience.

Canada ethnic tensions

by Maj (ret'd) CORNELIU. CHISU, CD, PMSC, FEC, CET, P. Eng. Former Member of Parliament Pickering-Scarborough East In a world with a multitude of problems, where local wars are starting at an alarming rate, Canada, once a beacon of people’s harmony, is starting to fall apart. This is mainly the fault of the political class of Canada; their lack of emphasis on being Canadian, being proud to be Canadian, and building a better life for our families. Canadian history is one of compromise and listening to the needs of people. This seems now to be forgotten. Immersed in a steady stream of denial, there seems to be a competition to invent means of despising and changing our history in a truly woke mode. This constitutes a trend aimed at destroying our nation’s harmony. By isolating ethic communities from each other in a way that emphasizes being Canadian as secondary, in the name of multiculturalism, the message is that there is no need to consider ourselves as a unified nation we should all strive to build. Driven by their venal intentions to secure power, today’s Canadian politicians use ethnic tensions from abroad, developing them here, to further their electoral purposes. If they had Canadians’ best interests at heart, they would dedicate their time and power to develop Canada instead, creating a healthy and united Canadian nation. There is no need to endlessly apologize to various ethnic groups and make useless declarations of acknowledgements without taking action to unite the nation. As we have seen with the recent wars in Europe and the Middle East, ethnic tensions are well on the rise in Canada. There is a noticeable increase in hatred between people, with a sharp increase in antisemitism. The outpouring of anti-Jewish hatred that has continued unabated since Hamas’ attacks on Israel a month ago, has baffled and dismayed many people in this country, while emboldening anti-Semitic voices in unprecedented ways. Jewish communities in Canada have been concerned for years about the steady rise of anti-Jewish sentiments and anti-Semitic attacks. Deeply complacent and sanctimonious Canadian politicians of all stripe have tut-tutted about the concerns and assured us constantly that the warnings were over-wrought and the flare-ups would soon pass. And yet, in an era of “cancel culture”, when tolerance for comparatively mild infelicitous and unthoughtful comments generate widespread pearl-clutching and even state censorship, the most hateful comments in Canadian public spaces pass almost unchallenged. Too many ethnic communities, the most targeted being the Jewish community; this cone of silence has only served to make the community more isolated and vulnerable. It seems that Canada has learned nothing from the long history of anti-Semitism, which often goes underground for years only to rear its ugly head at times of crisis and conflict. Canada, as a nation and a government, has not responded to outbursts of Jewish hatred with the same vigour and determination that it marshals for discrimination and spite directed at other ethnic groups. The Israel/Palestine quandary has occupied generations of Canadian diplomats and government officials, producing more hot air than workable solutions. Moreover, the weakest and most marginalized of Palestinians have borne the brunt of this inaction. Many Palestinians live in unacceptable conditions and face intolerable constraints. The multi-generational traumas they have endured will have long-term impacts. While Palestinians must reject and distance themselves from the Hamas-style extremism if they want international support, there will also be no lasting peace in the Middle East until Palestinians gain greater control over their lives in a region that accepts the permanent presence of both Palestine and the state of Israel. Standing together with Jewish people against hate is consistent with defending the right of the state of Israel to exist and defend itself. Canada has been slow and off the mark on the issue, following rather than leading the international response. Given the woeful state of Canada current global standing and military preparedness, Canadians have learned to expect nothing substantial from the government in the international arena. As Canadians, we must, individually and collectively, speak out and stand up against antisemitism and any kind of ethnic hatred in all forms. We as Canadians would do better to look to building our nation. One can only be saddened that a complex, historical, religious, and geopolitical confrontation has been framed by simplistic, often ahistorical, and hate-filled commentary. Canadians are distraught by the Hamas massacres in Israel and are terrified that the Israeli response will be equally destructive and traumatic, particularly for civilian populations in Gaza. If we have learned anything from the past, it is that silence equals complicity and that failure to stand with vulnerable people leaves them to face blistering and hate-filled attacks on their own, to the detriment of us all. It is my sincere hope that we will once again concentrate on working together to make Canada the most beautiful nation where we all live in harmony and strive to build a better life for our children and grandchildren. What are your thoughts?

DOMESTIC 'V' THE NEW 'N'

domestic ‘v’ the new ‘n’ By Dale Jodoin The stigma surrounding domestic violence and sexual assault against men is further complicated by societal perceptions and reactions. When a woman is seen being pushed around and hit by a man, people are more likely to intervene and offer help. This response is rooted in the widespread recognition and condemnation of violence against women. However, the situation often unfolds differently when the roles are reversed. If a man is being pushed around, screamed at, and hit by a woman, the reactions of bystanders can be markedly different. Instead of receiving immediate support or intervention, the man may find himself further victimized by the assumptions and comments of passersby. People might wonder what he did wrong to provoke such a reaction or joke that he is in trouble, implying that he must have done something to deserve the abuse. This kind of response not only minimizes the man's experience of abuse but also reinforces the harmful stereotype that men cannot be victims of domestic violence or that their experiences are less serious. This disparity in societal reactions contributes to the challenges men face in acknowledging and reporting abuse. It perpetuates the feeling of isolation and the belief that they will not be taken seriously if they speak out. The fear of being ridiculed or not believed can be a significant barrier to seeking help, leading many men to suffer in silence. Addressing this stigma is crucial in creating a society where all victims of domestic violence and sexual assault, regardless of gender, feel safe and supported in seeking help. It involves changing the narrative and challenging the stereotypes that contribute to the underreporting and underrecognition of abuse against men. By acknowledging that men can be victims too and fostering an environment where their experiences are taken seriously, we can take significant steps towards providing better support and resources for all victims of domestic violence and sexual assault.

When Job Searching Master the Art of Brevity

By Nick Kossovan When Job Searching Master the Art of Brevity Recruiters and hiring managers are time stressed. Therefore, they appreciate candidates who keep their communication brief, which shows the candidate is a professional who possesses proficient communication skills and who respects their time. Additionally, brevity gives the candidate the advantage of being heard or read, as opposed to being tuned out. Nowadays, attention spans are measured in seconds; therefore, communicating concisely, especially in corporate settings, is essential. FUN FACT: Humans have an 8.25 second attention span, whereas a goldfish's is nine seconds. The key to mastering brevity is determining what your audience needs to know and what they do not need to know. It is easier to make this judgement if you regard your audience as being on a need-to-know basis. When it comes to an employer: Need to know: · Job responsibilities (e.g., Managed remote 50+ CSRs using Slack.) · Specific (quantified) accomplishments and results that benefited your employer. (e.g., Grew email subscriber list from 100 to 5,000 in 8 months by creating enticing lead magnets.) · Relevant education/certifications · Proven skills/core competencies Do not need to know: · Marital/parental status · Religious/political affiliation · Negative feelings about former employers/co-workers · Medical history The number of candidates I have interviewed who give too much information (TMI) versus keeping their answers brief and to the point never ceases to amaze me. For example, if asked if you have reliable transportation, all you have to say is "Yes," assuming you do—nothing more. There is no need to mention dropping your kids off at school or having just spent $1,500 to repair your 2013 Honda Civic. · Brevity in your written communications Throughout your job search, your written communication skills will be assessed to determine many things about you, mainly your communication and presentation skills and confidence level. My evaluation of a candidate is heavily influenced by their written communication skills. Start with your resume. Your resume should reflect your relevant (keyword) skills, work experience, and academic accomplishments, nothing else. The debate over whether your resume should be one or two pages is ongoing. If you can write a one-page resume that covers all your relevant accomplishments, do it! I have seen such resumes, which always impress me. Otherwise, your two-page resume needs to be compelling enough for the reader to take the time to read it. Ruthless editing is how you keep your writing concise. You can tighten up your resume by eliminating filler words (e.g., "that," "just," "very," and "little") and adverbs which strain your reader's attention, such as "highly," "really," and "simply." Your resume's job is to attract attention with just enough information and persuade the reader you are interview-worthy; therefore, hyper-focus on crafting your resume around what makes you valuable to an employer, which is the results you can achieve with your skills and experience. You may feel all your experience, skills, and achievements should be promoted to employers; however, the opposite is true. Unless directly pertinent to the job, does an employer need to know you have your first aid/CPR certification or floral design certificate? Your resume should only include your experience, skills, and achievements that are directly relevant to the position you are seeking. Furthermore, do not state the obvious, such as "Computer Skills: Outlook, Word" or "References available upon request." A few more suggestions on how you can compress your resume: · Streamline your contact information. (Name, telephone number, email address) · Do not include an objective statement. · Do not include jobs you had more than 15 - 20 years ago. · Separate sentences with a single space, not a double space. · Instruct the reader to visit your LinkedIn profile. (e.g., Link the phrase "Read more in my LinkedIn profile." to your profile.) When it comes to your cover letter, which I recommend you always include in the body of your email, make it short and straightforward. A cover letter's sole function is to motivate the reader to read your resume; therefore, think like a marketer. Dear Nick: I am responding to your posting for an Outbound Call Centre Director. I can offer: · Twelve years of operational call centre management experience in various sales-centric call centres. (average team size 45) · Comfortable achieving annual sales targets between $25 - $35 million, selling non-tangible financial products. · Customer Service Professional Network advisory board member since 2015. · Certified Financial Planner (CFP) · Five9 certified · Bilingual (French, English) Att. resume. Sincerely, Vincent Palermo · Brevity in your verbal communications "Brevity is the best recommendation of speech, whether in a senator or an orator." — Marcus Tullius Cicero Interviews usually last between 30 and 60 minutes; therefore, you do not want to waste valuable time talking about irrelevant details. An interview is not the time to give TMI! I have rejected candidates based on TMI more than once. Answer your interviewer's questions as concisely as possible. If your interviewer wants to know more, they will ask for clarification or follow-up questions."What is your salary expectation?" WRONG: "My salary expectation is between $75,000 and $85,000. However, I am flexible." RIGHT: "$80,000" Candidates who get straight to the point are more attractive to recruiters and hiring managers strapped for time. As attention spans shorten, concise communication benefits your job search and career _____________________________________________________________________ Nick Kossovan, a well-seasoned veteran of the corporate landscape, offers advice on searching for a job. You can send him your questions at artoffindingwork@gmail.com

NEWSPRINT VS ONLINE

By Joe Ingino Editor/Publisher ACCOMPLISHED WRITER/AUTHOR OF OVER 800,000 Published Columns in Canada and The United States “I live a dream in a nightmare world” Always Remember That The cosmic blueprint of your life was written in code across the sky at the moment you were born. Decode Your Life By Living It Without Regret or Sorrow. - ONE DAY AT A TIME - Before I begin this column I like to disclose the fact that The Central Newspaper was one of two companies that brought internet to Durham Region back 25 years ago. When internet was nothing but a beep on a phone line. Back then, not Bell nor Rogers was interested in the technology. Bell was the only that made the internet available as they had the cable infrastructure to carry the signal. In those days it was reserved for Universities, government and some financial institutions. Very limited in use. The internet in it’s pure form is and was a freeware system with no regulation and or government interference. Ever since then. The government has been looking at ways of regulating and controlling it. Ways to tax users. So far they failed dramatically, until recently. When the government in the interest of protecting Canadian content on some system... actually hurt the industry as internet companies shut the door to Canadian content online. Newspaper panicked, not understanding the internet and it’s protocols and now the government has gained a foot on the door of the internet. Back 25 years ago - The Central was was the first newspaper to publish online across the planet. Yes, right from Oshawa. We made world first. As a matter of fact right out of Oshawa DURHAM CITY CENTRAL RADIO THE WAVE was founded. The very first radio transmission online. Right from Oshawa. This was before YouTube, and most of the modern day browsers. If anything The Central is an expert in internet technologies. Since the days of the internet being nothing but a beep on a phone wire. The internet has come a long way. The first demise was the introduction of search engines. Search engines brought about commercialization. This was the beginning of the end. From search engines came chats. First one that became popular was ICQ. I remember receiving request for the radio transmission from all over the world. I think the final demise of the internet came about when Facebook and the likes entered the arena. The huge popularity and the use of the internet as a weapon instead of a tool took off. The internet once a place of mutual respect and trust. Has been turned upside down. A place for scammer, thieves, to thrive. For government to covertly monitor people, groups and other governments. As a news media person. The internet has tarnished the good name of journalism as anyone now can deem themselves a journalist. Reader today don’t trust what they read... this is why many are going back to local newsprint. Today, not everyone can afford the internet or a computer. Senior and those that are not tech savvy will never go online. The internet is limited and targeted to a group that is damaging the longevity of the net. Online, advertisement is cheap. As the results are minimal and controlled. I always tell my customers. If you are getting results online. You are missing 80% of your clients. Newsprint is making a come back like never before.

Giving Away a Lifetime Is Bittersweet Medicine

The Doctor Game

By Common Sense Health – W. Gifford-Jones MD and Diana Gifford We find ourselves in the midst of change. During this 100th trip around the sun, it’s finally time for a move to a retirement residence. While the comforts and care of an elegant assisted-living community are welcome, the upheaval is overwhelming! It’s hard to say goodbye to the family home of nearly 50 years. When children and grandchildren visit to savour the memories together, they just as eagerly eye the furniture and appliances! The truth is, being able to give away a lifetime of treasured possessions is a luxury we are grateful to enjoy. Looking around the world, a lot of people would give an arm and a leg to have what we have. For anyone though, there is something universal about the feelings that come with making a final move. Years ago, a favourite Gifford-Jones book was called The Doctor Game. It explained how you can find the best doctor in your area, how to tell a good (or bad) doctor, how to avoid unnecessary surgery, how to be a good patient and how to make the best – and avoid the worst – of the doctor you choose. The Doctor Game was full of practical advice on surgery, on talking about sex with your doctor, on getting the truth from your doctor, on fads and phobias, x-rays, cancer, and virtually every medical concern. Now, it has occurred to us, we have enough material for a new opus. Choosing where and how to live life’s final chapter is a very different game. If you believe the people marketing retirement homes, you’d think you’ve died and gone to heaven. They call it, “lifestyle options”, but that feels a bit pedantic when the choices are between easy-access showers and wheelchair ramps. What are the most important considerations? There is a litany of them. Building up your arsenal of patience is a must. Whatever happened to the days when people used to answer the phone? Our experience is not unique to retirement residences. There’s either a shortage of workers or younger generations just don’t like the phone as much as older people do. Now, if you have a question, you may as well ask Google than hope to find a live person at the ready. What did the resident nurse warn us about moving in? Weight gain is the common problem from the high-caloric food on the mouth-watering daily menu. We’ll be mindful of that. But we also relish the idea of dinners with family and friends that other people prepare. The bathroom is a dangerous place in any home. Mixing up medications and slipping on wet floors are two common threats. Our concern was the accessible shower. We’d love to hear from you. Is it better to have the safety of a shower door with a handle for holding on, or just a shower curtain and no door in case someone needs to lend a hand with bathing in later years? What about the social scene? This we await with a mix of anticipation and trepidation. “Don’t make friends too rapidly,” was the experienced advice of a family member who previously made a similar move. But how delightful it was when on a recent visit to our prospective new home, residents greeted us warmly. We hope, among them, there will be ship captains, professors, and maybe an old doctor or two. Nietzsche, the German philosopher and keen observer of humankind, said, “In heaven, all the interesting people are missing.” Here’s hoping a few of them will be our new neighbours! Sign-up at www.docgiff.com to receive our weekly e-newsletter. For comments, contact-us@docgiff.com. Follow us Instagram @docgiff and @diana_gifford_jones

CLOSE SHAVE

By Dale Jodoin In the bustling city of Oshawa, there's a hidden gem that harks back to a different era: Bruno's Barber Shop. Bruno, the master behind the scissors, has been shaping the community's hair for 40 years, with 35 of those years spent running his own steadfast establishment. His shop isn't just a business; it's a sanctuary for preserving a fading tradition in our modern age. Bruno's place is authentic, unlike some modern shops that try to mimic the style of the 1920s and 1930s with retro decor. These newer places often miss the essence of what made those times special. They might have the look, with their shiny chrome and vintage posters, but they lack the soul. Bruno's, on the other hand, is the real deal. It's a genuine slice of history where every snip of the scissors and buzz of the clippers echoes a long-standing tradition of what a true barber shop should be. This article is asking why places like Bruno's are treasures. It's not just about nostalgia; it's about the loss of a cultural institution. The traditional barber shop was once a cornerstone of freedom and masculinity, a place where men could speak freely and bond over shared experiences. It's a place where boys learned from their elders, where stories and wisdom were as much a part of the experience as the haircut itself. But as times change, we're seeing these bastions of tradition disappearing. It's not just about losing a place to get a haircut; it's about losing the community and the sense of belonging that these spaces offer. Bruno's stands as a defiant reminder of these values, a place that refuses to be swept up in the relentless tides of change. The article would argue that we need to recognize and preserve these social havens. It would be a call to action to support local businesses like Bruno's that are keeping tradition alive. It would remind us that while the world may be moving forward, there's still immense value in looking back and holding onto the places that make us feel connected, grounded, and at home. Bruno's isn't just a relic; it's a living, breathing space where the past is honored, and the present can still experience the simple, unaltered joys of a classic barber shop experience.

The majority of job search advice is cookie-cutter, advice that is not new, just common sense.

By Nick Kossovan The majority of job search advice is cookie-cutter, advice that is not new, just common sense. · Always be networking. · Focus on your strengths. · Show interest in the job. · Before applying, research the company. · Continually improve your resume and LinkedIn profile. Despite following the advice of self-proclaimed job-hunting experts and career coaches, most job seekers struggle to find a job. Most advice does not get to the root of what it takes to succeed. Most people find hard truth advice, often a truism, uncomfortable; hence, they do not want to hear it. I am the opposite; I am grateful for advice that challenges my assumptions and reframes my thinking. More than once, someone's advice has exposed the limitations of my beliefs. Limiting beliefs are the most common obstacle to success. For example, many job seekers believe their age makes them unhireable; hence, they accuse employers of age discrimination, thereby giving themselves permission to believe their lack of job search success is not their fault rather than to analyze whether they are not being hired due to something they are doing or not doing. Consequently, job seekers who believe their age hinders them from being hired tend to gravitate towards advice that supports their belief. (e.g., Remove graduation dates from your resume and only include your last 15 years of work experience.) Most job search advice is syrupy, based on what the advisor thinks job seekers want to hear and therefore fails to address the harsh realities of job hunting or managing a career in a hyper-competitive workplace where everyone is battling to remain relevant. The best advice I ever received, advice that re-engineered my thinking regarding job hunting, as well as how to manage my career, was given to me during a heated exchange while living and working in Chandigarh, India, where I was overseeing a 150-seat call centre. Unexpectedly, the COO of the company called me from California to discuss a process improvement proposal I had made to the CEO, which he strongly disagreed with. A heated disagreement ensued. At the time, I was young and cocky, and I said it was up to the CEO, not him, whether to implement my suggestion. After a long pause, the COO said, "Nick, what other people think of you decides whether or not you move forward in this company." I thanked the COO, admittedly sarcastically, for his backhanded advice, which many would have interpreted as a warning, hung up, and leaned back in my chair. My mind kept replaying his words. Eventually, I realized that his advice was a truism that summed up what it takes to succeed not only in one's career but also in one's life. It takes multiple approvals to receive a job offer. What the person who reads your resume and LinkedIn profile thinks about your ability to do the job and possibly being a fit determines whether you are invited for an interview. You will likely be interviewed two or three times. Each time, your interviewer(s) will be judging you. Aside from dating, I cannot think of an activity in which you are subject to as much judgment (READ: scrutiny), whether on paper, your digital footprint and, of course, face-to-face, then while searching for a job. The COO's advice contradicted the cliche advice to "not worry about what other people think of you." The harsh truth: Nobody is entitled to employment, livelihood, or acceptance; they must be earned. The advice to not worry about what other people think of you is good advice if you are not dependent on other people's approval. However, job searching boils down to seeking approval, often from strangers, that you are worthy of joining their payroll, will fit the team and company culture and will be manageable. When you do not care what other people think about you—disregarding how you come across—you make it difficult for others, especially strangers, to judge you favourably. Therefore, the question: Should you be 100% yourself when searching for a job and managing your career? Not if it hinders you from being judged positively, that you are a professional who can be relied on. In an interview, you are judged based on: · what you are wearing · the words you use · your mannerisms and level of energy · your posture ... and much more. All this judgement happens after the employer has judged your resume, LinkedIn profile, and telephone screening interview to determine if you are face-to-face interview worthy. The hiring process is a judgement process. Keeping the COO's words, "what other people think of you decides whether or not you move forward," top of mind makes me mindful that how I present myself and how others experience me are determining factors in whether I am accepted. In other words, I am constantly reminding myself that I have a great deal of control over how people perceive and experience me, which you also have. If job seekers wish to experience more green lights throughout their job search, regardless of their age, they need to give more serious thought to how they present themselves to employers and hiring managers. _____________________________________________________________________ Nick Kossovan, a well-seasoned veteran of the corporate landscape, offers advice on searching for a job. You can send him your questions at artoffindingwork@gmail.com

LET’S STOP IMPORTING WAR

By Rosaldo Russo Allow me to begin this column by thanking the Oshawa/Central newspaper for allowing me the opportunity and access to the press. Not to many if any allow an average person like me to tell the world what I see and think. In my opinion. The Editor/Publisher is a real upstanding type of guy. He shoots from the hip and hold traditional core values. My name is Rosaldo Russo. I came to this great country to make a better life for myself and my family. I thank Canada for everything it has allowed me to do and earn. I worked construction all my life. I know the value of hard work and honesty. I remember as a boy my father always telling me to work hard and buy land. So I did. I remember days when I did not have enough to eat. I go to work... but I did not wait for hand outs. I rounded up my pride my skill and my determination to succeed and went to work. In those days the only benefits we received was the fact we were employed. Before retiring I was the owner and operator of local material supply company that allowed me to retired without worry. Now that I have time to enjoy life. I look around me and have some concern for future generations. I see that the world is finished. Excuse me. Is this still Canada? It appears through multiculturalism we appear to have become a heaven for all kinds of refugees. Refugees that come to Canada to continue the cause from here instead of living a good peaceful life. I could not stop shaking my head.... Last week local schools allowed students to cut class and hit the streets in Pro-Palestine demonstration of support. Really? Kids, mostly 16, 17. They are under age and under the supervision of the school. Educators according to news reports did nothing and could not prevent kids from leaving the schools. This is crazy talk. The educators are entrusted to be the parent during the times kids are forced to go to school. I say forced because they should not have any other choice. What can a 16, 17 year old know about war across the planet. What this tells me is that people with agenda have infiltrated our schools, fed our young minds with hate and organized them against another people. Now don’t get me wrong. I have nothing against the Palestine people or the Israeli. It’s their war not ours. The Palestinian one day decided to start firing rocket towards the Israeli and now they cry victim because the Israeli retaliate. I read another news report. Shots have been fired towards schools in Montreal. Really, what next bombings, kidnapping and beheading? You got to be kidding me this is Canada. I say, that we get tough. Anyone organizing against another people or nation should be expelled out of Canada without chance of return. I feel for the innocent people on both sides. They should not be subjected to violence and random attacks. Remember one thing. We are human first. Fanatics, second. I watched news reports of pick ups full of Hamas pulling up to Israeli neighbourhoods and shoot at anyone and everyone. We can’t allow this to happen to Canada. This is a national disgrace. Just this week. In another media report. In Montreal. A huge anti Israel. The reporter kept emphasizing that it was full of hate towards the Israeli. Where is the police rounding up these fundamentalists? Round them up and send them back to Palestine. We Canadian don’t want or need this impacting our society. We do not want to see the traditional terrorist head wear. We don’t want to see your hate. We want to go to work. Raise a family and contribute in a productive way. Remember why your homeland is a mess. We do not need or want that. Don’t you agree?

This Remembrance Day, it is time for reflection and action…

by Maj (ret'd) CORNELIU. CHISU, CD, PMSC, FEC, CET, P. Eng. Former Member of Parliament Pickering-Scarborough East As we are back to normal after COVID-19, it is time for Remembrance Day Services on November 11, 2023 to once again be what they were before the pandemic. As a nation, we must be united as never before, in remembering our veterans in the 11th hour of the 11th day of the 11th month. We must honor them just as we have done every other year before the arrival of the coronavirus pandemic and other politically correct issues. Canadians shouldn’t forget to show their respect for our veterans this year on November 11 as in times past. Wear a poppy with pride. The remembrance must go on as it went on more than hundred years ago to remember the heroes who made Canada a proud nation. Their endurance and sacrifices in face of the war, pandemic and other difficulties should be an example for our generation and generations to come, in preserving our national unity and identity. November 11th is a day to stand in silent reflection of so many other days that have come before it. It is a day that remembers those brave Canadians who consolidated our nation. At the 11th hour on the 11th day of the 11th month, more than a century ago when the guns of the Great War at last fell silent, the fury of conflict was replaced by a deafening silence. After more than four years of this intense conflict of country against country, human being against human being, we were faced with all we had done, all we had lost and all we had sacrificed as a nation. Despite detractors and those who would rewrite history today, in an attempt to minimize this important event for our nation, Canadians will stand strong in defending the sacrifices of their ancestors for a better, free and strong Canada for centuries to come. We need to remember the wise words of Nobel peace prize laureate and holocaust survivor Elie Wiesel: "Without memory, there is no culture. Without memory, there would be no civilization, no society, no future." Remembrance Day isn't just about war and those we've lost. It is also about ideals and what we stand for. It's about respecting our past and looking forward with hope, and more than anything, thanking those who have served our country, Canada, with pride and dedication. From the trenches of the First World War, to the Second World War and the Korean War, to the deserts of Afghanistan, years and generations have passed defending the beliefs and values that we as Canadians stand for. One hundred and three years ago, on the eleventh hour of the eleventh day of the eleventh month, the armistice between Britain, France, and Germany went into effect, bringing an end to the First World War. More than 625,000 Canadian men and women had served, 154,361 had been wounded and 61,082 had lost their lives—a full 10% of those who served our country, lost their lives for our freedom. The year 1918 and the end of the First World War—the origin of Remembrance Day—seem so very long ago in the context of many of our lives here today. But at the same time, the reality of war is only as far away as a veteran, a family member, friend or neighbour who has been touched by that war or those that have followed. Similarly, much of who and what we are as a nation, was defined by war. And so today, we take the time to reflect, remember and honour those who fought for our freedom in the First World War, the Second World War, the Korean War, Peacekeeping operations and the recent war in Afghanistan. We also remember those who stayed in Canada, and served on home soil in supporting the war efforts. On this day we remember the brave members of our Canadian Armed Forces who left behind what they loved and lived for to carry out their job with purpose and pride. It’s a feeling many of us will never have to experience. As husbands and wives, sons and daughters, fathers and mothers, and brothers and sisters, these brave citizens are certainly not faceless. They are friends and neighbours. They have dreams and goals. And they have plans for the future. That’s why it’s important that Remembrance Day has become such a significant part of Canadian culture and will continue to be. Over the course of November 11, communities across our great country will gather around cenotaphs and war memorials to honour our men and women in uniform and the sacrifices they have made and will continue to make for this great country. We are not celebrating war; we are celebrating freedom and nationhood thanks to those who made the ultimate sacrifice for us and future generations of Canadians. We pause to reflect on those who have, indeed, made the ultimate sacrifice. They put themselves on the line out of a sense of duty, to defend our freedom, human rights, democracy and the rule of law. Their unwavering bravery has made all Canadians proud. That these brave citizens would put themselves on the line to defend freedom, human rights, democracy and the rule of law is most honourable. We owe them a debt of gratitude the rest of us can never repay. Let us also remember in these difficult times the words of John F. Kennedy: “ Let every nation know, whether it wishes us well or ill, we shall pay any price, bear any burden, meet any hardship, support any friend, oppose any foe, to assure the survival and success of liberty.” The least we can do is to come together to show our respect during a moment of silence, to think of them, the risks they took, and their sacrifices. We’ll forever remember, never forget. Lest we forget!

Remembrance day - more than words

Remembrance day is upon us. A date that is respectfully celebrated in remembrance of those fallen, those serving to protect our way of life, our rights and freedoms. A time that many don’t fully understand and at times hypocritically show up for the wrong reason. I say this with such liberty as in today confused modern society as many of us don’t fully understand the intent of the sacrifices made by those before us. Take for example the literal meaning and interpretations of Freedom, Rights, Choice. Freedom is for all. To do as one pleases within law. Within reason and in the spirit of civil responsibility. Rights are for all to enjoy as we execute our many freedoms. Those before us knew the importance of these two words. They knew the important of have choice and not fear persecution. As with anything in our modern lives. Rights and Freedoms are not always understood and many select to interpret it in what ever way is best suited for them. This brings to life prejudice. I do not so much mean the color of your skin. But prejudice of association, point of view and or compliance to agenda. As an elected political I can tell you first hand how our rights and freedoms are controlled and restricted. This impacting our choices. I was elected to serve the people of PIckering. Bylaw, regulation and policy set forth in the name of fairness and civility of the process is also use as a tool of conformity. A tool to oppress and take away the rights and freedom of which those before us sacrificed to assure we all enjoy. Case in point just recently, I have had my pay taken away for 3 months for speaking my mind. Policy, bylaw, procedure allows the City to in part take away my right and freedom. I sometimes feel as a victim of the system. A system that is set to control my rights and freedoms as a human being, as a politician. But most importantly as a human being. Policy makers, politician are quick to show up at remembrance day events and get all patriotic. In some cases hypocritically for the wrong reason as they openly practice through policy and practice restrictive measures that go against the sacrifices made by those before us. I much like those fallen in the past. I stand for rights and freedoms for all. I support our forces and all the services pertaining to the same. I will never be compromised and or silent to protect any agenda. God Speed.